Girl Needs Advice: 'My Fiancee of 10 years Wants me to Abort my 4th Pregnancy

Date: 02-08-2016 11:12 am (7 years ago) | Author: Bayo Nelson
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- at 2-08-2016 11:12 AM (7 years ago)
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Will just leave this here, lets know your thoughts in the comment section below:
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Dear Naijapals
I have a big problem I want your readers to help with their words of advice. I am 32-years-old and I have been in a relationship with Patrick for the past 10 years but he is not in a hurry to settle down. Patrick is 39-years-old and it's not that he is not capable of settling down but he keeps shifting the post anytime I bring up the issue of marriage. I am also doing well in my job as a banker and my family is no longer comfortable that I have been with a man this long without getting married. My sisters are all married and they have been telling me to move on and get married to another man but I love Patrick and cannot contemplate living without him but he is not just ready.
In our years together, I have taken in three times and always succumbed to his demands to go for an abortion and the last time, the doctor told me I stand the chance of not getting pregnant when I want to. So two months ago, I missed my period again and I am determined to keep the baby but Patrick is not favourably disposed to the idea and has been hankering on me to undergo another abortion.
He has added another dimension that I am planning to pin him down with a baby when he is not ready. He has refused to talk to me since I told him I am not ready to abort this baby.
My friends are of the view that I should dare him and keep the baby but I am afraid he will deny responsibility and my baby would go through life without a father. But at the same time, I am afraid of getting rid of it because of the warning the doctor gave me the last time.
What should I do this time around?



Posted: at 2-08-2016 11:12 AM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- OLUCHI5 at 2-08-2016 11:51 AM (7 years ago)
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u be 'ewu' I hope u know wetin Igbo's dey call 'ewu'?, infact goat better pass u, u don comot three belle and still need advice for what?
Posted: at 2-08-2016 11:51 AM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Slimchery at 2-08-2016 12:03 PM (7 years ago)
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the guy in question is your enermy if you know what is good for you leave that pregnancy because maybe you only have this last chance because this one may ruin your life and you will regret big in future but how could you be with a guy for 10 years and still called him fiancee? i doubt if you on your part know what you want or know ur left and from your right.
Posted: at 2-08-2016 12:03 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- CHRISETTE at 2-08-2016 12:15 PM (7 years ago)
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 Angry I reserve my comment
Posted: at 2-08-2016 12:15 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- ofridoma at 2-08-2016 12:19 PM (7 years ago)
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My dear sister, first and foremost living with a man with out properly married is a sin which our God almighty rebuked that mean to say u re committed fornication and secondly for killing an innocent babies by aborting them u re also guilty of committed another great sin in d sight of our Lord Jesus Christ and God almighty so my advice for u is to ask for forgiveness from God and have a genuine repentance so that u can see the favour of God. And for the man please I will like u to quit the relationship now bfor it's too late so that u will not regret ur life at the end, and lastly for the baby in ur womb don't abort it try to keep it bcos that is ur future joy and glory.
Posted: at 2-08-2016 12:19 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- EDDYPRINCE at 2-08-2016 12:39 PM (7 years ago)
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U ARE JUST TOO STUPID,,, SO U MEAN AFTER 10YEARS YOU BELIEVE SUCH GUY WITHOUT MARRIAGE PLANS LOVES YOU,, YOU MOST BE JOKING.. NOW YOU RE PREGNANT HE WANTS YOU TO ABORT IT AND U ARE ASKING PEOPLE FOOLISH QUESTIONS FOR AN ANSWER. IT IS CLEAR HE WANTS TO SPOIL YOUR LIFE AND HE MOVE ON WITH SOMEONE ELSE. JUST LIVE HIM NOW AND KEEP YOUR PREGNANCY COZ HE WILL NOT MARRY YOU.
