A MUST READ FOR ALL NIGERIANS WHO CARES

Fellow Nigerians,

EDUCATION IS THE KEY! It seems too long text for the NPs but it's worth the effort. U may print it out as I did, and read at your spare time. Germans say, reading makes you clever.

 
 
 
Dear All,


Please read & reflect on this!!!!!!

Friends,Let me add the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK - and I live in Lagos now. The first thing that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves - including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there - regardless how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same - the exception being those of us status-conscious Nigerians.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline)speaking on the Biography Channel and, to my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class -even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class.
Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound Sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign students do this.

There is no aircraft attached to the office of the prime minister in the UK - he travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.
These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton(the lady soon to marry Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there's one core difference them and us(generally speaking). They (even the billionaires among them) work for their money,we steal ours!

If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let�s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content, and not having to "steal", which seem to be the norm these days.

�30 is the new 18�, which seem to be the new age for testing out the world in Nigeria now. That seems to be an unspoken but widely accepted mindset among the last 2 generations of parents in Nigeria.
At age 18 years, a typical young adult in the UK leaves the clutches of his/her parents for the University, chances are, that�s the last time those parents will ever play �landlord� to their son or daughter except of course the occasional home visits during the academic year.

At 21 years and above or below, the now fully grown and independent minded adult graduates from University, searches for employment, gets a job and shares a flat with other young people on a journey into becoming fully fledged adults.

I can hear the echo of parents saying, well, that is because the UK economy is thriving, safe, well structured and jobs are everywhere? I beg to differ and I ask that you kindly hear me out. I am UK trained Recruitment Consultant and I have been practicing for the past 10 years in Nigeria. I have a broad range of experience from recruiting graduates
to executive director level of large corporations. In addition, I talk from the point of view of someone with relatively privileged upbringing.
Driven to school every day, had my clothes washed for me, was barred from taking any part-time job during my A-levels so that I could concentrate on studying for my exams?! BUT, I got the opportunity to live apart from my parents from age 18 and the only time I came back home to stay was for 3 months before I got married!

Am I saying that every parent should wash their hands off their children at age 18? No, not at all, of course, I enjoyed the savings that I made from living on and off at my parent�s house in London � indeed that is the primary reason for my being able to buy myself a 3 bedroom flat in London at age 25 with absolutely no direct financial help from my parents!

For me, pocket money stopped at age 22, not that it was ever enough for my lifestyle to compete with Paris Hilton�s or Victoria Beckham�s. Meanwhile today, we have Nigerian children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying �only� first or business class, carrying the latest Louis Vuitton ensemble, Victoria �s Secret underwear and wearing Jimmy Choo�s, fully paid for by their �loving� parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents, my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist! Oh really! So where exactly is this �child� is my usual question. Why are you the one making this call dad/mum? I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and me, chances are that big boy is cruising around Lagos with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad�s spanking new SUV with enough �pocket money� to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to have a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but �earns� a six figure �salary� from parents for doing absolutely nothing.
I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skills to sell, apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad�s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question - so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out - N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per annum.
Of course it is per month. Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job? Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel that an employer should be able to pay me more than my parents. I try very hard to compose myself, over parenting is in my opinion the greatest evil handicapping the Nigerian youth.
It is at the root of our national malaise.

We have a youth population of tens of millions of who are being �Bosom fed and diapered� well into their 30s. Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa! Wake up mum! Wake up dad! You are practically loving your children to death! No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birth right.

I want to encourage you to send your young men and women (anyone over 20 can hardly be called a child!) out into the world, maybe even consider reducing or stopping the pocket money to encourage them to think, explore and strive. Let them know that it is possible for them to succeed without your �help�.

Take a moment to think back to your own time as a young man/woman, what if someone had kept spoon feeding you, would you be where you are today? No tree grows well under another tree, children that are not exposed to challenges, don't cook well. That is why you see adults complaining, "my parents didn't buy clothes for me this christmas", ask him/her how old-30+. Because of the challenges we faced in our youth, we are where and what we today, this syndrome- my children will not suffer what I suffered is destroying our tomorrow. Deliberately reduce their allowance or mum-don't cook on Saturday till late afternoon or evening-do as occasion deserve.

I learnt the children of a former Nigerian head of state with all the stolen (billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort as wrecks. They are on drugs, several times because of the drug, they collapse in public places. The escort will quickly pack them and off they go, what a life. No one wants to marry them. Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.- Henry Ford. Hard work does not kill, everything in Nigeria is going down, including family settings. It is time to cook our children, preparing them for tomorrow. We are approaching the season in Nigeria where only the RUGGED, will survive. How will your ward fare?

If the present generation of Nigerian pilots retire, will you fly a plane flown by a young Nigerian pilot, If trained in Nigeria? People now have first class, who cannot spell GRADUATE or read an article without bomb blast! Which Way Nigeria!, Which Way Nigerians!! Is this how we will ALL sit and watch this country SINK?

Posted: at 14-05-2011 01:30 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Nice topic no doubts...but lacks generalization.Folks downtown are poor & live below 1 dollar per day.
The middle class if at all it exists , are struggling to make a live worth living.
We all know that Federal Government exists only in blue prints...the government has a lot to do but nobody cares & until the basic needs are provided for the ordinary man on the street,untold hardship will always reign

Posted: at 14-05-2011 01:49 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

i love this post. any reasonable person have to read this..it makes millions of sense...which way nigeria indeed...imagine a boy of 30+ still asking his parent christmas cloth..tufiakwa.

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Posted: at 14-05-2011 02:10 AM (12 years ago) | Hero

i don hear you abeg

Posted: at 14-05-2011 02:23 AM (12 years ago) | Hero

Very very intelligent and decent piece of writing I just wish pals would take the time out to read this.What you have said is mostly true.

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Posted: at 14-05-2011 07:48 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Let me print it out just as you said.

Posted: at 14-05-2011 12:05 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

poster.....nice topic, good advice and observation!
But...yu see that most children nd parents have disvastating situations in life nd probably cant help it...e.g poverty! But...know that corruption lies in the heart of the wicked....how about the poor and helpless innocent children around??...wanna knw sup....how can they get a job without help?....

Posted: at 14-05-2011 03:31 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

it's 2 long to read

Posted: at 14-05-2011 08:39 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Na only christmas clothes, even money to buy condom.

Posted: at 14-05-2011 08:43 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I LOVE ARTICLE. Take time to read it for yourself, your family, friends and Nigerians and your would be children, if none yet.

if u like read. no be force. But what the poster said is correct: READING MAKES U CLEVER. A MUST READ FOR NIGERIANS.

Lazy people want am easy way. That is the same Naija wahala.

Posted: at 15-05-2011 02:52 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming