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at 03:55 PM, 12 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: vixenx on 03:48 PM, 11 Aug 08
He's got something up his sleeves that he ain't telling u...and by the way, do u know for a fact that his wife actually passed away?...........anyways don't trust this guy at all, I can't clearly say what his motives are....but by him having sex with u without regards for safety is enough to keep u from being close with him...At least be very cautious before going too deeply with this relationship cuz something just ain't right.

Vixenx, i dont agree with what you said. u cant judge from the fact the had sex the first night. it could happen to anyone. look, from what Bimbola said, i havent seen anything bad in it, i mean she has'nt got any reason to doubt him..if you say he's too good to be true, agreed but not to the extent of her not giving him a chance. Life is all about taking risk, even the once you are very sure tends to fck up at a point... And the sex part, she already liked the guy, i can clearly say in that part, they both wanted it. dont make it sound like he took advantage of her....

@Bimbola, pls be very careful dealing with guys, takes wisdom to handle such situation. just be patient enough and make sure your guards are up, he might be perfect hiding things from you, or you not meeting another lady.. Its a 2 way thing OK.  be good..
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bimbola1 at 04:46 PM, 12 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Thanks to u Darkocean, i really appreciate! Plz keep d advice rolling....
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Kennee at 05:42 PM, 12 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: kirstyl on 02:55 PM, 12 Aug 08
I will say this like a sister to a brother... quit him.. he has got wat he wants but u are yet to know what you want from him.

He likes your body that he has already and you're just giving it to him just to win him..... gurl you're cheap iM sorry but thats the truth. When he stops his parable then you will get the real vibes on what he wanted in you.

KENEE WONT WANT TO SAY THE TRUTH NOW COS HE HAS AN EYE FOR YOU R PIC NOW.....

THE EARLIER YOU QUIT HIM THE BETTER AND DONT TRY TO FALL SO CHAP TO ANY ONE NXT TYM...........

My Dear Kirstyl, one thing l don't know how to do is "Sugar-coat" my words cos l'm lookin for Favors, l tell it how it is

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darkocean002 at 06:21 PM, 12 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: bimbola1 on 04:46 PM, 12 Aug 08
Thanks to u Darkocean, i really appreciate! Plz keep d advice rolling....

You welcome.
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bimbola1 at 03:51 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Please, Naijapals, i need more advice from u guys.!!! Thanks
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walerian at 04:10 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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bimbola, despite the fact that he had sex wit u witout protection doesnt mean he doesnt want u.
bimbola, u had a say too for protection even if u liked him so much. u cld object.
bimbola, does ur instinct go along with him irrespective of religion and his child?
bimbola, follow ur heart. thats all i can advise. goood luck.
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bimbola1 at 04:27 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Walerian! Thanks really for the advice
Well to be sincere, I like this guy if not i wouldnt have given in for his approach in the first instance.
Again, this guy needs attention because to loose a wife is not funny, u can imagine a guy of just 34 years being a widower, its not funny! Even till now he is still in that shock but just that he's taking everything like a man. Talking about the son, the boy is a very small boy who i think will need a womanly love and attention and sincerely speaking i like the boy(child) a lot, just that he stays with the grandparents down in Ife. I dont see religion as a barier because we are in the 20th century and everybody if not overcivilized is matured even the underaged and we all know that Christian or Muslim, we serve a living God and the most amazing part of it is that he used to be a christian so sometimes he coats some verses in the bible which me myself doesnt even know or havent heard about! I think he's a nice guy but i dont know how true is likeness for me is.... I rest my case
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SAmyrocko at 04:33 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Good luck Dear as you've restd ur case.

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myragonza at 04:35 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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this kinda guy is plenty....find someone else........

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indie at 04:58 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: bimbola1 on 12:57 PM,  9 Aug 08
Hi, My name is BIMBO, a Nigerian, Well, i have a question for you.. I'm a graduate, and I’ve worked for some few companies b4 I joined my present organization. on joining, i met this guy who is in a different department, the first time i saw him i was thrilled, i mean i liked him. in my office, we are always having morning meeting everyday so  i noticed that anytime i sit opposite this guy at the conference room he's always staring at me till the meeting ends.. Lately, he approached me, and even before then i learnt that he was married and has a kid but lost his wife in June last year, i later gave in to his proposition and i went to his house for the first time. There was terrible traffic so i got to his house a bit late and i later passed the night in his house and discovered we made love, but what i noticed was that he did not bother to use a condom on me despite the fact that we had condom on the bed, and one thing again was that, in my place of work, you must undergo STD screening especially HIV screening every 3 months especially there department which i think he should always be careful not to contact such disease but he never taught of that and went straight in to me, though I don’t have any disease anyway, but not withstanding he should have just have a taught. That day passed and I’ve been to his house 2 other times and we made love, each time we do same he always comment on my bosom  telling me they are just too nice. Sometimes he talks in parable as if he was going to marry me. for example there was a day he was telling me that cant i work else where rather than working in this organization? then the following morning he was telling me that he wants to surprise everybody in our place of work, i was curious and asked him what he wanted to do and he replied me that i wont be the P.A to the M.D again, that I will work elsewhere and said he has the power to put me in a fixed deposit, well I wouldn’t understand what that means, but always in parables. Even sometimes he always tell me that he was going to get me pregnant, I don’t really know if he likes me, if he wants me to be his wife or whatever.... There was a day he told me that he doesn’t want to think again, i mean about his dead wife, now dat I’m here, i noticed also that he doesn’t keep girlfriends because since i knew him he has never dodged anything from me or received a suspected lovers call while I’m with him. the question now is that why will he just go in to me without u sing a condom knowing well that any mistake can jeopardize his career as an embryologist. Does he like me that much? Does he want to marry me? please i need you to give me some advice on how to go about this.. Thanks for your anticipated response..

