Actress, Tamera Mowry-Housley of the then popular sitcom ‘Sister-sister’ has been married for some years and has a beautiful son. In an interview, she dished out some advice to women all over the world on motherhood, courtship, living with your man before you say I do and more. She believes in the ‘traditional black woman’ who can be called the ‘good girl’ in other words. Here are some things she had to say to women;
On how girls of nowadays dress and act:
Like my grandmother always said, ‘dare to be different’. While it’s popular these days to be the Rihanna to his Chris (okay, sans the abuse fiasco), consider being different from all of the overly sexy, turnt up girls. Guys want someone who stands out from the crowd. Remember, there’s a HUGE difference between wifey and wife! Don’t get it twisted.
On having sex with different guys before marriage(she lost her virginity at 29):
If you start having sex at such a young age, by the time you’re in your 30s and 40s, it’s old. And you’re trying many different ways to keep it new, I wanted to experience all of that once I got married and living with my husband. Perhaps trying all of the kama sutra positions with your jumpoffs and boyfriends isn’t the best thing. After all, that will leave nothing new to explore for your husband.
Moving in with your man before marriage:
I’m also conservative about relationships like living together before you’re married. We just spoke about that and I don’t think you should. I didn’t want to live with my boyfriend because I wanted to get married to experience that. All the other girls, except for Jeannie, wanted to know what they were getting before they got married. My position is that I’m jumping into this thing on faith, Statistics show that if you live with your husband before you’re married, divorce rates are higher. Cohabitation before marriage may also make the goal of marriage less important because you’re already playing house. You know the saying about the cow and the free milk… right!
On balancing motherhood and work:
I get called the 1950s mom all the time. I never thought that wanting to be with your child all the time, would be considered being a 1950s mom, But reality tv and business deals take a backseat to family. Before I had Aden(her son), I was in control of as much as humanly possible I thought. And having Aden taught me, ‘Tamera you just have to let that go.’ You just have to live day by day, take it an hour at a time. I don’t overwhelm myself and I prioritize. My family is number one. So whatever makes my son happy, my husband happy, that’s what I do.
How motherhood has been it being her first time…:
I remember when I first had Aden, naturally you want to be the best mom you can be, I wanted to do everything. I did everything to the best of my ability and I was stressing myself out because you have to learn to just relax and know that every day isn’t going to be perfect. You cant control everything. I was OCD but I was never organized so my house will be really clean but under a bed will be a mess, and the drawers will be a mess. Now the only way I can think straight is if I organize things in my life. But you’re never going to have that 100% down.” Remember, do what you can, while you can, the best you can and enjoy the ride along the way.
Her preference on baby food and what’s more convenient:
I make my baby food myself. It’s healthier but it’s more time consuming, but it is cheaper. A lot of the baby foods out there have GMOs, genetically modified foods, in them and they have preservatives and chemicals and that are being linked to autism. It’s not a proven fact but it is assumed to be linked to autism, So I buy organic food for my baby and I make it. I buy, blend it, freeze it and it’s all mine. Yep, I work and I make the food. It’s possible. I also nursed for a really long time and that’s the best thing you can do. I did it while I was working. My thing is I will go to the extreme for my child to have the best. It’s just in me. It may be tiring and exhausting but I do it.
What do you think guys? It can be pretty difficult to still be a ‘good girl’ at a time and age where the bad is seen as the good and vice versa but it is still possible. Every woman should have a standard and have a man who is really interested in her live up to it; we should be women of virtue!
On the other hand, being a first time mother (and even after the second, third and more) can be pretty difficult at first because it’s something that is new to you no matter how much you’ve taken care of others. Getting someone(preferably someone who has had the experience) around to assist and put you through would not be a bad idea. Bosom feeding your child for a longer period is the healthier way to go has it contains more nutrients and no toxins/chemicals unlike the processed/artificial made baby food. The baby is still growing and is not strong enough to combat certain things taken in. Getting a Bosom pump might be ideal so has to have the natural milk stored down for someone else to feed the baby if the need be.
Another thing you should bear in mind is that it can’t always be perfect. You’ll learn everyday, better ways to either care for the child, manage your time and balance your new life with a child. Motherhood is a beautiful thing to be enjoyed and cherished.
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