Reply #40 by CARE1
on: 4 Mar 10, 03:00 PM (5 years ago) Newbie (m)
Dont border about that,you are still a human being,i have a brother who want somebody like you, contact me [email protected] thanks you dont need to hang your self.
Reply #41 by usorohdeprince
on: 5 Mar 10, 03:26 PM (5 years ago) Newbie (m)
Dis woman no get problem at all, dis wan na jus complain. D solution to the complain na make she go do plastic surgery like MJ, but if she no get money make she go die since she no fit live the way she dey.
Reply #42 by kajola
on: 6 Mar 10, 06:40 AM (5 years ago) Newbie (m)
obesity should not be the criteria for a person with right state of mind to condenm her destiny,her race and all she represents. I think a counsellor should be attached to this troubled woman to re instate her self worth
Reply #43 by Tszy
on: 6 Mar 10, 08:01 AM (5 years ago) Gistmaniac (m)
Eya !! I weep for you, try lying under a train it wud put an end to ur sorrow
Reply #44 by Stateboy
on: 6 Mar 10, 09:52 PM (5 years ago) Newbie (m)
How much she fit pay me make i marry her?
Reply #45 by Vixenx
on: 7 Mar 10, 07:30 AM (5 years ago) Addicted Hero (f)
This woman tells why she hates being Black. So sad.
I am writing to you because I am at my wits end but I don’t even know if there is anything you can do to help me. I am a 38 year old, university educated, extremely overweight Black woman on the wrong side of the paper bag shade – much, much darker than the paper bag. I have tried every diet known to man in an attempt to lose weight but to no avail – in fact the older I get the more weight I gain. I have also tried skin bleaching and skin lightening creams on my face and my entire body but I gave up eventually because they are very time consuming – it takes a lot of time to administer all over the body. I don’t use them anymore. I hold down a full time job in a good, proffesional career and I am well remunerated. I do believe that I am witty, funny, intelligent and quite sociable and yet I am very much a single woman and have not been in a relationship for the last five years as no man would even look at me and the non-physical qualities I could offer – it’s all visual and physical with men: they all want the light skinned Halle Berry or Beyonce type. As for marriage – forget it, I have no chance. If slim light-skinned Black women in their late twenties and early thirties can’t find husbands then what chance is there for me?
I have come to the conclusion that I will very likely remain overweight, unmarried and childless for the rest of my days and I blame it on the fact that I am Black. I do believe that Black women (especially those of West African descent as opposed to those of East African descent who naturally tend to have a taller, slimmer and lighter frame) do have a natural predisposition towards obesity and so it is not their fault that they are overweight.
African American and Black British women are predominantly of West African descent – I don’t need to go over the history of the Slave Trade. We are constantly being criticised for being overweight but nobody ever considers the biological factors that cause our obesity in the first place. Of course we must watch our diet and do regular exercise but there’s no escaping the fact that Black women do have a natural predisposition towards obesity and this is embedded in our DNA thus putting us at a disadvantage when seeking a mate or spouse within the marriage market. Combine my being overweight with the fact that I am very dark skinned and have very short hair that just simply will not grow, much less reach anywhere near my shoulders, then you have an idea of what I am up against.
All these “natural disadvantages” have started to get me down and I have really grown to hate the fact that I am a Black Woman. Yes, there I said it: I HATE BEING A BLACK WOMAN. I hate having hair that will not grow just like it does for White, Latina, and Asian girls. You may think it is trivial but these things really matter when looking for a mate, as men of all races are naturally drawn to women with a lot of hair on their head – so it does matter. (Yes, I have tried the weaves and wigs and they look plain horrible and fake, not to mention they cost too much money and time. The only peeople who can afford to have and maintain really good looking weaves and wigs on an ongoing basis are the super-rich like Beyonce or Janet Jackson). I hate being so dark skinned in a world where light skinned is prized so highly. At least overweight, light-skinned Black women have their light skin to fall back on – I have no such luxury, but most of all – I HATE BEING FAT, which I repeat, is caused by being Black.
You may argue and say that obesity has no biological link to being Black but I would beg to differ. I find it to be too much of a coincidence that the highest rates of obesity just so happen to be within the Black female population – both in the USA and the UK. That tells me there is a biological link to all this. This is what has caused me to hate being Black more than anything else – I am fat because I am Black.
Call me a self hater if you want, but there is no denying the bitter truth. I put on a brave, smiling face as I face the world and go about my daily business but on the inside I am overwhelmed with the hopelessness and despair of my situation.
