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I love my girlfriend but she's got too many problems for me to deal with?

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Topic: I love my girlfriend but she's got too many problems for me to deal with? (Read 11922 times)
kollyditunu (3)
Newbie (m) | 1 year ago

My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 1 year and a half now and we have never stopped loving each other and we are in our early 20's but she's got some major issues which i'm scared might lead to me leaving her some day.



She has had some family issues in the past and has faced lot of problems and pains in life and is still facing them while i have been lucky not to have gone through so much pain and problems in life so you will understand why i dont know how to handle her situation..but the thing is she is letting her problems get in the way of our relationship.Here are some things she's been doing a lot the past couple of months and sometimes i get angry rather than console her or even shout at her
1) She almost always depressed and worries too much.Always keeps reminding herself of all the bad things she has gone through in life
2) She's too emotional..she cries way too much and it pisses me off...these days i don't console her anymore,i just get angry and i show it
3) She falls sick almost every week and i feel like she exaggerates it sometimes and at some point i stopped caring too much..cos i've spent too much money on drugs already..she's already shivering at the slightest cold or rolling on the floor crying when she has a headache or her usual stomach ulcer.
4) she's too negative and complains a lot about everything and waits for me to tell her what to do and how to do it...sometimes i feel like i'm dating a baby
5) She's too clingy,always wants me to be around her,hardly gives me space,even when i tell her i need space and i go to my own house,she is calling me all the time,always wants to talk to me.
So this are the major problems i am facing with my girlfriend and i'm scared that if she continues this way i might just call it quit..every other thing is great...i love her so much and i'm scared of losing her..thats why i hope you guys can offer me and her a solution..thanks."


27 Jan 13, 09:09 PM
ela214 (3042)
Gistmaniac (f) | 1 year ago

1.try to be more romantic n caring more by she dose those tins becus she feels u don´t care enough.
2.try to talk to her n tell her u are always there 4 her-----women like to hear how much u care n love them always.
3.ask her if there´s anytin u do that she dosen´nt like ,when she says her´s,that is an oppurtunity to say ur´s.
4.snice u say u love her so much,n know dat she has faced a lot of things in life take it easy n make more of a friend.
GUDLUCK

27 Jan 13, 09:26 PM
destinlily (371)
Upcoming (m) | 1 year ago

u love her so much and u cant leave her good, so why the complain? die 4 ur love, u are not first romeo..

27 Jan 13, 09:45 PM
paulohking (10153)
Hero (m) | 1 year ago

Man, that  4 and 5 are what I'm facing too, calls like we just started, and there's no other words than " I'm missing u"  Angry

27 Jan 13, 10:32 PM
steveoneal (2627)
Gistmaniac (m) | 1 year ago

are these what you called problems,,, im indeed sorry for you,, if you cant be there for her at the trying times, what are you still doing with her,, then dump her, and go for a mature lady that wont act like a baby, and that would still be bold enough to cheat on you and still yell at you,,,  arrant nonsense,,

27 Jan 13, 10:34 PM
alexomo (2)
Newbie (m) | 1 year ago

I have passed through something like this before, so I perfectly understand. This is where true love is tested, not when all things are cossy. If you truly love her, stand by her, help her to the best of your ability, correct her where she makes the mistakes you just pointed out, pick up her slacks, put your self in her shoes, it's not easy to be her right now.


27 Jan 13, 10:43 PM
beneno (8527)
Hero (m) | 1 year ago

continue some more GOD will make a way ,:Smiley  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes

27 Jan 13, 11:03 PM
osamabinladin (13449)
Hero (m) | 1 year ago

Love matter ! passing with keke napep .

27 Jan 13, 11:41 PM
gbojac (2335)
Gistmaniac (m) | 1 year ago

U better face it now and be a man. Imagine! you have a daughter just like her with the same winging. What do u mean by "get in the way of our relationship". Is your relationship based on smiling or laughing all the time? She need you but, your love for her is fading away because u are not longer happy. To conclude u r both unhappy and u need to shower her with ur problems.    

