SAY WHAT? Single Female Pastor Without a Husband Gets Pregnant, Says She Will Continue Preaching

Date: 16-06-2017 10:40 am (6 years ago) | Author: onuigbo felicia
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An unmarried American preacher, Desiree Allen, who got pregnant with twins after engaging in premarital sex with her fiancé, has said that worse things happen in the church leadership.
Pastor Allen serves as the pastor of arts and spiritual formation of First Corinthian Baptist Church in New York City, as well as the director of Harlem’s The Dream Center.
She said she was proud of her pregnancy and would continue to stand on the pulpit to talk about the danger of sin.
Miss Allen, in a long account she shared on her blog, noted that some top members of her church drink, engage in hard drugs, have sex outside marriage and so forth, but people don’t frown at those acts.
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“What had my stomach turning, other than nausea, was me being pregnant AND a pastor.
“Let’s face it. The church has not had a good track record of accepting unmarried women who got pregnant.
“If you’ve been in church for any period of time you’ve heard or witnessed the aftermath.
“Shunning, slut shaming, being sat down from your position, having to go up in front of the church and confess your sin, etc. etc. No one can be naïve enough to say this type of stuff doesn’t happen in church.
“An ugly truth is people in church leadership have sex outside of marriage, affairs, do drugs, drink, so on and so forth. Generally, these are not considered acceptable acts.
“BUT I have seen many churches turn a blind eye to this behavior because it can be hidden. Don’t ask.
“Don’t tell. To be pregnant is a very visible indication of a private act and for some reason provides people with more of a need to respond.
“You may as well Scarlet Letter it up and place a big ole S on your chest for sex Hester Prynne-style.
“The church’ is already harsher on women for their ‘crimes,’ but being a pastor also meant that both me and my fiancé were going to go through this publicly.
“I didn’t know what that meant, how it would affect my job and if I was prepared to deal with it.
“Pregnancy already inherently diminishes some anonymity as people feel it their right to invade your personal space, offer up unsolicited advice and ask you private questions.
“Pastorship inherently makes some feel your personal life is their public business as you lose some sense of individuality for the sake of belonging to the church.
“As a pretty private person I had always struggled with the latter. Adding pregnancy seemed like my worse nightmare.
“It was not as if I had a blueprint for this in my church. My pastors had been very open about having their first child while unmarried in college. That was more than 20 years ago.
“They were young. None of us were there. They were not pastors then. It was in the past enough to be hazy memory and turn into a testimony.”

Posted: at 16-06-2017 10:40 AM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- gogoman at 16-06-2017 10:46 AM (6 years ago)
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pastor no mind dem jare, dey all do it all the time
Posted: at 16-06-2017 10:46 AM (6 years ago) | Grande Master
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- maizaxx at 16-06-2017 11:03 AM (6 years ago)
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Hmm she has gone on the defensive. When she knew those guys were drinking and doing all these things did the church condemn those acts? Are you justifying your sin?
Posted: at 16-06-2017 11:03 AM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dubemchris27 at 16-06-2017 11:08 AM (6 years ago)
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She was trying to justify her short coming..... off course, is because of this very ugly act amongst brethren that Apostle Paul made is imperative that one gets Married...If another does it, does not make it right.

Posted: at 16-06-2017 11:08 AM (6 years ago) | Newbie
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- chukkychukky at 16-06-2017 11:14 AM (6 years ago)
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u carry belle dey preach and u still get mouth

Posted: at 16-06-2017 11:14 AM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Afriqueenn at 16-06-2017 11:18 AM (6 years ago)
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Na und?
We all sin every day; some sins are just worse than others.
I prefer a pregnant -out-of -wedlock pastor to a terrorist whose sole purpose on earth is to kill and destroy what he cannot create or a religion that supports such
Posted: at 16-06-2017 11:18 AM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Albayaan at 16-06-2017 11:46 AM (6 years ago)
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Nothing we no go see
Posted: at 16-06-2017 11:46 AM (6 years ago) | Newbie
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- cypanyahucha at 16-06-2017 12:11 PM (6 years ago)
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Short of words. Pastor justifying sin!!!! No matter how you paint it, sin is sin but judgement shall start from the household of God. I wonder what the led will do following this unfortunate circumsatance.
Posted: at 16-06-2017 12:11 PM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pricklong at 16-06-2017 02:14 PM (6 years ago)
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This is American anything is possible some pastor collect money from member i see not bad she has her boyfriend  so pastor rad on
Posted: at 16-06-2017 02:14 PM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pricklong at 16-06-2017 02:15 PM (6 years ago)
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This is American anything is possible some pastor collect money from member i see nohing  bad she has her boyfriend  so pastor rad on
Posted: at 16-06-2017 02:15 PM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osarobo62 at 16-06-2017 02:33 PM (6 years ago)
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i don't blame her.....i blame any idiot that is left in the church to listen to her scams
Posted: at 16-06-2017 02:33 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
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- ruthie at 16-06-2017 02:45 PM (6 years ago)
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shameless woman, she ought to vacate her position.
Posted: at 16-06-2017 02:45 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
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- benosky4 at 16-06-2017 04:19 PM (6 years ago)
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God is very patient,
Had it being amadioha... The thunder will be straight from ogun state.

Posted: at 16-06-2017 04:19 PM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kacylee at 16-06-2017 07:10 PM (6 years ago)
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ok another virgin Mary isorat!!!

Posted: at 16-06-2017 07:10 PM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Hessehele at 17-06-2017 07:30 AM (6 years ago)
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EVEN THE NAME OF THE CHURCH GET K LEG!  ARTS AND SPIRITUAL _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _  YEYE PEOPLE
Posted: at 17-06-2017 07:30 AM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Larry28 at 17-06-2017 02:34 PM (6 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 17-06-2017 02:34 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
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- osayan1 at 22-06-2017 10:15 AM (6 years ago)
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It is welll
Posted: at 22-06-2017 10:15 AM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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