Stop your divorce or Lover's rejection

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at 02:31 AM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(4502 | Gistmaniac) (m)
Here are four strategies that
never work - yet people always try:


   Which of these strategies are you trying right now?

1. The first is to give them reassurance. "I've changed. I won't be controlling anymore. I won't lie to you anymore. I won't have another affair," and so forth. The efforts to give them reassurance. This almost never works.

2. The second strategy is to tell them over and over again, "I love you." That never works.

3. The third strategy is arguing, reasoning, trying to talk them into feeling different or doing different. That never works.
   If you talk about where they are wrong, they become more wrong. And if you talk about where they are right, they immediately become less wrong.


   They do not want a divorce from somebody who's always pleasant and is always seeing their side and always agreeing with them.

   That's not the person they're pulling away from.

   They're pulling away from the person who disagrees with them.

   People don't want to be married to somebody who's holding a gun on them.

   "You owe me love because we're married. You've got to love me because we're married."

   No, no. You've got to get rid of the hostility before their good feelings can show. And their hostility may seem to you like it's totally independent of anything that you do.

   No!

   You are supporting their negativism by your attitude of needing and pressuring and whining and complaining, and trying to argue for your way.

   Just enthusiastically see it their way.
4. Pessimism. We become addicted to our pessimism.

Three Things You Can
Start Doing Right Away To
Turn The Tide In Your Favor...


1. Stop pressuring, stop criticizing, stop complaining, stop whining.

2. Agree with anything your mate says or does. Put a good name on it. Agree with their negative feelings.
3. Act perfectly happy about everything as it is.

shaoyang at 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(1975 | Gistmaniac) (m)
No!
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jiflexy at 07:31 AM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(136 | Upcoming) (m)
TOO LONG, Grin Grin Grin Grin ;DPASSING
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HOPEA23 at 11:44 AM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(22504 | Addicted Hero) (f)
poster the one u are

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Sheree at 11:49 AM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(2779 | Gistmaniac) (f)
ok
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onedoor1010 at 12:10 PM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
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i dey come back
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omorewa at 04:55 PM, 30/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(3437 | Gistmaniac) (f)
 Cool

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princess4jifs at 05:26 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
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na wawa
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frayobkk at 06:32 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(5119 | Gistmaniac) (m)
i day hear

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bittersweet at 09:28 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(14316 | Hero) (f)
Quote from: shaoyang on 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011
No!

And NO again!

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gimac at 09:38 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 09:28 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: shaoyang on 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011
No!

And NO again!

what is the reason for your no!
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bittersweet at 11:06 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
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Quote from: gimac on 09:38 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 09:28 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: shaoyang on 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011
No!

And NO again!

what is the reason for your no!

It's  not advisable to try to glue the pieces of a glass,because you'll definitely hurt yourself during the process!

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gimac at 11:25 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11:06 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: gimac on 09:38 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 09:28 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: shaoyang on 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011
No!

And NO again!

what is the reason for your no!

It's  not advisable to try to glue the pieces of a glass,because you'll definitely hurt yourself during the process!

depending on the source of the glue and maker,and how you hand the glass
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bittersweet at 11:27 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(14316 | Hero) (f)
Quote from: gimac on 11:25 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 11:06 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: gimac on 09:38 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 09:28 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: shaoyang on 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011
No!

And NO again!

what is the reason for your no!

It's  not advisable to try to glue the pieces of a glass,because you'll definitely hurt yourself during the process!

depending on the source of the glue and maker,and how you hand the glass

Doesn't matter! You'll hurt yourself for sure!

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gimac at 11:37 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(13202 | Hero) (m)
Quote from: bittersweet on 11:27 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: gimac on 11:25 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 11:06 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: gimac on 09:38 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 09:28 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: shaoyang on 05:35 AM, 30/03/2011
No!

And NO again!

what is the reason for your no!

It's  not advisable to try to glue the pieces of a glass,because you'll definitely hurt yourself during the process!

depending on the source of the glue and maker,and how you hand the glass

Doesn't matter! You'll hurt yourself for sure!

carefulnes take it control
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bittersweet at 11:39 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(14316 | Hero) (f)
In this matter it doesn't work!

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FlyMamacita at 11:42 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(26265 | Addicted Hero) (f)
i no dey gree either,, how i go act happy if am not  Huh?

i no like to pretend, so i can not act nottin
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bittersweet at 11:47 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(14316 | Hero) (f)
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11:42 AM, 31/03/2011
i no dey gree either,, how i go act happy if am not  Huh?

i no like to pretend, so i can not act nottin


 Wink Kiss

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FlyMamacita at 11:50 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11:47 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11:42 AM, 31/03/2011
i no dey gree either,, how i go act happy if am not  Huh?

i no like to pretend, so i can not act nottin


 Wink Kiss
big  Kiss Kiss Kiss for u sweetie,, how r u?? is dat a new pic??  Smiley
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bittersweet at 11:52 AM, 31/03/2011 (7 years ago)
(14316 | Hero) (f)
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11:50 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: bittersweet on 11:47 AM, 31/03/2011
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11:42 AM, 31/03/2011
i no dey gree either,, how i go act happy if am not  Huh?

i no like to pretend, so i can not act nottin


 Wink Kiss
big  Kiss Kiss Kiss for u sweetie,, how r u?? is dat a new pic??  Smiley


I'm pretty good, thx!
How is your angel? Hope all is well after that procedure?

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