Toni Payne Wants To Have Nothing To Do With Nigeria Again For Rest Of Her Life!!

Date: 22-01-2016 9:37 pm (8 years ago) | Author: Daniel Bosai
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- at 22-01-2016 09:37 PM (8 years ago)
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Wow! Toni Payne just roasted the entire country called Nigeria in her latest open letter, this comes after 9ice openly came out to clear the air about her cheating on him while they were married! This didnt go down too well in various areas and the respond was very spontaneous and proportionate from Toni Payne, she says she never want to have anything to do with Nigeria, her men or her bloggers again, see her letter below:




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First of all, let me start by saying I have met some wonderful, intelligent, caring, heart warming people in Nigeria and on its social media space. These people are who I can say kept the faith in me that everyone isn’t bad when my reality was proving otherwise. I respect and appreciate them and always will.

I am not sure if I should call this me expressing myself or me being baffled and being too emotional but what I am sure of is that at this very second, what I am about to write  is coming from the deepest part of my heart. I don’t care how long I have to keep doing this, so far it eases my soul, I’m good.

I have decided to take an extended break from anything that has to do with Nigeria and it’s social media space. I will continue to communicate with those I have built a relationship with and those who are there for the good but I will not do more than that for now. I will leave my world open for those who genuinely wish to know more.  This decision has been very hard for me but after careful consideration and enough time reflecting, it is time to listen to my heart.

Apparently I was trending in Nigeria yesterday. This did not sit well with me at all because I became part of the Negativity that is considered trend worthy in Nigeria. From the media who only write about me when it is negative to the people creating the negativity, I feel like no matter what good I try to contribute to Nigeria, it will forever be energy spent because their focus is on what they can say is bad about Toni Payne. The most annoying thing is that, this so-called “what is bad” is not even my reality. It is not who I am and it will never be who I am.
 
In Nigeria  the most popular online “news” source are blogs. For the most part, blogs are mainly ran by people with no experience in journalism and no accountability and that to me is a huge problem. They seldom fact check and mostly copy and paste what they have seen elsewhere even when it is not true. Let me say, I have come across some really good ones who put a lot of effort into creating their story with facts but unfortunately those ones are usually the least popular.

If you google my name you will see how they have helped me create a narrative that isn’t mine. It is easy for those looking in from the outside to think that this is all you are about when that is not the case. I am not sure why the only thing that moves them is negativity but for me, I no longer wish to be a part of it. The best way to avoid this I think is to stay clear of Nigerian matters for now.I am tired of complaining  and revisiting an unhealthy topic.

I have decided to focus my energy on building my brand elsewhere. It is better I start from scratch than continue to toil this path. As far as I know, all the media rants and dragging of my name has not earned me a dime. I have made the front page of almost every single news magazine in Nigeria yet it has contributed mostly negativity to my life.

Kim Kardashian can afford to be dragged because she makes her money from the noise. Rihanna can unlook because people will still buy her album. Beyonce can ignore because as the media reports the negative, they balance it with the positive and there is accountability. She can take someone to court for defamation and win. I have nothing to gain from all this.

What is the essence of trying to do good in a place where negativity reigns supreme and people will try to castigate you at the slightest opportunity. For me, it is a lost cause and the sooner I come to terms with it the better.

I saw some blog headlines today and it was disappointing to see once again that when they jump on my name, it has to be for something negative. I can categorically state that in Nigeria I have NEVER trended for something positive even though positivity is all I try to put out. I can not be responsible for other people’s actions but I can choose how I deal with what affects mine.

These same blogs with the exception of a few have never published any good news about me irrespective of how hard I work. They have chosen the narrative they feel will sell and they have been running with it for years. How do you create a narrative without balance? How is beating the same old dead topic remotely interesting. Let me live abeg.

It has been 6 years and it looks like nothing will change. If the only news worthy thing about me in Nigeria is something negative then no matter how much I love that nation, Nigeria is not for me. I would rather start from scratch elsewhere. In a sane society I should be super rich from suing a lot of these people but alas, they will say ehn its Nigeria. Na so we be. I can choose to ignore it, but I do not have to accept it.

What prompted the headlines? Well, yesterday I noticed on my twitter timeline people bashing  rapper Ice Prince. Apparently he was having relationship problems. The details of that problem are unimportant to me but what made me react was how insensitive people were to his plight. Yes he is a celebrity, yes he brought his business on social media but no it should not stop people from having compassion. It does not give people the right to be outright mean and wicked.

He was obviously going through some deep emotions and was met with taunts and insults. Celebrities are no different from everyone else, the use of social media to share an opinion or socialize is not restricted to non celebrities only.  I am a very passionate person and it is always so hard for me to look the other way when I see something wrong.

I defended Ice not because I know or agree with the girl or the situation, not because whatever he wrote or she did was right or wrong but because when you see someone going through pain, that is what you should do. All I said was leave him alone and all hell broke loose. Uncultured Nigerian youths bombarded my timeline. How that is a bad thing still baffles me. I will never be bullied into not thinking for myself but I do not have to expose myself to hopeless situations.

