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How to attract men without looking desperate

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Topic: How to attract men without looking desperate (Read 10172 times)
dejiroony (351)
2 years ago

Crushes are quite a big part of our life. So what do you do once you have a crush on someone? Some girls may be satisfied with simply gazing hopefully, longingly and happily at their crush and not going anywhere near them for fear of being humiliated, but other girls might want to really get out there and impress this special guy. However, that's not always easy.

Things you should know:

Being desperate doesn’t attract men

Desperation stems from feeling out of control in a situation, and is comes from the panic you feel when you put too much importance on finding a man.
The trick to attracting men is to make sure you value all the other areas of your life (for example your job, your family, your friends, your hobbies, etc) just as highly as you value having a man in your life.

Keeping an equal weighting on every area makes you a more interesting person and a better conversationalist. It will make you feel more confident about yourself and more laid back in social situations which is attractive to any man!

When women feel desperate, they do this…!

Many women who come across to men as being desperate have a tendency to approach a man or walk into a relationship thinking 6 months ahead. Unfortunately men can sense this expectation a mile away and it terrifies them! What men want isn’t the same as women, so you need to understand their needs from an emotional standpoint.

When thinking about how to attract men.

When thinking about how to attract men, don’t forget that they do not want to feel like your happiness lies in their hands or that you are living your life through them.
Take pro-active steps towards your own projects on a daily basis which will help you not to panic about the future and keep the feeling of being in control.

We’ve interviewed many men on what women do that makes them look desperate when they are out and why that is such a turn off. You may already be aware of a number of these, but it doesn’t hurt to be reminded of them!

When you are around men

Firstly, when you’re out with your friends do not laugh excessively at every joke men make, dance too sexily or get too drunk!
You don’t want to look like you are trying too hard to impress!

Secondly, When you are talking to a man stay calm and don’t feel the need to talk too much. There is no need to iron out the awkward silences, as there is nothing wrong with conversational pauses so let the lulls occur and give him time to think.

Also, take care not get caught talking about your past relationships (this is where staying sober can help)!
The quickest solution to finding a man really is to focus on handling the other areas of your life and having a lifestyle that you really enjoy. When you do this, you’ put yourself in control of your own happiness and will effortlessly attract great men into your life. Great men that take pleasure in your happiness.

2 May 12, 03:00 PM
omomarty (6242)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 03:09 PM
solony (44)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 04:01 PM
malvin2525 (5160)
2 years ago


2 May 12, 04:01 PM
watnico (114)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 04:11 PM
oyiwikili (13)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 05:08 PM
Beauti4 (8222)
2 years ago

The first one When You Are Around Men don't make any sense. Unless this is for first date. I have never dated men that are not funny. And blve me. men love when you laugh....but they do know when you are faking the laff. There is a big diff btwn fake laugh and pure-true laughter. So my dear this I disagree with you.

In other words, we need to b in control of ourselves when laughing around people. The entire village must not know that we are enjoying some babes joke.

2 May 12, 05:18 PM
mizcollins1 (6453)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 05:35 PM
popdes (306)
2 years ago


2 May 12, 06:24 PM
rolifaith (680)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 07:01 PM
BendelArmedRobb (3205)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 08:27 PM
mallorca (20811)
2 years ago

Quote from: omomarty on  2 May 12, 03:09 PM
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2 May 12, 08:32 PM
lee22 (2934)
2 years ago

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2 May 12, 09:02 PM
Solidstonez (37409)
2 years ago


2 May 12, 09:40 PM
Princestevo (828)
2 years ago

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3 May 12, 10:53 AM
mizcollins1 (6453)
2 years ago

Quote from: Princestevo on  3 May 12, 10:53 AM
All ladies are cheap even if she knows every every she still be mugu Cool

3 May 12, 10:57 AM
chinoglo2002 (9)
2 years ago

Quote from: Princestevo on  3 May 12, 10:53 AM
All ladies are cheap even if she knows every every she still be mugu Cool
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3 May 12, 11:13 AM
Idbabe (8105)
2 years ago

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3 May 12, 11:57 AM
Shydaimma (8400)
2 years ago

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3 May 12, 12:19 PM
patienceudosen (807)
2 years ago

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3 May 12, 12:21 PM
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