Lawyer and activist, Emeka Ugwuonye shared his client’s story of domestic abuse. The victim, Mrs Favour Ogbonna, has endured physical and mental abuse from her husband since they got married in 2015. In fact, the beating started barely a month after their wedding.
The latest incident which occurred last June led to the loss of their twins. Read her story below:
MY ORDEAL IN MARRIAGE 2015 – 2017
Good morning! My name is Favour Ogbonna. I married and wedded on the 22nd 23rd of August, 2015 and return to my husband’s place after our traditional marriage. My ordeal started just a month after.
Sept 2015: a month after I was beaten up by my husband in the present of his mother bcos my daddy called him on the phone n they were discussing at the end he requested for provision but he was joking. My husband called his mother and started insulting my parents n i told him to stop insulting them he started beating me.
March 2016: I went for antinental and was given bill which I paid. The next day my husband ask me how much I spent and I told him, he said that the bill is too much why didn’t I price and I told him that is not easy to argue for bills in the hospital. He started beating me and I rushed to my uncle who called him and cautioned him and we went back to the house.
April 2016: I over heard my husband discussing on the phone with his friend, after the discussion, my husband started insulting me and my parents:I asked, him to stop that he started beating me and he seized everything he bought for me and ask me to go. This issue was settled by our marriage parents.
May 2016: my husband was annoyed that some of his clothes which he washed and spread outside were forgotten, for this reason he kept me hungry for two days. I nearly lost my pregnancy bcos of hunger. His sister settled this issue.
July 2016: I was beaten and stri*ped unclad in open yard in the morning. In the evening of the same day, I was also beaten mercilessly. Later, my husband ran away for three days I was left without food and I was forced to pack all my belongings to my father’s house.
Sept 2016: my husband came to my father’s house and revealed why he has not been happy with me and my parents. He said that I belong to CULT GROUP, that he was informed that I am harlot agent while in the University, that he wanted to terminate the marriage long ago but because of the pregnancy he didn’t do it. June 2017 :this date is unforgettable in my life. I was so mercilessly battered by my husband that I felt unconscious with blood gushing all over my body, still he held me on the ground and continued beating me. It took the intervention of a passing by which his sister called before I was rescued a life.
The mother of my husband is against the marriage because according to her I’m not from their side. During the latest beating, one month pregnancy of twin was aborted by the beating. This was reported by the doctor and conveyed to him.
The irony of the whole thing now is that my husband is accusing me of infidelity and he is now questioning the paternity of the 13 months old baby. And I sued him to court.
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Posted: at 16-08-2017 05:44 PM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
ngfineface at 16-08-2017 07:56 PM (6 years ago) (f)
All I read here is beating her beating her. In paragraph one, it shows that her family is dependant on her husband otherwise why would a father in law be asking for something as cheap as provisions from son inlaw weda its real or play? The lady is not working, I assume. No man wants a liability except of course he is super rich. Now, if she claims the beating started days after their wedding that means she saw the warning signs but choose to stay. Her husband will not just wake up and start hitting her because she told him not to insult her parents or because she listen to phone conversation or never cut down hospital bills. How was her tone when she was talking to her man? I'm not taking sides, I hate domestic violence but there's always a reaction to an action most especially in a marriage where income is one sided. If at the end of the day it was discovered her man was just hitting her for nothing, then his brain need to be checked. Let's wait for his own side of the story.
Posted: at 16-08-2017 07:56 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
All I read here is beating her beating her. In paragraph one, it shows that her family is dependant on her husband otherwise why would a father in law be asking for something as cheap as provisions from son inlaw weda its real or play? The lady is not working, I assume. No man wants a liability except of course he is super rich. Now, if she claims the beating started days after their wedding that means she saw the warning signs but choose to stay. Her husband will not just wake up and start hitting her because she told him not to insult her parents or because she listen to phone conversation or never cut down hospital bills. How was her tone when she was talking to her man? I'm not taking sides, I hate domestic violence but there's always a reaction to an action most especially in a marriage where income is one sided. If at the end of the day it was discovered her man was just hitting her for nothing, then his brain need to be checked. Let's wait for his own side of the story.
. You really made sense
Posted: at 16-08-2017 11:03 PM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Bros, that is correct, most time people talk about the man beating and beating, I am not supporting the man for beating his wife, but we all know that most women are devil themselves, the major problems men are facing today are women, you have small, they complain, they need big, you have big, you don't have rest, they will suspect you having another woman, they continue comparing you to those out side. they have not tell us the real truth about the domestic violence, not just to post picture. the man is not mad otherwise the family will not have giving out their daughter for marriage. the woman should tell the world what she has done also to provoke the man. so bros you are right. no smoke without fire. but the same time men should learn to control their anger and see women as talkative.
Posted: at 17-08-2017 08:52 AM (6 years ago) | Newbie
cypanyahucha at 17-08-2017 09:17 AM (6 years ago) (m)
Quote from: j2012h on 17-08-2017 08:52 AM
Bros, that is correct, most time people talk about the man beating and beating, I am not supporting the man for beating his wife, but we all know that most women are devil themselves, the major problems men are facing today are women, you have small, they complain, they need big, you have big, you don't have rest, they will suspect you having another woman, they continue comparing you to those out side. they have not tell us the real truth about the domestic violence, not just to post picture. the man is not mad otherwise the family will not have giving out their daughter for marriage. the woman should tell the world what she has done also to provoke the man. so bros you are right. no smoke without fire. but the same time men should learn to control their anger and see women as talkative.
There are better approaches than beating. As far as I know, no partner in marriage is a saint. Marriage is all about tolerance and betting is surely not the best of options. Your wife is not an animal. Maltreating an animal is unlawful not to talk of a human.
Posted: at 17-08-2017 09:17 AM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
ngfineface at 17-08-2017 05:43 PM (6 years ago) (f)
Quote from: cypanyahucha on 17-08-2017 09:17 AM
There are better approaches than beating. As far as I know, no partner in marriage is a saint. Marriage is all about tolerance and betting is surely not the best of options. Your wife is not an animal. Maltreating an animal is unlawful not to talk of a human.
Button line is that women should learn to respect their husbands. You can't run a razor blade mouth and expect the man not to be provoked. Any woman that want to do so should please marry a very older man. They are more tolerant. Can Okoya ever beat Shade no matter what? Again, for the woman to have kept all the date means its long she started planing her game. Some women are tired of their marriage and will only use emotion in the name of domestic violence to seek divorce. Marriage is a school of learning and tolerance. Its a place where a woman should tolerate what she ordinarily cannot tolerate in her father's house both from husband and in laws. Domestic violence is bad but let's parties help themselves with good conduct first.
Posted: at 17-08-2017 05:43 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
Button line is that women should learn to respect their husbands. You can't run a razor blade mouth and expect the man not to be provoked. Any woman that want to do so should please marry a very older man. They are more tolerant. Can Okoya ever beat Shade no matter what? Again, for the woman to have kept all the date means its long she started planing her game. Some women are tired of their marriage and will only use emotion in the name of domestic violence to seek divorce. Marriage is a school of learning and tolerance. Its a place where a woman should tolerate what she ordinarily cannot tolerate in her father's house both from husband and in laws. Domestic violence is bad but let's parties help themselves with good conduct first.
please people should also post when their husband or wife is doing well, not only the bad time.
Posted: at 17-08-2017 08:30 PM (6 years ago) | Newbie
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