At this stage I do not think I am upset as much as I am disgusted with a lot of them. Some even went as far as saying I have no right to comment on topics about cheating. In my head im like really? So based on a lie that everyone involved has denied, I can’t speak on cheating? Who made you judge and jury when you were not a witness? Or maybe they came and saw me cheating hence the firmness of their opinion. I cannot continue to try to reason with unreasonable people. It is way too much energy spent.

It is clear to me a lot of these people hate women, they believe nothing good can come out of a woman, yet they came out of a woman. Something goes wrong, it’s the woman’s fault. Yes, a woman must be guilty in the court of public opinions because all women are hoes and cannot be trusted – I wonder who raised them. No be woman? – I want to ask them, if I were their sister, would they still feel the same way, or would they actually take time to listen, look at facts and use their brain for a change. I wrote the poem Products of Misogyny a while ago and obviously a lot hasn’t changed.

It has become the norm for “Nigerian Twitter” to choose a new victim to troll everyday when in fact they should spend that energy in trying to rebuild their nation. Being exposed to that for me is counter productive. If you try to educate them, it falls on deaf ears. There is absolutely no balance. I listened to some of my followers who asked me to ignore and the words used to describe Nigerian Twitter were all negative. “wicked” “jobless” “ruthless” and the list goes on, yet they see nothing wrong with how the world perceives them.

Yes when you are known, people are watching you but truth be told these same people have probably also put their private life in public space with the only difference being nobody cared enough to talk about it. Maybe I have been delusional my entire life but this is NOT the Nigeria I used to know.

I remember growing up, we took so much pride in being Nigerian. We are cultured, we are respectful, we are couth, we are happy people and most importantly we carried ourselves with unrivaled decorum. I remember being young I would proudly say of I am Nigerian because I knew we were seen as classy people. Oh boy have I been woken up out of that dream world. I guess that was then.

These days all I see is negativity after negativity being the favorite topic of choice. Nigerian youth carrying on like they have no home training or sense of pride. Where has the sense of values we took pride in growing up gone? Social media is not helping because it sheds light on the true nature of a lot of young Nigerians.

Please feel free to correct me if I am wrong but we are no longer a majority of deep thinkers and move makers. These people have become the minority.

I defended Ice Prince and eventually got caught in the crossfire. What the trolls had to say did not bother me as much as the fact that in 2016, after so much “clearing the air” the majority of them were still harassing me. It pretty much solidified the fact that a lot of them do not reason, think or read. A lot of them behave like a generation with no hope and if care is not taken, Nigeria will continue to be what it is. It also made me realize something, negativity feeds a lot of souls on Nigerian Twitter and I do not wish to be a part of it.

To them everything is a joke yet there is nothing to laugh about. Yes, budgets will go missing, there will be no light, there will be queue for fuels, there will be looting and so much more because those meant to be fighting for their future busy themselves with frivolous things. The highlight of their days is who they managed to insult and get a reaction out of on social media. How sad is that.!

They want to act like American kids forgetting the average American child has their basic amenities met. They even go as far as over doing it because I see no balance in what trends, it’s mainly negative negative negative.

If I were to sit back and think about my experiences I will say it’s people has offered me more grief than joy. There is absolutely no motivation left in me to want to do anything there.
I do not expect everyone to like me but don’t troll me for what I did not do or call me names that are not mine.
I have realized the overall orientation of some of my people is bad and there is nothing I can do to change it .
Life is not 100% but I have full control over how I choose to live mine.
God bless the good people who have shown me love over the years
I really don’t know what else to say at this point except enough is enough. I know all I have written will still be misconstrued and fall on a lot of deaf ears but at this stage, I am doing this for posterity sake. To go on record so people will someday recall this day. As much as I love that country, sometimes peace of mind simply trumps patriotism or passion. Out of the love I have for Nigeria, I started the first online entertainment website. I held on to it for over 10 years and recently began to rebuild it to change how things are done. As of right now, I wish to sell it. If there is anyone interested in buying, do let me know. Till then, that is the only way I will contribute my quota.

To anyone who sees this as pointless, what is pointless to you, is not pointless to me. To those who say it’s for relevance, your sense of reasoning is extremely foolish. relevance that does not pay my bills but tarnishes my name? If that is the sort of relevance you wish for, it is not what I want for myself. I do whatever soothes my spirit how I want to. To those that say “who cares” you do if you had the time to comment or have an after thought upon hearing my name. To those blogs who think they can come on my website to steal this post and post on their blog, I promise you, I will see to it that your site is taken down for copy write and plagiarism. Leave the foolery in 2015.

