"I Stood My Husband When He Had Nothing Now He Wants Me Out" Woman Cries For Help (Details)

Date: 08-03-2017 10:18 am (7 years ago) | Author: onuigbo felicia
- at 8-03-2017 10:18 AM (7 years ago)
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DEAR NAIJAPAL:
My name is Lizzy, a 36-year-old married woman with four children. I have been married for 15 years now but as I write this with tears in my eyes, my marriage is about to crash due to no fault of mine.
My husband, Fred, is hell bent on taking a new wife now that things have looked up for him. This is the time that he family believes he is man enough to take a new wife to befit his status.
Fred has forgotten that I was the one who stood by him when things were so bad and his so called friends and family abandoned him.
He has failed to remember how much I suffered shame, disgrace, mockery and degradation just because I stood by him against the advice of my family because I knew that things would be better one day.
When I met and fell in love with Fred, he was just a struggling young man who had next to nothing. He worked in a shipping company but the salary was so poor that he could not even afford a decent accommodation.
He lived in a boys quarter in a crowded compound in a Lagos suburb but I did not mind because I loved him with all my heart. I was practically fending for Fred with my little salary. I would borrow money from my friends and even my office to take care of Fred.
I would even collect money from men who asked me out only to spend on Fred, believing that I was investing in my future husband.
Then I got pregnant and we had to get married but Fred did not have any money for us to solemnize our marriage, so I had to take a loan from my office and borrow from my sisters just so that we would cover our shame.
After our wedding, I had to source for money for us to get a better apartment and we moved in. I was the one taking care of the home from day one as Fred's office was owing him for so many months.
For good eight years, I was the one taking care of the home, paying the rent, school fees, food and gave my husband pocket money as well.
Even when I wanted to complain, I had to caution myself, knowing that everyone would blame me if they got to hear what we were going through.
Then God smiled on us when Fred got a contract to help clear some good for a manufacturing company and that was when the big break came. He did a very good job of it and the company placed him on a retainership.
From there, other jobs came and he set up his own clearing agency and later went into the importation of goods himself. Within a short while, the business flourished and things took a turn for the better.
Within five years, we had moved into our own house, our children moved to a better private school and things looked up for us.
But just when I was thanking God for enduring with my husband and getting set to eat the fruits of my labour, Fred dealt me a heavy blow by telling me he wanted to take a second wife.
He explained that he family and community wanted him to take a title that would require him to take another wife. I was shocked and when I questioned him where those people were when we were passing through hell, my husband just walked out on me.
He even had the guts to tell me to calculate how much I spent while he had nothing so that he could pay me off. he has vowed that nothing would stop him from taking the second wife and has told me that I either take the situation as it is or I pack out of his house.
I have been crying so much and I keep wondering how treacherous a man can be. I need help fast.
Lizzy."
Dear readers, having gone through Lizzy's heartbreaking story on Morning Teaser today, what do you think she should do?

Posted: at 8-03-2017 10:18 AM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- Oluyinkus at 8-03-2017 10:34 AM (7 years ago)
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The next step is for you to go to prayer city that God should scatter his plan and give you victory
Posted: at 8-03-2017 10:34 AM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- Jeonleon at 8-03-2017 10:42 AM (7 years ago)
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Quote from: Oluyinkus on  8-03-2017 10:34 AM
The next step is for you to go to prayer city that God should scatter his plan and give you victory

That's the only option left for her. Some men dey fall hand, seriously...
Posted: at 8-03-2017 10:42 AM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- schmit at 8-03-2017 10:44 AM (7 years ago)
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Yeye man
Posted: at 8-03-2017 10:44 AM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- akinmanchy at 8-03-2017 10:52 AM (7 years ago)
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Hmmmm so the summary of everything be say u nor wan share the banana with any other woman lol. On a serious note, take it to God in prayers madam only Him can help in these situations

Posted: at 8-03-2017 10:52 AM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- beneno at 8-03-2017 11:15 AM (7 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 8-03-2017 11:15 AM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- OLOWOBABA10 at 8-03-2017 11:39 AM (7 years ago)
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GO TO THE WAR ROOM AND PRESENT YOUR MATTER TO GOD ALMIGHTY !
Posted: at 8-03-2017 11:39 AM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- EMMYBOSS at 8-03-2017 11:49 AM (7 years ago)
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I fell your pain woman.  While it is good for you to pray and fast in this matter, it is also important for you to relax your mind as the REAL WIFE.  Show more Love than hatred, more of Caring than nagging.  Be patient and see God in action.  If you habour hatred in your heart, if you are unforgiving, sorry God will not hear you no matter how long you pray and fast.  God will see you through.  Goodluck.
Posted: at 8-03-2017 11:49 AM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Larry28 at 8-03-2017 12:52 PM (7 years ago)
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Quote from: Jeonleon on  8-03-2017 10:42 AM
That's the only option left for her. Some men dey fall hand, seriously...
Posted: at 8-03-2017 12:52 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- Mykie010 at 8-03-2017 02:09 PM (7 years ago)
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This is a serous matter.
Posted: at 8-03-2017 02:09 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- waytoheaven at 8-03-2017 03:55 PM (7 years ago)
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we nigerians,we can pray..!! We just pray for anything sha like say na God do am,we as much as she wanna pray,I would advise her,look into ur sef,what re u doing wrong nw that makes him not to see u as attractive for him to look outside,listen,get good money from him and ve ur own bizness first of all and then wait for him toget married to another lady,if truly u aren't at fault,the new wife will surely pack away his fortune then u will be remembered but mind u,u need to get as much as possible money frm him first so u won't be depending on him and focus on ur child,u catered for him be4 maybe by sleepin ard and collectn money frm other men so just let him achieve his aim
Posted: at 8-03-2017 03:55 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- concentrate at 8-03-2017 05:24 PM (7 years ago)
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The man is setting a dangerous trap for himself.
Posted: at 8-03-2017 05:24 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- concentrate at 8-03-2017 05:24 PM (7 years ago)
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The man is setting a dangerous trap for himself.
Posted: at 8-03-2017 05:24 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kacylee at 8-03-2017 08:26 PM (7 years ago)
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MEN MEN MEN Angry Angry Angry

Posted: at 8-03-2017 08:26 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- 24magic at 9-03-2017 08:05 AM (7 years ago)
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It's a pity, pray harder woman
Posted: at 9-03-2017 08:05 AM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- BournIdentity at 29-03-2017 11:18 AM (6 years ago)
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No ya
     
Posted: at 29-03-2017 11:18 AM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- BournIdentity at 31-03-2017 04:12 AM (6 years ago)
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I go
   
Posted: at 31-03-2017 04:12 AM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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