15 Realistic Reasons Why Real Men Do Not Date Single Mothers - Shawn James

Date: 16-01-2016 9:52 am (8 years ago) | Author: Daniel Bosai
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An American author named Shawn James this week wrote a controversial essay titled 'Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers' - detailing 15 reasons why men should not date single mothers. It's got people talking. Though I personally do not and will never support any writeup with broad generalization, I think Shawn had some valid reasons in the article but its would be plain dumb to generalize this on all single mothers, read and share your own comments below:



1. Never Available. A single Mother’s schedule is never open. Single mothers are the kind of women to always cancel dates at the last minute. Something always gets in the way of a man spending time with her. It’s hard to have a relationship with her because she’s never there.

2. YOU are NOT a priority. Usually in a relationship the man winds up DEAD LAST. Behind, her kids, her job, the car, the kitchen sink, the stopped up toilet. Even the dog gets more attention and affection than a man involved with a single mother. Any man who gets involved with a single mother winds up a fifth stringer in a relationship. And he rarely ever gets called up to play.

3. Thinks the world revolves around HER and ONLY HER. A single mother is one of the biggest narcissists on the dating scene. She often thinks that a man has to drop everything in his life to be part of hers and her kids. They’re so selfish they don’t think a man has needs, wants or a life of his own. He’s just supposed to be there to give her everything she wants in life.

4. Emotionally Unavailable - Most Single mothers cannot form an intimate connection with a man because her feelings are invested in other people. Usually her primary focus is on her children.
In addition to dedicating herself to her children, most single mothers have given their hearts to someone else- their children’s father. And those feelings she still has for him will always prevent her from getting closer to you. There will always be some distance between a single mother and the new man in her life.

5. The ex/ Baby Daddy is ALWAYS THERE. A man just doesn’t deal with a single mother. He deals with her ex or her baby daddy as well. And this guy is always hovering around like a helicopter looking to c*ckblock you. Some of these guys still think they have a shot at getting back with her. Others just don’t want to see her happy. A lot of these dudes want to f!ght over her.
Seriously, it’s a game they’re playing with each other. And they’ll be playing that game with each other until their children turn 18 or 21. Head for the exit. It’s just not worth dealing with this fool and his insecure bullshyt.

6. The kids are working AGAINST YOU When dealing with a single mother you also deal with Kids. Kids who still in their little heart of hearts think that Dad will come back and love them.
Seriously, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.

7. Those kids will HATE YOU. They will act out to keep you from getting closer to mommy. They will make accusations against you to get you in trouble. Again, it’s just not worth dealing with the bullsh*t to get with a female. There are four billion women in the world. You can find a quality female who doesn’t carry all this baggage or give you this much grief.

8. Entitled attitude Single mothers think because she had a baby out of wedlock the world owes her EVERYTHING. And she thinks she’s the one who deserves the best. Even though she’s usually collecting welfare, food stamps, or child support, in eyes she’s still supposed to be treated like she’s a queen because she popped a kid out of her v*gina.
In their deluded distorted vision of the world Men are still supposed to take her out to the finest restaurants and buy them lots of expensive stuff. And he’s supposed to take care of her kids too, buying them whatever they want while taking a blind eye to their bad behavior.

9. Distorted self-image Single mothers still thinks she’s as sexy like she was before she had a baby. Only she doesn’t understand how her body has changed. In some cases for the worse.
Single mothers are the type to try to squeeze themselves into sexy outfits like low-rise jeans and cropped T-shirts to show off their belly button, not seeing the muffin top and stretch marks squeezing out over the top of their pants. They’re the type to stuff themselves into slinky spandex dresses, (not aware of that gut, and the cellulite on their asses) and head out to the club. She thinks men are supposed to run up on her offering to buy her drinks. And because a few thirsty simps step to her, she thinks she’s still got it. But the only people who wants what she has to offer are scavengers at the bottom of the social scene.



10. Always the victim. Single Mothers never take responsibility for their actions. The situation they’re in is always the fault of that “no good man”, “these damn kids” their mother or someone else. They never take any time to do any self-examination or make any efforts to change their lives. They’re still looking for some Rich Incredibly Handsome Man™ to put on a cape and play Captain Save-A-Hoe™, sweep her off her feet and take her out of the troubling situation she helped make.

11. Jekyll & Hyde Personality. A single mother will be the sweetest thing when a man first dates her, but a few months into a relationship she turns into a NUTJOB. A man will usually see glimpses of this when she chastises her kids when he first meets them. During that meeting she’ll yell at them and bully them to get them to act right while praising a man like he’s an angel.
It’s all an act. Heaven will turn into Hell around the six month mark.
Once a single mother gets a man settled into her life it’s not common for her to start verbally abusing him and mocking him as she projects all that pent-up rage from those previous failed relationships onto him. And it’s usually around this point that most men realize why this woman is single and why it’s time for him to hit the exit door.

12. Drama Queen. Because a single mother always sees herself as a victim of society, she’s always talking about her problems. And she always has a new trouble to bring everyone. There’s never a good day in the life of a single mother because there’s always some new crisis about to emerge in her life.
The reason single mothers need the drama is because it makes them feel important. It makes people pay attention to them. And when Captain-Save-A-Hoe™ is doting on them trying to solve their problems it makes them feel an artificial sense of value. They need that value to deflects people’s attention from how pathetic their lives actually are.
Manipulative In most cases, a single mother has no interest in a man she’s dating. In a lot of cases she’s just using a guy as a pawn.

