THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION ? What could be the Matter these days ???

Date: 05-04-2010 2:46 am (14 years ago) | Author: Addy Flyhigh Soul
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And the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him"

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh "

-GEN 2: 18, 24


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But... Alas    Whats happening to the Marriage institution these days being rocked by institutional strife almost everywhere we know of  ?

This is even  more so in the Western countries such as Britain USA Australia and Canada to name just a few 
and also at  home in Nigeria .  Lots of eligible men are suddenly  so damn reluctant to take the sacred vow these days. Few others inside are wanting out . 
Is it all due to the nature of the times -  That the country is so  hard and one is  better off taking care of oneself  first than assuming  a responsibility one is not so sure of sustaining ?
Yet some have been there and have made the most of it .  Do they have a secret of survival or sustenance ?  Other aspirers who are holding on may have a good reason to tarry a while . What have you to share ?? oh btw i am not innocent in any way


Posted: at 5-04-2010 02:46 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
- Tuks at 5-04-2010 03:04 AM (14 years ago)
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The foundation for marriage is d main thing dat sustains d union.....Back in d dayz,d foundation included love,trust,understandin,n a few other stuffs.But diz days most marriages r built on tinz dat may not stand tryin times in d union.....
Posted: at 5-04-2010 03:04 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spekay at 5-04-2010 12:37 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Tuks on  5-04-2010 03:04 AM
The foundation for marriage is d main thing dat sustains d union.....Back in d dayz,d foundation included love,trust,understandin,n a few other stuffs.But diz days most marriages r built on tinz dat may not stand tryin times in d union.....

thanks - how about the supporting role of the extended family as a contributing factor

Posted: at 5-04-2010 12:37 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- blings_is_back at 5-04-2010 12:50 PM (14 years ago)
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Some people dont know what marriage is all about and  they jump into it, while some other are forced into it... while some never took time to know who they want to marry until they are married and everything falls apart
Posted: at 5-04-2010 12:50 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- ebony_cutie at 5-04-2010 12:55 PM (14 years ago)
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Posted: at 5-04-2010 12:55 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- blings_is_back at 5-04-2010 01:04 PM (14 years ago)
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why kpom kpom na?
Posted: at 5-04-2010 01:04 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- mazi at 5-04-2010 01:06 PM (14 years ago)
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to each his/her own...poster i'm sure u nt married.
so u won't understand.
Posted: at 5-04-2010 01:06 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- wunzie at 5-04-2010 01:14 PM (14 years ago)
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@ spekay, nice to see you in this section. It's  a scary topic i must admit.

Posted: at 5-04-2010 01:14 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spekay at 5-04-2010 02:18 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: mazi on  5-04-2010 01:06 PM
to each his/her own...poster i'm sure u nt married.
so u won't understand.


LOL  and u r really really really so sure ??
PLS TRY TO BE VERY SURE THE POSTERS KNOWS NO MARRIAGE

Posted: at 5-04-2010 02:18 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spekay at 5-04-2010 02:23 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: blings_is_back on  5-04-2010 12:50 PM
Some people dont know what marriage is all about and  they jump into it, while some other are forced into it... while some never took time to know who they want to marry until they are married and everything falls apart

Yes you are so very righhttttttttttttttt !

But I use to think forced marriage used to be common only in those times gone by .
these days people see the marriage opportunity and they sidestep it .  Lol
changing priorities ???

Posted: at 5-04-2010 02:23 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spekay at 5-04-2010 02:27 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: wunzie on  5-04-2010 01:14 PM
@ spekay, nice to see you in this section. It's  a scary topic i must admit.

what appears to be so scary about it wunzie ..  ??
I was watching a documentary today about the same trends outline above which i even thought was only limited to the western world but  that doc focused on japanese youths .  experiencing exactly the same sentiments  thats in the far east /orient .   What a trend !!!!

