Please my brothers and sisters, i need your divine advise, guidiance, and honest opinion on this subject. I would like to thank you all in advance for the time taken to read, and your positive contribution to my present issue of life.
I married this lady; and after few months of our marriage, I found out the whole truth about what she had done, before we got married. During our courtship, i found out she was hanging out with one of her co-worker, and I told her that, i'm not interested in our relationship any more, she apologised, but i insistited and said NO. She continued to called me, and ask me to give her a second chance, and that I should pray first, and not go with my feelings. I agreed to pray, and we continue to the relationship. Few weeks later, I found out through God's revelation that, she had been scretive about things with me. I asked her tell me the truth about the revelation revealed unto me, she confessed that, she continued to hang out with her co-worker, that she asked her friends and mum, and their responses was that, it's ok to hang out with other guy.
To cut the story short, I dont know how i married her, of which i told her, but i took responsibilty for my actions. However, I continued to get revelation about her deceitefulness, that there is more to it, and theat was when she told me the whole truth. she said, she had sleep over the night many times at the guy house, and she can not count the number of times. I think I got married under false pretense, and now I am scared of her, because i dont trust har any more, adn i dont think i want to have a future with her. I want to devorce her under false pretenses, please advise me?
Thanks to members that have offered me advises so far, however more advises are still welcome. @fjoeaug I actually had a feeling and suspected voodoo in this situation. It's like a spell was casted on me, after every thing had been done, i asked myself; did i do this? it's like my eyes was opened, and I'm scared of loosing myself, my future, and living unhappyly for marrying a wrong one. I actually prayed about this lady before, when we started dating....and the response from my pastor was that "NO". I further pray and fasted myself.....but never receive an answer, i futher continue to pray and fast, and decided to cast a lot, please read: Acts 1: 24-26 "And they prayed, and said, Thou, Lord, which knowest the hearts of all [men], shew whether of these two thou hast chosen, That he may take part of this ministry and apostleship, from which Judas by transgression fell, that he might go to his own place. And they gave forth their lots; and the lot fell upon Matthias; and he was numbered with the eleven apostles", but the answer and out come was "NO". However I told har to pray as well, and she told me that God had already revealed to her i am her husband, but i told her that, am yet to receive anything from God at that time. Although i had asked her if she can marry me more than once, but she said "NO"....she said i had no secure job, and that, i'm having difficulty paying my bills at that time, of which i got laid off, and i was living through God's grace. A new year came, and a secure job opportunity was opened unto me, I embark on this new career given unto by God, and i went on a 9 weeks trainig. The training was intense and isolating, but God see me through. During the time i was in training; we were communicating through letters and few phone calls only. After i completed my training; she told me that, "YES"....that she is ready to marry me now. I did not question why, but just said if that's what she wants.
but to cut it short, I fell in love with her first, and i was my being in love blinded to where i am now, however i'm able to see a lots of RED FLAGS about her. I have people to pray about her, and what i received was that, "NO".... and that, if i love myself i should be very very careful with her, because she is just not ordinary person. WHAT DO I DO FROM HERE??
Posted: at 2-10-2010 08:43 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
jukkiebukwes at 2-10-2010 09:14 AM (13 years ago) (f)
how long have u been married???
Posted: at 2-10-2010 09:14 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
belovethsoul at 2-10-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) (m)
yes, you're correct. I dont see me having a future with her. and I dont think i can trust her any more, plus she had abuse me physically more than one time before.......
Posted: at 2-10-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
bittersweet at 2-10-2010 11:57 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: belovethsoul on 2-10-2010 11:53 AM
yes, you're correct. I dont see me having a future with her. and I dont think i can trust her any more, plus she had abuse me physically more than one time before.......
Hmmmmmmm! My friend, don't waste your time anymore there! This life is too short to be living it miserable! And especially when it's about abuse,there is no excuse for such a behavior! Contact your lawyer as soon as possible!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 2-10-2010 11:57 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
belovethsoul at 2-10-2010 12:04 PM (13 years ago) (m)
thx to y'all for the suggestions, it's highly appreciated. However, i have a feeling she is ready to make trouble with me, because she said she would not sign any paper if i bring it. i dont know what to do, i dont know what she sees in life, that she wanted. however i have been told by my mum, that i should stay away from her, that her motives are not good, and i should be careful with her.
Posted: at 2-10-2010 12:04 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
bittersweet at 2-10-2010 12:11 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: belovethsoul on 2-10-2010 12:04 PM
thx to y'all for the suggestions, it's highly appreciated. However, i have a feeling she is ready to make trouble with me, because she said she would not sign any paper if i bring it. i dont know what to do, i dont know what she sees in life, that she wanted. however i have been told by my mum, that i should stay away from her, that her motives are not good, and i should be careful with her.
I don't know why on earth u've married her! ? Look,that's why I advise ppl to think very well before jumping in a marriage and after that to find themselves trapped there! I don't know what kind of laws u have there,but here I can divorce even if he doesn't agree! It's not by force, for God's sake! If I want out(from different reasons) ,then I'll go out,without his permission!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 2-10-2010 12:11 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
mydicksweet at 2-10-2010 04:18 PM (13 years ago) (m)
There's no point living with someone u cant trust there's alot to this whole thing that u r yet to find out soon and like the saying goes a cheat is always a cheat stop seeking for advice all u need is right at ur door step
Posted: at 2-10-2010 04:18 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
1st, i'm not ur broda nor do u have ur sista here(according to ur 1st paragraph). But wait oo, u discovered all her blunt lies about sleeping around? Of course she's no virgin b4 u met her so u shldn't be so sad she's been drilled by some hippie,and u can as well divorce her if u think u're being jazzed into marrying her. But still,u failed to look b4 u leap, so my advice is dat u shld just divorce her if u think u cannot forgive her.
Here comes d Great King Xtervaganza
Posted: at 2-10-2010 06:17 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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