Posted: at 2-08-2016 12:39 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Donchijoz at 2-08-2016 12:58 PM (7 years ago)
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You are under spell. U need deliverance
Posted: at 2-08-2016 12:58 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Donchijoz at 2-08-2016 12:59 PM (7 years ago)
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You are under spell. U need deliverance
Posted: at 2-08-2016 12:59 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Zazy at 2-08-2016 01:47 PM (7 years ago)
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leave that guy
Posted: at 2-08-2016 01:47 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- donslmnstvn at 2-08-2016 01:49 PM (7 years ago)
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My dear, so sorry u are into dis mess u called r/ship. I am sure deep down within u, u already know dis r/ship is not the type of r/ship u ever bargained for just dat u are feeling dat if u leave patrick where will u start from after 10yrs of commitment BUT the truth must be told and u have to face the reality dat dis guy won't marry u he will rather look for a younger lady to get marry to and dat is the fact. Open ur eyes and see the handwriting on the wall, love is never enuf to sustain a r/ship, it is obvious patrick is tired of the r/ship and just want to destroy ur life. You love him so much, YES so d question is does he loves u ? NO, so the earlier u quit dis unhealthy r/ship, the better for u. Its hard but u just have to make d decision, You deserve sm1 better dear...'Keep the pregnancy, thank God u are working so u can also take care of the responsibilities.
Posted: at 2-08-2016 01:49 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Tos2130 at 2-08-2016 02:38 PM (7 years ago)
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E don tey wey she don dey kolo oooo 10yrs.                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
Posted: at 2-08-2016 02:38 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Zionson at 2-08-2016 03:07 PM (7 years ago)
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Option 1-abort nd loose womb even though the murderer marries u his co-muderer u won't have an issue nd he will dump u option2 - don't abort dump him and move on.. It's either u dump him ask God for forgiveness of killing three innocent babies or he will dump u
Posted: at 2-08-2016 03:07 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- Oworen25 at 2-08-2016 03:53 PM (7 years ago)
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Stop abortion please
Posted: at 2-08-2016 03:53 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- kison at 2-08-2016 04:32 PM (7 years ago)
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KEEP ON MASTURBATING WITH UR LIFE,, U BETTER BE careful, be very very careful, CAREFULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL……………………………….
Posted: at 2-08-2016 04:32 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- winace at 2-08-2016 05:53 PM (7 years ago)
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Most pals has said my mind already? If she likes she take d advice or leave it.
Posted: at 2-08-2016 05:53 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- dickieponga at 2-08-2016 07:39 PM (7 years ago)
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Poster abeg no vex say i no comment cos nottin concern me with dis foolish girl matter, i just wan ask u about the picture of dis girl wey
u dey use all the time. I mean d picture u use now abeg u fit give me her number...
Posted: at 2-08-2016 07:39 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- dickieponga at 2-08-2016 07:45 PM (7 years ago)
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Pls stay with the guy he is d man for u and since u can abort 3 babies u can also abort 4 so no big deal..D man has stayed with u for 10yrs wat else do u want for crying out loud and if u leave him where will u get anoda man from..
There is man shortage all over d world and keep telling him anytime he wants u to abort u will always do it no matter wat..
Both of u are tailor made for each other. Pls don't listen to dese people advising u or ur family i blive dis man is d perfect man for u..
Ewu katakata....Stay blessed...
Posted: at 2-08-2016 07:45 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- privacy at 2-08-2016 08:24 PM (7 years ago)
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Pls leave d baby,nd discharge d man cos he is a hopeless man nd u have no future wit him
Posted: at 2-08-2016 08:24 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- schmit at 2-08-2016 08:36 PM (7 years ago)
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Keep  mumuing
Posted: at 2-08-2016 08:36 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- waffibabe at 2-08-2016 09:31 PM (7 years ago)
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I am not a well know prophetess but I am telling you to keep the baby. Order wise you will regret for the rest of your life should you abort the baby
Posted: at 2-08-2016 09:31 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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