13. In most cases she’s dating to make her Baby Baddy jealous. Deep down in her heart of hearts she believes that if she’s seen with someone else who sees her as valuable that he’ll see her as valuable and take her back.
In other cases when she’s not trying to get a rise out of Baby Daddy she’s playing the sympathy card™ using a guy to get gifts, free dinners and free drinks out of him. To a single mother, The men in her lives are just human ATM machines where she whispers a sweet nothing in his ear like a PIN number and money comes out of his wallet.
And because she’s a drama queen who loves to play the victim, the Single mother plays to men’s emotions to get them to react in the way she wants. It’s not common for a single mother to tell her man man about her baby daddy so he can go f!ght him. Or pit two baby daddies against each other. Many a man has wound up either dead or in prison because a single Mother played the victim card™.

14. Dishonest. A single mother is a LIAR. It’s how she gets what she wants. It’s how she manipulates people. It’s how she takes care of her kids. It’s how she survives in this world.
Single mothers lie. And they LIE ALL THE TIME. They lie to men about their age, their height, their weight, how many kids they have, the job they do.
On top of the lies they tell to others They lie to themselves. They lie about about how beautiful they are. They lie telling themselves they’re still a catch. They lie telling themselves they still have a chance with a good man. They lie telling themselves that their lives will be happily ever after one day.
The horrible truth is without those lies most of those single mothers would realize how pathetic their lives are. How they have no options in the dating scene. That they’re at the bottom of the barrel in the dating scene and the only men who want them are pathetic Manginas and thirsty Simps.

15. Carries Baggage, baggage and more baggage A single mother has more issues than Time and Newsweek combined. And when she’s looking for a man, she’s not looking for an equal caring partner. She’s looking for a Pullman Porter™ to take care of her kids, and clean up her messes with her childrens’ father. Brothers, don’t let yourself get sized up for the white jacket and the bow tie!
Anyway, dealing with a single mother is like walking through a minefield. After several months of being involved with her, it leaves a man anxious and tense because he doesn’t know where to step that won’t lead to an explosion that k!lls him.

That’s why Real Men avoid single mothers like disease.

Real men understand life is too short to put up with someone’s drama and their emotional baggage. We only have a limited time on God’s Earth and who wants to spend it being a Pullman Porter cleaning up someone else’s messes. As I stated before in a previous blog, let that woman take her run over Jimmy Choos and clean up her own mess. She made her bed, now let her lie in the wet spot.

Don’t date single mothers and don’t waste your time with them. There are four billion women in this world. If you’re patient, you’ll find a good one.


Posted: at 16-01-2016 09:52 AM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- kp45 at 16-01-2016 10:34 AM (8 years ago)
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I Read
Posted: at 16-01-2016 10:34 AM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Dramaking at 16-01-2016 11:07 AM (8 years ago)
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Ma Drama Queen wil neva come in2 ma world wit a kid datz 4 shizzle, b4 our home gonna get an Oscar nomination... Lol
Posted: at 16-01-2016 11:07 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- gogoman at 16-01-2016 11:23 AM (8 years ago)
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Poster na true you talk.... and you can't even correct their kid
Posted: at 16-01-2016 11:23 AM (8 years ago) | Grande Master
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- DAMILARE100 at 16-01-2016 11:45 AM (8 years ago)
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That is the case in America, not applicable in Africa especially my Naija
Posted: at 16-01-2016 11:45 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- zezprincess at 16-01-2016 11:48 AM (8 years ago)
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Hahaha,thou I 've witnessed some but I won't comment cos am not married neither am I single mother.
Posted: at 16-01-2016 11:48 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- youngrashy at 16-01-2016 12:06 PM (8 years ago)
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This is american shiiit Poster
Posted: at 16-01-2016 12:06 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- akinmanchy at 16-01-2016 02:04 PM (8 years ago)
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Yes this is the case in America, but I think African single mothers have a slightly different orientation.

Posted: at 16-01-2016 02:04 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- Oworen25 at 16-01-2016 03:11 PM (8 years ago)
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In Africa it not like this but as for the western world most especially the American it happens there even in most of their movie I see it.
Posted: at 16-01-2016 03:11 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- fatmax at 16-01-2016 04:00 PM (8 years ago)
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THIS WRITTER IS WRITING WITH MUCH HATE I THINK SOMEHOW HE MUST HAVE BE VICTM OF ONE THEN HE SEE'S ALL AS THE SAME IF NOT HOW COME HE KNOW THIS MUCH
Posted: at 16-01-2016 04:00 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- winace at 16-01-2016 08:44 PM (8 years ago)
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Mcthewww whatever.
Posted: at 16-01-2016 08:44 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- SOGaiya at 16-01-2016 10:13 PM (8 years ago)
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Read
Posted: at 16-01-2016 10:13 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- patoskill at 17-01-2016 12:44 AM (8 years ago)
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u make sense........
Posted: at 17-01-2016 12:44 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- candela at 17-01-2016 05:20 AM (8 years ago)
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100% true. Let no man deceive himself they love you.
Posted: at 17-01-2016 05:20 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Zadok1 at 17-01-2016 07:19 AM (8 years ago)
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100% right worldwide.
Posted: at 17-01-2016 07:19 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- cocoeni at 20-01-2016 10:30 PM (8 years ago)
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na women way bi dat specially di Western world women
Posted: at 20-01-2016 10:30 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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