Am Married & Having a Crush On Another

I'm a female, 28 years old. My Husband is a little older than me, 32, and we are married for 3-4 years now;dated for 2 years before that. I don't really have any major complaints with my husband, just the usual marital ups-downs. I started Post graduate school in 2011 and most of my classes involve group work. We are usually assigned to groups by professors and some professors allow us to choose our group members. So I happened to know this guy. There were no feelings in the first semester and we were all getting to know each other. Now, since the beginning of this semester, Jan 2012, I've realized that I'm a little attracted to this guy.

This guy is actually younger to me(27 years old), of a different ethnicity, of a different religion and yet I feel a strong connection. He seems to have a lot of principles, my husband does too, but I've not met too many men with principles. He does not behave his age, he actually acts older like may be a 30 year old or something. I'm so attracted that I've actually started dressing - up for my classes, which I never did in my first semester. I look forward to seeing him, to talking to him and just being with him. We usually only discuss classes/study. He knows i'm married and we both never hang out or something(this is because of lack of time and if he would invite me to hang out, i might end up going!!). I feel so sad to say this but I'm even segxwally attracted to him to a small extent. This guy is not the drop-dead good looking guy, his looks are not even average. I shoudn't say this but I want to mention it to let you all know that my attraction is not just physical. We had a  break 2 weeks ago and not seeing him for 2 weeks is killing me.

I am a very self controlled and disciplined person myself and I'm feeling so silly and small to know that I have this issue. I've never ever found any guy more attractive than my husband.I will be gradauting in december and that thought is scarying me because i won't be able to see this guy. I feel I'm acting like a teenager

What's going on here with me? I don't even want advice like "stay away"etc because I know that's what I should be doing anyway. I am aware that this is totally wrong and immoral of me. I feel guilty but the excitement is also addictive. May be there are issues in my marriage that need to be fixed, but I seriosuly don't even think about my marriage these days. All on my mind is : my classes, exams, this guy, dressing - up, talking to him and being together.

P.S.: I feel so bad admitting to this. .. I need ur advices..

Matured comments please

u saw a guy nd u fall in luv nd u are tinking he has no girl lover a guy dat is dat actrative u tink is actration won't call orda girls atention o my dear friend why not hold d one u hav wit u nd not 2 lose allform try 2 control ur self dat guy might be another girl property but if u insist den i rest my caes

Things like dis happen around us, bt we shld b concern of one tin; dat is am i pleasing God? D only way out is d love and fear of God. U most understand dat there is no perfect man. U tink he's making u happy bt wit time u wil knw he's nt bcos it wil harm ur marriage. If u appreciate ur marriage, dt jt sit and wait on what u wil get 4rm it, also tink of wat u can give 2 it. In conclusion u and ur husband shld b close 2 God. God gaurd ur marriage.

I'm a female, 28 years old. My Husband is a little older than me, 32, and we are married for 3-4 years now;dated for 2 years before that. I don't really have any major complaints with my husband, just the usual marital ups-downs. I started Post graduate school in 2011 and most of my classes involve group work. We are usually assigned to groups by professors and some professors allow us to choose our group members. So I happened to know this guy. There were no feelings in the first semester and we were all getting to know each other. Now, since the beginning of this semester, Jan 2012, I've realized that I'm a little attracted to this guy.

This guy is actually younger to me(27 years old), of a different ethnicity, of a different religion and yet I feel a strong connection. He seems to have a lot of principles, my husband does too, but I've not met too many men with principles. He does not behave his age, he actually acts older like may be a 30 year old or something. I'm so attracted that I've actually started dressing - up for my classes, which I never did in my first semester. I look forward to seeing him, to talking to him and just being with him. We usually only discuss classes/study. He knows i'm married and we both never hang out or something(this is because of lack of time and if he would invite me to hang out, i might end up going!!). I feel so sad to say this but I'm even segxwally attracted to him to a small extent. This guy is not the drop-dead good looking guy, his looks are not even average. I shoudn't say this but I want to mention it to let you all know that my attraction is not just physical. We had a  break 2 weeks ago and not seeing him for 2 weeks is killing me.

I am a very self controlled and disciplined person myself and I'm feeling so silly and small to know that I have this issue. I've never ever found any guy more attractive than my husband.I will be gradauting in december and that thought is scarying me because i won't be able to see this guy. I feel I'm acting like a teenager

What's going on here with me? I don't even want advice like " stay away" etc because I know that's what I should be doing anyway. I am aware that this is totally wrong and immoral of me. I feel guilty but the excitement is also addictive. May be there are issues in my marriage that need to be fixed, but I seriosuly don't even think about my marriage these days. All on my mind is : my classes, exams, this guy, dressing - up, talking to him and being together.

P.S.: I feel so bad admitting to this. .. I need ur advices..

Matured comments please

The only thing i will say is that any married woman that behaves this way is not matured enough to be married and does not deserve to be married.Marriage is sacred.If you are a married man or woman,and u look at another man lustfully,you hve already committed the adultery with ur mind.And if u eventually allow ur devilish mind to deceive u by hanging out with this guy,u will eventually end up having sex with him and believe me,if u mistakenly do it once,it will continue until ur husband finds out and throw u out of the marriage and in a disgraceful way.Pls ask God for forgiveness for ever thinking such in ur mind.All that glitters is not gold.That attraction is evil and if u eventually lead the guy to fcuk u,u hve put upon ur self a course and also a course on the guy.Stay clear from this guy and begin to love and appreciate ur husband bcos he is ur second god after the almighty God.

is just a matter of sitting down and reflecting back on your life.think what are you doing? don't allow your husband to have the second thought of allowing back to school. do you think his friends have not been making jest of him for allowing you to further in your education? he had confidence in you, he loves you, and above all have that trust in you.resit this temptation. remember what the bible says, 'resit the devil and he will flee'.the same bible dat says " a wise woman buildeth her home but the follish ones distroyth it with her own hands" my dear,the future of your home is in your hands.can i ask you a question? DO YOU PRAY AND READ YOUR BIBLE AS IT HAS TO BE? y not fill your tought with the good times you shared with your family,and also pray to God to guild your thoughts.my mum always says, what is good needs prayers and what is also bad needs prayers.always call yor family,talk to your kids even at nights, make them your screen saver, talk about them even with guy and am sure this will work like magic.i wish you all the best in your acedemics and in your marriage.
Good luck