Frustrated Black Female
The diary of a mad black woman.
Reply #46 by Hearthrob
on: 8 Mar 10, 01:46 PM (5 years ago) Upcoming (f)
Reply #47 by GullahGeeche
on: 5 Oct 11, 09:37 PM (4 years ago) Upcoming (f)
O.K. I feel ya! I am of the same African Heritage as you. It is a fact the American/Western diet does not work well with the African or Latina/Latino body. Concerning self image:
It doesn't help that they are always showing skinny Caucasian girls with long flowing hair as the icon of beauty. If you will notice it is not just a black thing
. When Latinos come to America they start to swell too. Diet:
When I travel to West Africa for just a few months I lose weight. Even though I eat almost the same things. I believe it is because I drink more water when I am there and I sweat. The chemicals they use to make and grow the food in America also plays a great part. Try drinking more water and eating more fruits and veggies. If you are doing these things try eating organic foods and food that has not been treated with fertilizers and growth hormones. Also, TURN OFF THE AC in your car, house, everywhere. SWEAT A LITTLE! Appearance:
I know you want to look beautiful on the outside. It can be hard to do that on a budget. It is also hard to find affordable clothing that fits our curves and behinds but I wouldn't trade my booty for a flat behind anyday. Neither would they. That is why so many of them are purchasing padded behindocks.
Concerning dark skin:
Girl, what is wrong with you? You should know more than anyone else that black comes in all shades of beautiful! Stay away from the bleach. If you are toning up a major skin discoloration or scar that is one thing. Otherwise stay away.
If you can't find out how to make short hair look good, check out some YOUTUBE videos. Natural hair is in and will always be in! If money is an issue visit the beauty schools and get your hair done (HAIR DID..LOL.) for a fraction of the cost. Final
, get a Spirit, mind and emotions make over! Girl, you are worried about your exterior but it sounds like it is your inner man that is in need of the REAL MAKEOVER.Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Reply #48 by alelove
on: 13 Jan 12, 12:33 AM (3 years ago) Upcoming (f)
Reply #49 by angesco
on: 1 Jul 12, 02:24 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
I do not believe this was written by a black woman.
It is more likely written by someone (not an African) trying to stir up sentiments and get real black people offended.
This same person will then go on to collect these comments made on Naijapals and use them to conduct a study.
It has happened before.
The title of his "find" will most probably be, "The Thinking of Black People." A 10 Year Study Across the Continent.
So beware of your comments here.
Reply #50 by mallorca
on: 1 Jul 12, 02:36 PM (3 years ago) Addicted Hero (m)
Reply #51 by kethey
on: 1 Jul 12, 03:25 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
Miss black woman. Black is beautiful. The whites saw dat we africans have natural hips, Bosom n backyard, while there's re so flat, so dey all started going 4 plastic surgery... They envy blacks. I love my skin n am proud to b a black lady... B proud of who u are n people would respect u
Reply #52 by kethey
on: 1 Jul 12, 03:27 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
Miss black woman. Black is beautiful. The whites saw dat we africans have natural hips, Bosom n backyard, while there's re so flat, so dey all started going 4 plastic surgery, which is expensive... They envy blacks... They even tan there skin, n wat 2 b dark... I love my skin n am proud to b a black lady... B proud of who u are n people would respect u 4 who u are
Reply #53 by dirtykid
on: 1 Jul 12, 04:40 PM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Whosoever know the lady should direct her to my office ASAP !! I guarantee her that after 8weeks she will start loving herself more as long as she will stick to the plan and do all i ask her to do.
Reply #54 by mizcollins1
on: 1 Jul 12, 05:07 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
Reply #55 by kethey
on: 1 Jul 12, 05:19 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
Haahahaha! @dirtykid, u've not stopped this naughtiness of urs?
Reply #56 by kebella
on: 1 Jul 12, 05:19 PM (3 years ago) Addicted Hero (f)
not interested in d details....jst let her kill herself.
Reply #57 by dirtykid
on: 1 Jul 12, 05:31 PM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Haahahaha! @dirtykid, u've not stopped this naughtiness of urs?
Reply #58 by kethey
on: 1 Jul 12, 05:38 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
Dirty dirty dirty boy...ave missed u guys alot... Pls av u seen Mywilliesweet in a while?
Reply #59 by FlyMamacita
on: 1 Jul 12, 06:37 PM (3 years ago) Addicted Hero (f)
Didn read d whole tin, but why u wan b white when u no even knw how e be ??