IN HER WORDS: AFTER OUR MARRIAGE I DISCOVERED THAT MY HUSBAND IS DATING A GIRL.HE MEET ME A VIRGIN,HE HAS BEEN THE ONLY MAN I KNOW AND HE KNOWS THAT.YET HE HURT ME SO MUCH.HE SPEND TIME TALKING TO THE GIRL ON PHONE ,THEY SEND MASSAGES TO EACH OTHER,I READ THESE MESSAGES.I TRIED TO TELL MY HUSBAND IT HURT ME TO KNOW ALL THE HAPPENING.HE TOLD ME HE LL CALL OFF THE AFFAIR.AFTER THE LADY BOLDLY TOLD ME SHE IS MY HUSBANDS GIRL FRIEND,AND I SHOWED MY HUSBAND THE MESSAGE.ONLY TO FIND OUT THEY WERE STILL DATING.AFTER SOME DISPUTE,HE TOLD ME IT'S OVER BTW HIM AND THE GIRL,YET HE SPEND TIME CHATING WITH HER ON NET,QUALITY TIME THAT WE LL SPEND TOGETHER PLANNING OUR FUTURE.MY HUSBAND STAY UP TILL 12-1 MIDNITE,EVEN THOUGH I NEED HIM ON BED TO CUDDLE ME TO SLEEP.MOST TIME I WAIT UP FOR HIM. HE TOLD ME TO TRUST HIM AGAIN AND FORGIVE,I M TRYING TO BUT IT SO DIFFICULT FOR ME,BUT HE WANT IT TO HAPPEN LIKE MAGIC.I ASK MYSLF,IS TRUST EASY TO BE REGAINED ESPECIALLY WHEN THE PERSON TO BE TRUSTED IS NOT CONVINCING WITH HIS ACTS? HE SAID ANYTIME HE IS OUT I THINK HE IS WITH A LADY.I REALLY WISH I CAN CHANGE THIS MIND-SET.BUT IT SO DIFFICULT FOR ME. WHEN EVER I THINK OF HOW UNFAITHFUL HE HAS BEEN,ALL THE PAIN FLASH BACK TO MY FACE IMMEDIATELY.AM TRYN TO GET OVER IT BUT EACH TIME,HE TELLS ME"AM I THE ONLY MAN THAT HAS BEEN UNFAITHFUL TO HIS WIFE/,TAKE A LOOK AT THIS AND THAT MY FRIEND"HE STARTS COMPARING HIS FRIENDS WITH HIM. JUST RECENTLY WE WERE HAVING AN ARGUMENT ON A DELICATE ISSUE,THE NEXT THING HE SAID"MY GIRLFRIEND IS BETTER THAN YOU"I TRIED BELIEVING HE SAID IT,BUT AM STILL IN A STATE OF A GREAT TURMOIL.I KEPT ASKING GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE WRONG TO DESERVE ALL THIS DISRESPECT FROM A MAN I HAVE TRIED TO BE EVERY THING TO. I LOVE MY HUSBAND BUT THERE IS SOMETHING I CANT UNDERSTAND ABOUT HIM,BUT I CANT PIN POINT IT. IS UNFAITHFULNESS RIGHT IN A MARRIAGE SO I LL GET USED TO IT,AND SAYN MY GIRL FRIEND IS BETTER THAN U,IS IT RIT TOO. LASTLY MY HUSBAND SAYS IT EASY TO LET GO AND TRUST AGAIN,HOW EASY,I NEED CLUE FROM U GUYS ON HOW EASY IT IS.
these are her words,my frnds in NP,ur hlp is needed here,i cant advise her alone cos am short tempered and the way i ll react might be a diff thing.pls throw in ur advise both married and un -married.THANKS
Posted: at 3-03-2011 11:43 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
divineproject at 3-03-2011 11:51 AM (13 years ago) (f)
When a goat that doesnt eat yam moves with ones that eat yam, it will begin to eat yam........He has men who are unfaithful to their wives as friends, therefore it would be hard for him to change........until he changes his circle of friends, i think she would have to put up with an unfaithful husband who is not remorseful for his evil acts..........
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 3-03-2011 11:51 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
People say the fist few years of marriage could be very tumultuous and couples need plenty of prayers, patience, perseverance and sacrifices to make their union work....I guess she needs all these. Marriage is a fusion of 2 minds from different backgrounds-moral, educational, friendship etc, so it takes a lot of sacrifices to make it work.....all the best....
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:03 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
blessedme at 3-03-2011 12:12 PM (13 years ago) (f)
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
simple..game play..if i were her..i will arrange,i mean pay sum guys to pretends as my lovers.....always come to my house whenever he is home,we will just pretends that there is sumthing going on with us..where as there is nutting.i think with this it will get him jealous and always come home...that is if he really do love this wife like he says...she should find out where and when her hubby and his lover always go to eat,and the time...this is what i think she should do.