27 Jan 13, 11:42 PM
HOPEA23 (21969)
Addicted Hero (f) | 1 year ago

Na she be that one u dey hold for your pix so?
1) I thinks she needs to see a therapy  or something that can help out or better still she needs to grow up and stop acting like a weak woman...if what u said here is true..
Is she a sickle or something ..this one u are spending so much money on her for just medication is a lot...well Man U know what you wants or needs..follow your what your brain tells u not heart...,hope u feel me..
She is not your wife...if she was I would have advice you to face it but since she is not ...u know your next step...you both needs time out tho


27 Jan 13, 11:46 PM
trapheal (1561)
Gistmaniac (m) | 1 year ago

Ok

27 Jan 13, 11:58 PM
Chericoco (607)
Upcoming (f) | 1 year ago

This is kind of tough. I think you should listen to your self and not getting opinions from pals. You're the one dealing with the situation and knows how it feels. I wouldn't want to live with such a person with so much baggage. When you guys move in together it is going to be a nightmare for you base to what you mentioned.

28 Jan 13, 12:49 AM
aso4life1 (11643)
Hero (m) | 1 year ago

This is not what I call problem Mr. Romeo


28 Jan 13, 01:03 AM
love_life (171)
Upcoming (m) | 1 year ago

is this what u called problems? i tell u if u allow that kind girl to enter my hand eh, i bet u she no go remember u for her life again. u better guide her jealously now, but wait o, did u say she usually fall sick? o boy u better go lab o. because me i no understand that kind sickness.

28 Jan 13, 01:12 AM
etibaba (4197)
Gistmaniac (m) | 1 year ago

Quote from: HOPEA23 on 27 Jan 13, 11:46 PM
Na she be that one u dey hold for your pix so?
1) I thinks she needs to see a therapy  or something that can help out or better still she needs to grow up and stop acting like a weak woman...if what u said here is true..
Is she a sickle or something ..this one u are spending so much money on her for just medication is a lot...well Man U know what you wants or needs..follow your what your brain tells u not heart...,hope u feel me..
She is not your wife...if she was I would have advice you to face it but since she is not ...u know your next step...you both needs time out tho



28 Jan 13, 01:53 AM
ezchusa (3796)
Gistmaniac (m) | 1 year ago

Hmmm!


28 Jan 13, 04:28 AM
ezchusa (3796)
Gistmaniac (m) | 1 year ago

Hmmm!


28 Jan 13, 04:28 AM
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28 Jan 13, 05:57 AM
dlimelite (14205)
Hero (f) | 1 year ago

Well, if all these problems & feelings are really bothering you, then it's best to talk to your gf herself and let her know what's on your mind & how you feel about these problems In a relationship, you're not always gonna gave good days with smiles & laughter. There'll be days that you need to "communicate" with each other, share thoughts & feelings in certain situations. The first 2 are somewhat linked together. Depressed=Worry=Cry. When youre depressed/sad, thinking & worrying about something, you're gonna be emotional about it and for most they end up crying. If your gf is being depressed all the time you should comfort her. Be by her side so she knows youre there for her, encourage her with positive words on the particular issue she's depressed on such as "Thats the past you have to let go, but our future will be brighter etc." If your gf is being sick all the time (esp the way you described it) then she may need to visit a  doc. 5. That's natural. Thats how you know you're in love. You'll wanna be with that person all the time. You should be happy she wants to be with you & not another man. Continue loving her the same so she knows you love her as much. Overall, if you want your relationship to change, talk to her. In a marriage you'll eventually have to communicate with each other; when things are rough between both of you, or a partner may have problems he/she needs to share to the other. Becuz right now she doesn't know you feel this way.

28 Jan 13, 06:11 AM
oludimuni (589)
Upcoming (m) | 1 year ago

Keep her - love her , someone has to be there for her.

At this moment - she is passing through - get her a counselor -let her go through rehab.

In all, stay with her - if you leave her God will send her way someone to continue the job.

28 Jan 13, 06:35 AM


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