Is sex before marriage really essential

The issue of sex before marriage is relative, it depends on the individuals involved. In as much as sex is very important in marriage that does not make it the most important thing in marriage, Love still conquers all. There are couples who are segxwally active, yet they still have problems in their marriages bcos there is no Love between them but LUST. But when two people are in Love, even when they discover after marriage that one of them is not segxwally active, the love still carries them along and with understanding, there is nothing stopping the active one from teaching the other some things to ehance their sex life,and as we all know, practice makes perfect. I saying this out of experience. I met my first boyfriend as a novice in sex matters during my university days, he was already so much in the world, but we loved each other. He proposed to me even when he had vowed to his friends that he would never have anything to do with a girl that was not segxwally active, i was not then, but he took his time and thought me all the things i know today.

Posted: at 6-08-2007 03:47 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

The word essential is an understatement, it is very bad. Eventhoug, there are some people health wise, they can't stay without having sex because of some hormones, but the Bible does not support it, and it is not even normal, its a bad thing, but it is more advisable to issues like this that you go for marriage. There is no age limit for marrige and it is not compulsory for it to be elaborate just for the will of God and so as to achieve a good purpose of enjoying each other for life. If there is anybody claiming it to be a good thing, then that person is not of God and besides Sex and Love are two different things TODAY!!! and remember love is the root of marriage. SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A BAD THING!

Posted: at 7-08-2007 02:55 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

man dont let us deceive ourselves,SEX is guud and how on earth will u be datin a girl for years and never had sex with her?? wha if shes datin someone else ?so say something else

Posted: at 8-08-2007 02:42 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

well to me its not essential idk about the rest people...someone said it yoruba land sex b4 marriage is taboo...but ppl are still gonna be havin it...

Posted: at 9-08-2007 01:59 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

Sex before marriage is relative depending from the angle that one sees it. As for me I think that what one should consider first is to know if truly u love the person because sex before marriage is not a guarantee that there is love. So do not indulge yourself in what u will regret in the future because it comes with itself ups and down......... u know what I mean. If u don't love the person to commit your segxwal life and do away with sacrifices that comes with premarital sex, PLEASE do not indulge in it.

Posted: at 14-08-2007 01:44 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

Sex is relatively overrated, almost everywhere in the world.

If not for childbirth, there are billions of ways u can have fun with your partner without actually sexing it out

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Posted: at 23-08-2007 05:32 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac

well is just too glaring that its not the best. come to think of it, do we even think tht sex before marriage is sin and illegal. the fact tht u luv ur girl friend doesnt mean u shuld have a canal knowledge of her. Also come to think of it, a lot of times i hear guys saying they will like to go for virgins, so if evry one shuld practice sex b4 marriage who will then be virgin? Also come to think of it, who suffers sex before marriage after let me say somehow somehow depature, the ladies i guess? so the guys i think its high time we have conscience sex and dump for who? i dnt think its fare to the ladies and even to our selves. well everyone make we no 4get GOD DEY!!!

Posted: at 24-08-2007 07:43 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

My token contribution.

Sex is a very powerfull activity which is greatly abused and mis-concepted.

Sex before marriage makes relationship amonsgt us very burdened and corrupt.

Look at it this way,

If you have to marry the first person you sleep with as this is the only acceptance of nature. Then you will be very careful who this person should be. Once you loose ur virginity you should be as good as married because there will be no one else that will sleep wif you except she/he that dis-virgined you.

Other side of the coin, kinda what we have today.

When you have segxwal experience with a second person. because of the newness, fear, adrenalin or likes, it will be easily better than sex with the previous guy. Even if it only lasted 2 minutes.

Do you notice the problem already? lol no need to conclude.

Posted: at 30-08-2007 09:59 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac

  Yeah it is and very essential for that matter. I need to kw if my partner can actually perform so that i wont be taken by surprise after the wedding

Posted: at 2-09-2007 09:35 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

Oh Sex before marriage,let get something clear her,that your view depends on how you view the topic in question. To my my clear understanding and opion, my view to the issue is that.: 1. When ever sex take place between both parties their is a spiritual Marriage. This  implies that the more sex we have with different opposite sex is equal to the number of marriage that have taking place . 2. Having Sex show that their is a bond between both parties,hence you should be sure that you are going to get married to your spaous.
To me i do not see anything wrong in that,if the situation and bodychemistry spring up such situation my candid opinion is that llet it happen. it is far more better to have sex than leting your man to commit funication outside with other friends.

Posted: at 6-09-2007 12:28 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie