The Dangers Of Extra-Marital Relationship

Date: 09-02-2010 8:29 pm (14 years ago) | Author: Daniel Bosai
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Recently, a friend sent me an e-mail that I feel should be shared with others. Enjoy!!!

”MARRIAGE….
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell  you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.

I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made  her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, “you are not a  man!”

That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to  our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn’t love  her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car,  and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had  become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had  said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see.

To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks  seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper  but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When  I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep  again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions:

She didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible.. Her reasons  were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken  marriage. This was agreeable to me.

But she had something more. She asked me to recall  how I had carried her into out bridal room on our  wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front  door every morning

I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what  tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.

Our son clapped behind us, “daddy is holding mummy in his arms…” His words brought me a sense of pain. From  the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her  down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of  her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not  young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was turning grey!

Our marriage had taken its toll on  her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had  given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Dew about  this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one.

Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was  the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me…. She had buried so much pain and  bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying  his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged  him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then  held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded  my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a  step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked  intimacy.

I drove to office…. Jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would  make me change my mind… I walked upstairs.. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want  the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. “Do you have a fever?” She said.

I moved her hand off my head. “Sorry, Dew,” I said, “I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably  because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more.. Now  I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us  apart.”

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I  walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife.

The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in  the bed - dead.

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship.

It is not the mansion, the car,  property, the money in the bank, blah….blah…blah.

These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to  be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.

Do have a real happy marriage, if you’re married.”

Being there for each other is what every partner should never ignore.


Posted: at 9-02-2010 08:29 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

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