My Husband Is Into Women And Does Not Respect Me- Female Reader

Date: 07-06-2013 10:36 pm (10 years ago) | Author: opemipo adeniyi
- at 7-06-2013 10:36 PM (10 years ago)
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Hello Ladun,
 
I met this my husband in a fast food joint some years back, and while we were dating i never knew him to be into women before we married. We had some hiccups as in the family members including the mum did not like me as such. But we went on to fix date and got knot up. My dear after marriage, a week after, women started calling him, and at one point i decided to hide my number to call one of them, and found out that, he was into women a lot.
 
So this now became so pronounced that most times, he does not sleep at home, he is a military man though, and he brings women and sleeps with them in the base. His friends knew all of these, and when I  confront them because they knew what he is into they will just say they would talk to him.  
I have confronted him myself and he told me, if I don’t like it, then I should leave him. He travels a lot because of the nature of his job, so this last time when he came back, he never slept at home for once, he comes back very late, he has been very unfaithful to me, though we have been married for some time now and no kids. I am a believer and I have told God that I will not  sin against my  body and God.

We have a car that we both use, and I use it during the day while he uses it at night. Now most time when I want to go to the office, I will see some funny things in the car, like a woman’s hair, a lipstick kiss on the chair, condoms and the most recent one that has made me to write this is, just this morning. I saw a woman’s bra hand in the car. My parents are aware of all these, but for some time, he has stopped relating to them about what happens to me.
 
Majority of his friends are not married, and even the ones that are married are worst than a single fellow.
One thing he does that grips me is the fact that he uses his male friends picture as his dp on bbm instead me or his mum as he's always done.

Myself and his male friend's birthday was just the same day, he chose to make his friend’s birthday unique by even went out with him to make it well for him while my own, he returned home frowning.
 
What do you think I can do to get out of this mess I am into? I no longer concentrate at work.
I am not happy at all, my pastor has told me not to go that the Lord will make all things beautiful.
 
The bitter truth is that I don’t know whether he already has children out side.
 
I am so unhappy…………………………………….. because  I have  a lot to say but don’t want to bore people with my stale saga.

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Posted: at 7-06-2013 10:36 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
- bubuigbo at 7-06-2013 10:50 PM (10 years ago)
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quite unfortunate ! Never you stop believing because the day you stop believing that day u start dieing. God wl transform him soonest,then your husband you knw will turn to be a saint and your ideal man.
Posted: at 7-06-2013 10:50 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- winace at 8-06-2013 12:14 AM (10 years ago)
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One big mistake u made was to marry a military man. No offence to d military here. They don't care abt ur feelings. Its jt 10% of them dat are civlise and has conscience.pls watch any military personal wedding, if he smile, na mistake. They frown all thru.  My dear, keep praying maybe GOD will change him. It is well wit u. Hmmmmm
Posted: at 8-06-2013 12:14 AM (10 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 8-06-2013 01:29 AM (10 years ago)
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eyahhh

Posted: at 8-06-2013 01:29 AM (10 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- oluwakemisol at 8-06-2013 04:30 AM (10 years ago)
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my dear sis, my advice is to pray unto God to know if he is the right man for you, it he is then you can pray to God change his behavior, to turn him to righteous man but if God said he is not the right man for you then you have go on your own way so that his behavior wont affect you. marriage is meant to enjoy and to endure. I wish you best of luck
Posted: at 8-06-2013 04:30 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- jossy4reall at 8-06-2013 06:52 AM (10 years ago)
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ouch!... dis is dieing slowly.......My advise is dis...never try to cheat also in the name of revenge cuz it wunt help.., and never change for anything...just be true to ur self and be real.., above all  be u.......besides u may end up being beaten to death....u knw military men has dia way of understanding.....(the fear of army is the beginning of wisdom).........secondly....u are the one in the marriage and u are the one suffering in the marriage abuse not ur pastor..(who wears the shoes knws wia it pinches)....u have to pray hard over ur marriage and still give him some time......but if things are not working out positively... then u may decide taking a walk than dieing in penury of luv.

Posted: at 8-06-2013 06:52 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- giftmurphy at 8-06-2013 09:58 AM (10 years ago)
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pray for God to change him,if all ur talk he is  still like that then, its prayer...
Posted: at 8-06-2013 09:58 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- xena15 at 10-06-2013 09:52 AM (10 years ago)
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He's into women huh?
Would u rather he be into men?
I aint gonna say nothing until I hear his own side of d story(if dt ever happens)
Just so u knw,respect is earned n nt thrust on u coz ure married.
For every action,there's an equal n opposite reaction,me thinks ds is d equal n opposite reaction.
Go down memory lane,figure out where u got it twisted.
Men r nt to blame in every marriage headed for d rocks!
U cn start by cleaning out ur closet,do away wiv all those bulukus n agbadas u wear in d name of clothes,n those panties dt reminds a military man of parachutes!!!

Posted: at 10-06-2013 09:52 AM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Shegzan at 10-06-2013 10:48 AM (10 years ago)
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Yep... Fank God u didn't bore me!

Posted: at 10-06-2013 10:48 AM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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