REVEALED! Why Most Women Do Not Look Forward To Having Sex

In the observation of most marriage counselors in Nigeria, it is believed that sex plays a major factor. Most times, however, women are blamed for denying their husbands of this fun .

But while men will always be ready to pull the triggers of their guns where this issue is concerned, they often fail to consider the real different factors that may be responsible for this.

For instance, years of staying together often times make sex a routine for many. To many men, and perhaps women, sex has become an instant thing whereby, the man just climbs the woman, do some familiar press-ups and gets up.

This type of approach and practice makes sex, instead of exciting, somehow repulsive.

For the man, it is easy to get aroused and get move into the act of sex instantly, but not for the woman. The woman needs to be drawn into the mood both mentally and physically, and that takes a process; a gradual process. That gradual process is what is known as foreplay.

Of course, foreplay comes handy here.It is, no doubt, very important to having sex. It prepares the two parties for the excitement and takes them through the process of arousal to the real action –sex. It is the process that creates introduces the match stick, strikes it, light the fire and continue to fan it until the fire goes wild. A foreplay session makes intercouse very rewarding and fulfilling. Ask those that have adhered to the rule religiously and they will tell you.

Foreplay does not only start when you are locked up with your spouse in the room. For a lovemaking that will take place in the night, the foreplay can start in the morning. That gentle touch that you give you spouse is a foreplay; it strikes a chord in him or her and makes her feel somehow horny. That gentle kiss that you give her is part of the foreplay because it creates some excitement in her. That hand that you slip up her thigh while watching a movie together is another one. It has its own effect.

Let us focus on the situation where you are locked up with that woman in the room and sex is the issue.

You have been told that the rule forbids you hopping on her and grinding away as if she is some godforsaken horse. Then, what do you do?

Undress her, but not in a hurry. A gentle and slow process of removing her blouse and exposing her Bosom  cupped up in the bra would be interesting. Just as she feels the clothes leaving her body, the exposure gives you a kind excitement. The same goes for you unzipping her trousers which reveals her panties. Removing her pants and even the bra very gently and slowly will also forma part of the arousal techniques.

Go gentle, go smooth, go slow. Being very rough and fast can prevent you from achieving the desired result. Smooth and gentle kissing of some parts of her body will certainly blow her. Doing it gently will make her melt in your hand and want you to remain at the point for eternity.

Don’t go for the kill immediately. You may be familiar with the most sensitive part of your partner, but that does not mean you should go for it immediately. It will only show you as one who is desperate. For instance, don’t go “attacking” the Bosom  immediately you have her naked before you. You may go for the hair, the legs, the ear lobe, the neck and other erogenous zones. Having warmed her up to an extent, you can then go for the Bosom  or the neck which are usually very sensitive.

Talk dirty; pay compliments. It is not usually always about touching; it is also about talking. Talking dirty and in moderation would have its own effect. Telling her how sexy she looks would excite her and bring her deeper into the session.

Don’t be stagnant. Staying in a spot for too long will create boredom. Even when you know that a particular spot excites her, you don’t have to confine yourself to the spot. Simply go to other areas and return to that spot as many times as you can.

Be in control. You need to be in charge of the game, not forcefully though. Let her know the position you want her; tell her to opeen or close her eyes if need be –this could be done by gently closing her eyes gently; whether she should look at you or do something else.

Get down. Going down to the main area of attraction is not out of play. All you need to do is to be gentle as you rub her thigh up, using your nose, fingers and the whole of you.

Lubricate her: Going through foreplay will achieve something: Lubricate her. Therefore, make sure that she is well lubricated before you finish up your foreplay. Having achieved that, then you can go on to sex.

Beyond all of the above, however, is the place of peace of mind in all of these. A woman who is bothered with a lot of unaccomplished desires and projects is likely to be insensitive to a man’s love gesture. It is therefore important that men go the extra mile to make their wives happy and settled mind to have them welcome them with all open hands and all. We all know that a merry heart is capable of great adventures. A word is supposed to be enough for the wise.