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Can you marry som1 you are not sexually attracted to?

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Topic: Can you marry som1 you are not sexually attracted to? (Read 6545 times)
sophiebaby (31630)
4 years ago

I feel it will not be fair to your partner (and yourself also) if you go into a marriage if there is no compatibility in this area. Personally, I feel it could lead to lack of respect, lack of intimacy, frustration, discontent and ultimately divorce.

Some men cheat because they no longer find their wives attractive with leads to a lack of interest in the bedroom also. Sometimes people claim to fall out of love but actually the attraction is what has gone away. Maybe it has to do with issues such as personal hygiene(Mouth or body odour) etc.

Those in arranged marriages or ladies who marry for money are very susceptible to this and can easily stray if the right temptation comes along(forget that anyone claimed virgin before they married). Some may even say the love for their partner goes beyond sex but what's it like to marry someone you love but can't love in the bedroom(this is not about teaching, I mean a total absence of attraction, spark and chemistry)? Some people who hurriedly married virgins should understand this.

Now there's a danger in marrying virgins because some of them never "ever" get to a point where they can be comfortable or desire sex unless for reproductive purposes, leaving the man(who decides not to cheat) in a mix. It works the other way too when a man or woman is too slow in catching up, it turns the other party off entirely.So for those who don't believe in sampling before marriage(not that I'm encouraging it), it's a bit of a pickle when you get married and open up a world of surprises.

So the question is, will you do it?

For love?
For money?
For security?
For your parents sake?
For celibacy sake(Virgins)?




14 Jul 10, 10:26 AM
xter (26208)
4 years ago

yes, i can. Afterall i can still go out and enjoy myself


14 Jul 10, 10:28 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

u all can just hit it everynight....lol

14 Jul 10, 10:36 AM
xter (26208)
4 years ago

is dat wat u have in ur mind?


14 Jul 10, 10:38 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

nah...my mind is as innocent as a lamb...and so am i...

14 Jul 10, 10:40 AM
sophiebaby (31630)
4 years ago

hmmmmm


14 Jul 10, 10:41 AM
bhl72 (1125)
4 years ago

Marriage, which is for better, for worse? It is enough to be with someone you love and go thru the difficulties that life present together. I can't marry someone am not attracted to... It is the begginning of the end; but this beginning will have no end itself. Forget divorce, everyday una go dey see, no person go die leave the other... it's hell!

14 Jul 10, 10:43 AM
bhl72 (1125)
4 years ago

Quote from: blackberryPearl on 14 Jul 10, 10:40 AM
nah...my mind is as innocent as a lamb...and so am i...

na u talk am...

14 Jul 10, 10:44 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

Quote from: bhl72 on 14 Jul 10, 10:44 AM
Quote from: blackberryPearl on 14 Jul 10, 10:40 AM
nah...my mind is as innocent as a lamb...and so am i...

na u talk am...
thank u...and am glad that u knw...

14 Jul 10, 10:46 AM
xter (26208)
4 years ago

bbp, and wat makes u think lambs are innocent? Check out naija lambs,they are more stubborn than human


14 Jul 10, 10:47 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

well,...ama put u to ur words..u said naija lambs...i ain't no naija lamb...

14 Jul 10, 10:51 AM
xter (26208)
4 years ago

lambs generally are not innocent they're just pretenders


14 Jul 10, 10:53 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

Quote from: xter on 14 Jul 10, 10:53 AM
lambs generally are not innocent they're just pretenders
well,...what is inocent to u?...think of that,..and u will see me...think of something u won't dare touch or mess with...u will see me..

14 Jul 10, 10:54 AM
xter (26208)
4 years ago

lol.....1st time i'm laffing here in 3months. So u can be trusted bbp?


14 Jul 10, 10:57 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

first of all,..am glad u were able to laugh a couple...hopefully ur not ROFLUFAO..lol..second and last,..i can be trusted..n just trust...some people r like i trust u girl so u gotta....
TRUST WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED......LOL

14 Jul 10, 11:00 AM
esonu (13643)
4 years ago

did any one see me here today? nope


14 Jul 10, 11:03 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

I JUST SAW UR PUNK ASS WALK BY...LOL

14 Jul 10, 11:04 AM
xter (26208)
4 years ago

with no strings attached? Let me put dat in my mind. but stil,can i really bank on u 100%?


14 Jul 10, 11:06 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

YEAH U CAN....U DON'T NEED TO ASK...

14 Jul 10, 11:06 AM
blackberryPearl (13933)
4 years ago

WAIT WHAT DOES BANKING ON ME MEAN?...

14 Jul 10, 11:07 AM
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