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:15 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
harold634 at 3-03-2011 12:16 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: blessedme on 3-03-2011 12:12 PM
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
Nice advice
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:16 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
Nice one....
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:18 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
divineproject at 3-03-2011 12:23 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: HOPEA23 on 3-03-2011 12:15 PM
simple..game play..if i were her..i will arrange,i mean pay sum guys to pretends as my lovers.....always come to my house whenever he is home,we will just pretends that there is sumthing going on with us..where as there is nutting.i think with this it will get him jealous and always come home...that is if he really do love this wife like he says...she should find out where and when her hubby and his lover always go to eat,and the time...this is what i think she should do.
But Hopea, you alone as the wife knows u are playing games.......when he later comes back to his senses, how do you convince him it was all part of the game and that nothing really happened?..Dont you think that action would further draw them apart?
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:23 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
kerryniyi at 3-03-2011 12:25 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: HOPEA23 on 3-03-2011 12:15 PM
simple..game play..if i were her..i will arrange,i mean pay sum guys to pretends as my lovers.....always come to my house whenever he is home,we will just pretends that there is sumthing going on with us..where as there is nutting.i think with this it will get him jealous and always come home...that is if he really do love this wife like he says...she should find out where and when her hubby and his lover always go to eat,and the time...this is what i think she should do.
HOPE, YOUR ADVICE IS NOT GOOD, YOUR ADVICE WILL QUICKEN THE BREAKAGE OF THE MARRIAGE. PLEASE ALWAYS TRY TO BASED YOUR ADVICE FROM THE GODLY VIEW.
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:25 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
kerryniyi at 3-03-2011 12:27 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: blessedme on 3-03-2011 12:12 PM
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
GOOD ONE MY FRIEND, GOD ALMIGHTY WILL CONTINUE TO NOURISH U WITH MORE OF HIS WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE.
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:27 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
blessedme at 3-03-2011 12:28 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: harold634 on 3-03-2011 12:16 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 3-03-2011 12:12 PM
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
Nice advice
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:28 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
simple..game play..if i were her..i will arrange,i mean pay sum guys to pretends as my lovers.....always come to my house whenever he is home,we will just pretends that there is sumthing going on with us..where as there is nutting.i think with this it will get him jealous and always come home...that is if he really do love this wife like he says...she should find out where and when her hubby and his lover always go to eat,and the time...this is what i think she should do.
But Hopea, you alone as the wife knows u are playing games.......when he later comes back to his senses, how do you convince him it was all part of the game and that nothing really happened?..Dont you think that action would further draw them apart?
the guys i pay too also know.....the guys or guy i will play the game with is sumone i know but he doesn't know him....when the time comes...he will be convince..at the end .
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:28 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
blessedme at 3-03-2011 12:29 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: pholake on 3-03-2011 12:18 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 3-03-2011 12:12 PM
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
Nice one....
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:29 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
blessedme at 3-03-2011 12:31 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: kerryniyi on 3-03-2011 12:27 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 3-03-2011 12:12 PM
the husband has d key to d house now...b4 she will have peace is until d husband change
buh a wise woman keeps her home cos there is no marriage without trials all she needs to do now is to pray for her husband to change and return to his promise on d wedding day......you as a woman needs to check yaself if there is any where u are faulting and adjust properly cos d bible say "break d edge, the serpent will come in" so check yaself too...wat would ve made him say that his girlfrend is better off u means there is something that d girl has that u are lacking...try and find out dis things and your marriage will go well
GOOD ONE MY FRIEND, GOD ALMIGHTY WILL CONTINUE TO NOURISH U WITH MORE OF HIS WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE.
Amen and thank u
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:31 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
simple..game play..if i were her..i will arrange,i mean pay sum guys to pretends as my lovers.....always come to my house whenever he is home,we will just pretends that there is sumthing going on with us..where as there is nutting.i think with this it will get him jealous and always come home...that is if he really do love this wife like he says...she should find out where and when her hubby and his lover always go to eat,and the time...this is what i think she should do.
HOPE, YOUR ADVICE IS NOT GOOD, YOUR ADVICE WILL QUICKEN THE BREAKAGE OF THE MARRIAGE. PLEASE ALWAYS TRY TO BASED YOUR ADVICE FROM THE GODLY VIEW.
how many pastors do we have here? even though you pray to still have to act now...... the game doesn't mean..she should sleep with the man...gush.....
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:33 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
kerryniyi at 3-03-2011 12:36 PM (13 years ago) (m)
THE HUSBAND IS SUBJECT TO CHANGE, SHE SHOULD FAST, PRAY AND SOW SEED 4 HER HUSBAND AND SHE WILL GET A POSITIVE RESULT. SHE ALSO NEED TO FIND OUT WHAT THE HUSBAND LIKE MOST AND THIS IS THE QUICKEST WAY TO A MAN'S HEART.
Posted: at 3-03-2011 12:36 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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