When you want to build a house, there must be pillars, without which the house can not stand. A house must at least have 4 pillars.
Likewise in relationships, there are things that keep it going, which I call pillars too. Personally, I think the four pillars of a relationship are Communication, Compatibility, Trust and Love.
Now, we want to build this skyscraper called RELATIONSHIP, therefore we need more pillars.
Please add more pillars and explain what those pillars are. But if you think any of my 4 pillars is not strong enough to be amongst the main pillar, please replace it with yours.
Oya, let's do this!.....brb to explain my pillars!
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Posted: at 20-07-2010 12:57 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 20-07-2010 01:01 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Communication: When couples start out initially, they allow a lot of communication between them but soon they communicate less. When this happens, a crack is easily noticed in such a relationship. Communication is very important and must be a-two-way thing. When only one partner makes effort to communicate, things soon turns out sour for the relationship. What do you think helps long distance relationship to flourish? Communication of course! Without communication such a relationship would die a natural death. Thank God for the advent of GSM, we can all reach out to our loved ones by such means. Even for those that are staying together, you need a lot of communication. When there is conflict, you employ communication to settle it.
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Posted: at 20-07-2010 01:01 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 20-07-2010 01:05 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Compatibility: Can you imagine living with someone you aren’t compatible with? Experience has shown that it is better to move with someone who compliments you. Or isn’t that why your spouse is called your better-half? But then are you really ready to live with someone who does or sees things differently? If you are the out-going type, don’t you think you really need the indoor type to compliment you?
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Posted: at 20-07-2010 01:05 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
Dupsyexotic at 20-07-2010 01:13 PM (13 years ago) (f)
sorri , are u trying to say that the person that compliments u, has to be sb with the opposite behaviour ? or sb that sees things differntly from your own angle ? is that compatibility?
Posted: at 20-07-2010 01:13 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
divineproject at 20-07-2010 01:24 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Trust: Trust! It is one of the pillars of any relationship but unfortunately it is lacking in many relationships today. And I think that is why we have so many failed relationships today, take it or leave it. Every passing day you hear couples telling each other, ‘I trust you’, but in truth they still have their doubts. I hear some guys say they can’t trust any woman. Such guys shouldn’t be blamed at all. They might have been victims of failed or betrayed trust. Even ladies say the same thing. So why is there so much mistrust amongst men and women? Do you really know that there should be an iota of trust in any kind of relationship you enter into? It doesn’t matter the type.
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Posted: at 20-07-2010 01:24 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
bittersweet at 20-07-2010 01:48 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Apart those 4 pillars, "my house" needs another 1 too,in the middle of them, which it's Respect! Without it,the "house" wouldn't be strong enough in time to resist!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 20-07-2010 01:48 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 20-07-2010 01:51 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Love: And here comes the father of them all – love. I hear couples say they are in love, yet they don’t trust their spouses. That is first class fallacy. You can’t love him/her whom you don’t trust! That is the simple truth. You need to trust in order to love. Don’t be deceived, when your partner says I love you but I don’t trust you, he/she is not saying the truth. Love and trust work hand-in-hand, they can’t be separated at all. They can be better described as sesames twins. If he/she doesn’t trust you, then he/she doesn’t love you, pure and simple!
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Posted: at 20-07-2010 01:51 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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