To those that genuinely care. I am not upset. I promise but for the sake of my sanity. This is something I need to do.


and this was the message 9ice released:

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"It has come to my attention that some people were up to some mischief harassing Toni Payne regarding an evil rumor that was spread years ago. I would like to use this opportunity to state categorically that the song Once Bitten Twice shy was not and can never be about Toni Payne. I have NEVER accused her or told anybody that she cheated on me because she DID NOT. It did not happen and it was never an issue. Let me be very clear. Toni Payne NEVER cheated on me. Some marriages do not work for different reasons.
Unfortunately I released my album at a very delicate time in our relationship and a song from the album was taken the wrong way and things were blown out of proportion due to my silence," he said.
The indigenous singer who now wishes to be known as 'The Ancestor' also hinted that he has on countless occasions apologized to his ex over the release of the song at the wrong time.

"I have apologized to her in person and she has accepted my apology. I have moved on to a fresh start and she has moved on too. I would appreciate if the general public do the same. I would appreciate if people refrain from insulting her for something she is not guilty of. Once again, the song Once Bitten Twice Shy was NEVER about TONI PAYNE. It was just a song. I wish I had come out sooner but I cannot change the past, I can only try and make amends for the future."
"It is a new dawn for us all and I hope this closes the topic permanently. If it does not, maybe it is best I release a song clarifying this issue for the 100th time because what started all this was a song and all my effort to clear that air via interviews have been futile. I assure you, I will stop at nothing to make sure this evil rumor is put to sleep once and for all. Again It was never my intention to cause her pain. My apologies to everyone who was affected. God Bless!?"


Posted: at 22-01-2016 09:37 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- joromy at 22-01-2016 09:54 PM (8 years ago)
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NO BODY HAVE TIME TO READ THIS LONG MESSAGE.
Posted: at 22-01-2016 09:54 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Dramaking at 22-01-2016 10:05 PM (8 years ago)
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Smh.... Cant som1 summarize diz txt book 4 us, datz why im contemplatin movin 2 d state....
Posted: at 22-01-2016 10:05 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Ennyolalekan at 22-01-2016 10:44 PM (8 years ago)
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wait oooo... na u take ur tym to write all dis? now I know u are jobless. gerrout of my beloved country we can never miss u
Posted: at 22-01-2016 10:44 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- gogoman at 22-01-2016 10:45 PM (8 years ago)
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before nko!!!!
Posted: at 22-01-2016 10:45 PM (8 years ago) | Grande Master
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- nwaafoigbo at 22-01-2016 10:48 PM (8 years ago)
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who wil read this shit?
Posted: at 22-01-2016 10:48 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- SOGaiya at 22-01-2016 11:07 PM (8 years ago)
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We need summary nxt tym Lng cmmentary
Posted: at 22-01-2016 11:07 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- zezprincess at 22-01-2016 11:13 PM (8 years ago)
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Ok better,but you for tell us say na textbook we go read,I read,read,read,haba I come stop on the way,chuuuu.
Posted: at 22-01-2016 11:13 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- Machealex at 22-01-2016 11:18 PM (8 years ago)
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Things fall apart. BULA BULA BULA.
Posted: at 22-01-2016 11:18 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- akinmanchy at 22-01-2016 11:45 PM (8 years ago)
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Abeg I dey look for my old secondary school ababio chemistry textbook

Posted: at 22-01-2016 11:45 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- maxzy277 at 23-01-2016 02:01 AM (8 years ago)
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Don't forget to drop the Nigeria Passport & renounce ur citizenship before you finally live. Save journey!!!
Posted: at 23-01-2016 02:01 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Oworen25 at 23-01-2016 04:29 AM (8 years ago)
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Na wow oh for this women this your story too long wettin we do you now
Posted: at 23-01-2016 04:29 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- philnel at 23-01-2016 06:00 AM (8 years ago)
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After reading this, I love you the more Toni Payne, you are very inteligent lady. I will do everything possible to reach you.
Posted: at 23-01-2016 06:00 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- horizontal at 23-01-2016 06:35 AM (8 years ago)
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i will finish to read later now am busy at work
Posted: at 23-01-2016 06:35 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- factfinding at 23-01-2016 07:18 AM (8 years ago)
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Who cares? i guess nobody because a tree can not make a forest.
Posted: at 23-01-2016 07:18 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sweetypweety at 23-01-2016 07:52 AM (8 years ago)
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Who has tym to read all dis  crap? Am sure not me
Posted: at 23-01-2016 07:52 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kp45 at 23-01-2016 08:02 AM (8 years ago)
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The comprehension passage too long.
Posted: at 23-01-2016 08:02 AM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Wazubia at 23-01-2016 10:58 AM (8 years ago)
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WHO IS THIS ONE, AND WHO WANT TO READ ALL THIS ARTICLE'S
Posted: at 23-01-2016 10:58 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- okatee at 23-01-2016 06:35 PM (8 years ago)
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MADAM, ABEG DEY GO, NOBODY HOLD U OO. ND CARRY UR LITERATURE TEXTBOOK OF 999 PAGES DEY GO.
Posted: at 23-01-2016 06:35 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- AmazingMarie at 23-01-2016 07:52 PM (8 years ago)
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these couple and their story
Posted: at 23-01-2016 07:52 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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