well, wateva u do, keep ur legs shut tight together!  find dat i think beter with my legs in that position. from wat u said, 's like u guys have a whole lot of chemistry btween d 2 of u...well, reserve some for ur married life together.

sounds like its not long he was bereaved, found out from experience that what u take most when u r sick wether out of necessity or preference, does not follow u out of the hospital. in fact its the first thing u remember not to take again, if possible for the rest of ur life (there was a time i was sick, it was always Fanta, as soon as i got better, just show me a bottle of fanta, even if its empty, of Fanta, and i'll barf all over u; till now, almost 15 years later, taking fanta is a major problem)just be careful ur not merely being used to recover or do i say rcouperate, there is nothing like a healthy choice, not one borne out of necessity or fear or loneliness. just be sure u r not being used as a pain reliever or sleeping tablet to be dumped when the person no longer feels pain or can now sleep normally.

and dis one u guys go skinny dipping every time u meet, u sure he wouldnt do the same with any other girl he feels strongly about? and my dear u just dont follow a guy mukoo mukoo mukoo like dat- he wants skinny dipping, u gree, he says u'll leave ur job u.... infact it doesnt sound like u challenged any one of all the things he's done or said 2 u. remember its ur life-till he buys it! u dont start a relationship on this type of passive note, no matter where d love hook u reach!show him u have a mind behind dat beautiful exterior, afterall there would comea time when he will start looking for one (a mind; u guys would have to crawl out of bed sometime and get on with the rest of life).

just be watch ful, and think of urself first(when u r married u can think of others,eg, ur husband kids, etc), orif thinking of urself is not helping any, think of ur welbeing.

goodluck sha!

 
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onyin at 08:51 PM, 13 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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@Bimbola.i feel u.but it's not all about u likin the guy.does he rlly liks u?.u can't be the only one doin all "the likin".hope he's not just usin u to fulfil his own emotional and sexual needs?.just tk ur time,get to know him more better.he might be nice or he might not.and as Indie said "close ur legs".cos if u keep on givin it to him,he might not respect u.tk things slow don't rush.just be very careful.u shuld lik him wit ur brain not just ur heart.and allys speak up by askin him lots of questions ,don't let him fool u wit his words.
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walerian at 10:45 AM, 14 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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yea also take cautions too and make sure he likes u in return cos i hate to see any of my pals regret. talk more on ur marriage with him to see he's seriousness. if he relay wants u he should av proposed it. takia.
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darkocean002 at 11:23 AM, 14 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Bimbola, dont think you should bother yourself much again.. Go through all the advices u recieve here everyday, u'll be fine OK. wishing you all da best . u sweet OK
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SAmyrocko at 12:07 PM, 14 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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True talk

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Kennee at 02:40 PM, 14 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: indie on 04:58 PM, 13 Aug 08


well, wateva u do, keep ur legs shut tight together!  find dat i think beter with my legs in that position. from wat u said, 's like u guys have a whole lot of chemistry btween d 2 of u...well, reserve some for ur married life together.

sounds like its not long he was bereaved, found out from experience that what u take most when u r sick wether out of necessity or preference, does not follow u out of the hospital. in fact its the first thing u remember not to take again, if possible for the rest of ur life (there was a time i was sick, it was always Fanta, as soon as i got better, just show me a bottle of fanta, even if its empty, of Fanta, and i'll barf all over u; till now, almost 15 years later, taking fanta is a major problem)just be careful ur not merely being used to recover or do i say rcouperate, there is nothing like a healthy choice, not one borne out of necessity or fear or loneliness. just be sure u r not being used as a pain reliever or sleeping tablet to be dumped when the person no longer feels pain or can now sleep normally.

and dis one u guys go skinny dipping every time u meet, u sure he wouldnt do the same with any other girl he feels strongly about? and my dear u just dont follow a guy mukoo mukoo mukoo like dat- he wants skinny dipping, u gree, he says u'll leave ur job u.... infact it doesnt sound like u challenged any one of all the things he's done or said 2 u. remember its ur life-till he buys it! u dont start a relationship on this type of passive note, no matter where d love hook u reach!show him u have a mind behind dat beautiful exterior, afterall there would comea time when he will start looking for one (a mind; u guys would have to crawl out of bed sometime and get on with the rest of life).

just be watch ful, and think of urself first(when u r married u can think of others,eg, ur husband kids, etc), orif thinking of urself is not helping any, think of ur welbeing.

goodluck sha!

 

WELL SAID

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darkocean002 at 07:42 PM, 14 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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zoom!!
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bimbola1 at 04:24 PM, 18 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Please Keep ur advice rolling!!! Thanks
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darkocean002 at 05:38 PM, 18 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: bimbola1 on 04:24 PM, 18 Aug 08
Please Keep ur advice rolling!!! Thanks

OK
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bimbola1 at 02:18 PM, 25 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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Still hanging on!!!!
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SAmyrocko at 08:56 AM, 26 Aug 08 (9 years ago)
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I THOUGTH U'VE HANDS OFF UR CASE?? WHY STILL HANGING ON??

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