Old-Fashioned Dating Rules That Still Apply. by sophiebaby
on: 28 Dec 12, 09:54 AM (3 years ago) Addicted Hero (f)
Preparing for a Date
Always Look Your Best
Attraction is very primal. We're attracted to "good looks." That said, You never know when you may meet that special someone at the supermarket, or gas station, or on the street. If you always look your best, you'll always stand the best chance to secure a date. Confidence Is Sexy Men love a woman with confidence. Be sure to smile, keep your back straight, listen attentively, walk with your shoulders back and speak slowly. This will make you seem confident, even if you are quivering with nervousness inside. Bad Breath Kills Nothing kills chances of a kiss or a second date like bad breath. If your breathy conversation has been malodorous, chances are your date will likely extend you a hand at the end of the date. Visit the dentist regularly, practice healthy brushing habits at home and always carry mints!
During the Date
We Show Our Respect With Our Time
If he's 5-10 minutes late, he may be pulling a Diddy and he's trying to make an entrance. However, 10 minutes plus, with no phone call, is simply rude. Multiple incidents like this show you exactly what how much respect he has for your time. Gentlemen Offer To Pay This rule will be debated for the next 1000 years and for the next 1000 years, the answer will be the same. If he's a gentleman, he'll offer to pay on the first date (regardless of who asks). If he doesn't, it doesn't mean he's a bad guy but it does mean his chivalry skills are lacking. Good Manners Are Telling We should all know that the good manners of saying "please" and "thank you" never ever goes out of style, especially on a date. Body Language Says More Avoid fidgeting with your hair or clothes; this signals insecurity. Remember that only 1/3 of communication is about the words you speak. Don't Offer Too Much Info Too Early
People like people they can't figure out in one evening. Don't divulge too much and keep your dates short. Short dates will keep him longing for more. Honesty Is The Best Policy Drama is avoided when we tell the truth. There must be a balance you strike with this rule and the former (because omitting the truth is also lying). No "Your Momma" Talk Avoid criticizing his mom (or yours). This will cause anyone to become defensive (or view you as not being family oriented - which is popular non-negotiable). Be A Lady Even if you can fart Amazing Grace without missing a beat, avoid boasting about this on your first date. Even if he is crass with his boys, he will find vulgarity unappealing in the woman he is dating.
Keeping in Touch
Phone Calls Win Modern technology has provided a million and one ways to contact potential dates - email, text, Facebook message, and tweet to name a few. No matter how far technology advances, the phone call will always best way to connect (aside from in-person). All methods other than phone are simply not as brave, direct, or clear. Ain't Nothin' Open After Midnight 'Cept Legs Don't accept requests for late meetings with your new guy. If he has respect for you and your time, he will make plans for a more decent dating hour. Otherwise, beware that he's only looking for a Donk call. Know When It's On To The Next One Don't make excuses if he doesn't call after the first date. He's not interested. Move on. Creating a fantasy is a waste of time.
Things to Keep In Mind
A Man Without A Plan Isn't Ready For You
If you find yourself having the "what do you want to do tonight" conversation on the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd dates, chances are he's just not that into you. Why Buy The Cow When You Can Get The Milk For Free?
Don't rush sexual intimacy. Early sex is one sure-fire way to ruin a relationship. Make him prove his love for you before you get intimate. This rule is gospel! It's What He Does Not What He Says Actions speak louder than words... PERIOD! Unveiling Vulnerability = Love
When they show you they are vulnerable, that's when they show you they're in love. He has let his guard down to let you in. You Will Kiss a Few Frogs Before You Meet Your Prince
Do not be discouraged when it seems that that your dates never lead to anything meaningful. That's what dating is about -- going out with new people to get to know more about your likes, deal breakers and to get better at your own social skills. Your prince is out there!
Reply #1 by vimak
on: 28 Dec 12, 10:33 AM (3 years ago) Upcoming (m)
sophiebaby, the lecturer.
Reply #2 by winace
on: 28 Dec 12, 11:39 AM (3 years ago) Addicted Hero (f)
Thank u old sckool Sophie
Reply #3 by Theswaggerman
on: 28 Dec 12, 02:11 PM (3 years ago) Upcoming (m)
Reply #4 by paulohking
on: 28 Dec 12, 02:23 PM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Reply #5 by mary11
on: 28 Dec 12, 02:30 PM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Things dey change
We human being change too
Reply #6 by exever100
on: 28 Dec 12, 03:34 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
nice....u r too clever,how do u manage to know all dis?
Reply #7 by jamesbondchick
on: 28 Dec 12, 04:49 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (f)
Nice one sophie,really nice! This is the first time your love posts did not irritate me
Reply #8 by stikerxxx
on: 28 Dec 12, 04:52 PM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (m)
Reply #9 by PidginMOUTH
on: 28 Dec 12, 06:16 PM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Reply #10 by KingPharoah
on: 28 Dec 12, 06:25 PM (3 years ago) Upcoming (m)
my dear, she nor know nuffin,all na copy & paste abeg!You wey know something, why u never copy & paste ur own @ least for once? durin duniya
Reply #11 by 1mosh1
on: 28 Dec 12, 06:43 PM (3 years ago) Newbie (m)
Not all guys act alike,but its an impressive post.i like it
Reply #12 by Julib4sure
on: 28 Dec 12, 07:23 PM (3 years ago) Newbie (f)
I hear u girl! nice post.
Reply #13 by Senegal
on: 28 Dec 12, 08:56 PM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Reply #14 by zoe61
on: 28 Dec 12, 11:16 PM (3 years ago) Hero (f)
the old sckool thing is not bad, compliment of the season babe girl@Sophiebaby
Reply #15 by owlwhy
on: 28 Dec 12, 11:33 PM (3 years ago) Upcoming (m)
Principles are eternal, stick to it, dont date if u are not ready to get married, u will only ruin ur destiny.
Reply #16 by Lekan22
on: 29 Dec 12, 05:41 AM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (m)
Reply #17 by aso4life1
on: 29 Dec 12, 05:58 AM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
Reply #18 by Noble12
on: 29 Dec 12, 07:51 AM (3 years ago) Gistmaniac (m)
Reply #19 by Nicksam
on: 29 Dec 12, 08:54 AM (3 years ago) Hero (m)
NICE FROM YOU BABY GIRL
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