ONLY Married couples ears (Page 2)

i support ericaakpan, but i want to add you can rent a little apartment away from your home wey una fit use dey shag for afternoon to ensure privacy and no disturbance from troublesome children. you can scream as loud as in the olden days of the relationship without setting a bad example for the kids. it also gives the feeling of a shared secret helping you to remain close.

poster, once the children come into the picture, u are deprived of privacy, romantic outings, and unscheduled sex.

when a couple becomes working partners they begin to have routine sex and that when it becomes a bore. u and your spouse have to find ways to be creative.

dont let little problems get in your way such as not being able to find/afford a baby sitter

you need to do three times as much to keep your mate as you did to win your mate.

Why is sex better in the beging of a relationship than after the first child ?

Cos after the first child the woman discover the joy of motherhood and most times it overwhelms her and she gets so engrossed in tending to being a mother that she forgets she was first a wife. The man trying to be mature about loosing his attention to a helpless baby usually keeps quiet or overreacts to the new circumstances and her change in attitude towards him. Bla bla bla...
I wonder if people realize that marital sex is more than just sex even when its just a quikie?


Why do men really show u their affection, in the first few months of the relationship( exp: take u out, buy u the best from the shop? ....)


Cos everybody wants something and some people will pretend to U to get what they want from U and once they have it, why lobby any more? Solution, go for character and demand to get what U deserve. A man that is naturally a giver and a sucker for pleasing U will continue to be that for as long as u do not treat him with contempt or disdain and always respect his love for U. If he thinks Ur worth the effort, he will.

"When i ask why is sex better in the first few months of years of a relationship/Marriage?
What make sex really kinky in the first peiod of marriage, what changes after the the first issue comes? Why can't u both do the same things u use to do, before the children came?"

Same reason as above.

How can men/Women retify this mistake?

Men: Be understanding with Ur wife when she's just had Ur first child. Support her and celebrate her and her new status of becoming a mother with her. Love her and let the love flow to the child. Be a man then more than ever before and control Ur libido. What many guys don't know is when a girl/woman loves U because she sees U truly love her she'll give U (Now or soon) any kind of sex U want (even the one she myt find repulsive on a normal day). Tell her how U feel about her and compliment her body even after child birth. make her know U still desire her and U would rather get satisfaction from her than from any other woman (cos it's not like U cant be like the other weak men who would just find lesser alternatives to their distracted wives).
Now if Ur maturity about the whole thing doesn't work as soon as U expect and U know they were more than manipulative effort to get sex from her, U should know it's time to put Ur libido in a coma. Just find other non-segxwal things to busy Ur mind with. Get more engrossed with work and find satisfaction from it so much it feels like having a child of Ur own. Get int sports again. Set new goals and targets for Urself and meet them. If there is one thing a woman in love will not take it is anything else (good or evil, helpful or harmful) distracting her man from her, even when she is distracted from him. Sometimes U have to retreat to provoke the attack U desire. In summary, don't pressure her. Cajole her. Woo her. recognize the competition and show Urself the MAN!


Women: Well what can I say, Know that before U were a mother, U were a husband and that the child will grow up and leave U and that man for whom U fathered it alone. understand that most men are weak and will go out and sleep with other girls that are not worthy to be sharing Ur penis with U. Understand that a man can grow to despise Ur child with him on account of Ur showing favoritism towards the child and preferring that child over him (Men are babies o and babies fight dirty); So also a man's love for a woman will always overflow to those she loves after him whether they are related to him or or her or not. Understand that it is still Ur responsibility to keep that man focused on U and to keep him satisfied. Understand that the man will more than enjoy providing for U and the child, protecting and nurturing U and him/her joyfully when he can see evidently that U are not just overjoyed having a child but having HIS child. NEVER refer to Ur child(ren) as MY Children... ALWAYS OUR CHILDREN.
Ur first child is Ur husband and he will be the child U have to make U happy when U are old and all those in between him are grown and gone.
Never loose touch with reality for anything.