at 07:52 PM, 12/04/2016 (2 years ago)
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A good relationship can be liken to a newborn baby that needs to be treasured, pampered, nurtured and fed with essential vitamins in order for it to develop and grow up strong, healthy and able to stand the test of time. It is a known fact that whatever you focus your attention on will eventually grow. Most people focus on the problems instead of placing their focus on fixing the problems and preferring solutions. Therapist Elliot E. Connie believes couples should place their focus on strengths, solutions and goals rather than on the problem. Listed below are principles to help bring out the best in you.

For the context of this article, I shall be using they or their in place of his/her.

    1. Acceptance

Learn to accept your partner the way they are, this would go a long way in making them better persons. Accepting your partner means you believe in their good objective or intention. It means they can be the best at whatever they choose to do. You need to accept them first, and then encourage them to become better. Accepting your partner the way they are doesn’t necessarily mean having to tolerate their excesses.

    2. Introduce Complain Session

When there are issues between couples, they tend to resort to that snobbish “silent treatment” attitude that only manages to makes the issues between them worse. Conversely, if there was to be a complaint session where couples sit together and voice out their grievances, the reasons behind their crisis would be quickly resolved and peace would be restored. During the complaint session, the man should be gentlemanly enough to allow the woman go first, he shouldn’t interrupt her rather he should encourage her to air out all the areas she feels he went wrong. The man should go next, after which the issues should be resolved amicably with consensual understanding on the part of both parties.

    3. Listen and Understand

Unnecessary crisis in home may arise if you are not really listening to your partner whenever they try to make a point. Listen carefully and ask questions on areas you don’t understand, don’t jump into hasty conclusions and refrain from being overly judgmental because a closer look into the issue between the two of may reveal a sheer case of misconception. Unwanted quarrels can be averted if you listen and understand you partner.

    4. Acknowledge your partner’s feelings and show appreciation

As much as you may feel your partner originated the crisis between the two of you, don’t be too happy to be in the clear; No human is above mistakes. Strive to know why your partner acted the way they did. Acknowledge their feelings in the same vain you would have loved them to acknowledge yours if you were or not to be at fault. You don’t necessarily have to agree with your partner to acknowledge how they feel. Try to look at the issues between the two of you from your partner’s point of view. Your partner deserves support and understanding in the same way you would equally crave to be understood in the face of misunderstandings.

    5. Have a dating mindset even after marriage

During dating period, you must have made extra efforts to be nice to your partner. You must have put in your very best to nurture the relationship until it grew to the next stage. You ought to still continue with that same mentality when married, nothing should change. It isn’t just about just about having dinner every Friday; it is way more than that. For the men, note that women are moved by those little chivalrous gestures like opening the car door for her, looking into her eyes intimately and saying, sweetheart I love you. Those may seem insignificant, but trust me, it works like magic and it also helps to keep your relationship healthy.
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quest3 at 08:33 PM, 12/04/2016 (2 years ago)
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Abegki....make I hear word joor
Person way no love you no love you, if you like make you dey lick him/her ass everyday.
I just dey look those way dey do love things

giftmurphy at 09:46 PM, 12/04/2016 (2 years ago)
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lol Roll Eyes , poster, Cool


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