Posted: at 5-04-2010 02:27 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- HOPEA23 at 5-04-2010 02:31 PM (14 years ago)
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Marriage is not a thing a person rush into.
To sustains a marriage is been faithful,respect ur partner,Do not underestimates,Patience,Have a good sense of humor and e.t.c.it takes alot of work not an easy task..but sha this post is an old topic.

Posted: at 5-04-2010 02:31 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- spekay at 5-04-2010 03:05 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: HOPEA23 on  5-04-2010 02:31 PM
Marriage is not a thing a person rush into.
To sustains a marriage is been faithful,respect ur partner,Do not underestimates,Patience,Have a good sense of humor and e.t.c.it takes alot of work not an easy task..but sha this post is an old topic.

Thank you so much .  for an old topic many would have missed it who just come to NP like myself  maybe the reason we might have it enlightening  to share with other newer folks even the old ones might wish to look at it from another perspective . Marriage as an institution is important its the bedrock of the society. with the ripple effects outreaching to the widest ends of the society. can we ever exhaust the topic .
Thank God we have wise people like you around to share with

Posted: at 5-04-2010 03:05 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mazi at 5-04-2010 03:30 PM (14 years ago)
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easy to theorize....try getting stuck in one..
finish ur honey moon....then getting to knw d real ppl(u nd ur spouse)....God help u if d sex is nt spicy enough.
...then d woman drop first engine....okokobioko!!!
Posted: at 5-04-2010 03:30 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- nickyvil at 5-04-2010 03:38 PM (14 years ago)
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Which one b dis Mazi
Posted: at 5-04-2010 03:38 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- wunzie at 5-04-2010 03:45 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: spekay on  5-04-2010 02:27 PM
Quote from: wunzie on  5-04-2010 01:14 PM
@ spekay, nice to see you in this section. It's  a scary topic i must admit.

what appears to be so scary about it wunzie ..  ??
I was watching a documentary today about the same trends outline above which i even thought was only limited to the western world but  that doc focused on japanese youths .  experiencing exactly the same sentiments  thats in the far east /orient .   What a trend !!!!



Hey, i know  marriage is an institution established by God hence nothing should be scary about it. Is my personal opinion a general
trend in modern day Africa?  i don't think so.  What's the point of going into something that would probably  not endure the mist of time anyway?

Posted: at 5-04-2010 03:45 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- naijadbest at 5-04-2010 03:50 PM (14 years ago)
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i dey go marry tomorrow
Posted: at 5-04-2010 03:50 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- spekay at 6-04-2010 12:27 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: naijadbest on  5-04-2010 03:50 PM
i dey go marry tomorrow

If you are prepared for it , why not . 
GOODLUCK ....  :)

Posted: at 6-04-2010 12:27 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spekay at 6-04-2010 12:31 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: wunzie on  5-04-2010 03:45 PM
Quote from: spekay on  5-04-2010 02:27 PM
Quote from: wunzie on  5-04-2010 01:14 PM
@ spekay, nice to see you in this section. It's  a scary topic i must admit.

what appears to be so scary about it wunzie ..  ??
I was watching a documentary today about the same trends outline above which i even thought was only limited to the western world but  that doc focused on japanese youths .  experiencing exactly the same sentiments  thats in the far east /orient .   What a trend !!!!





Hey, i know  marriage is an institution established by God hence nothing should be scary about it. Is my personal opinion a general
trend in modern day Africa?  i don't think so.  What's the point of going into something that would probably  not endure the mist of time anyway?


Good question !
I am also of the impression that perhaps    ...  Some people see marriage differently. Its still better than staying single if people are willing to sacrifice endure and practice true love and avoid infidelity both patners will end up so much the better for it provided they truly mean to give it what it takes .  Marriages do last with the right couple

Posted: at 6-04-2010 12:31 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Dguy at 6-04-2010 12:37 PM (14 years ago)
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Agree with Tuks on this one... it all depends on the foundation of the marriage.

If the foundation is not solid enough, its just a matter of getting to the storms before it collapses

Posted: at 6-04-2010 12:37 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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