is right for a house help: male or female to wash a wife or husbands undies?

Depends on one's common sense!

wats will d wife be doing?

What kinda washing could be that ? Don't tell me is all about taking the dirt clothes and panties to the river or stream to wash with hands ? If is normal machine washing, i don't see anything wrong from who fix the dirt clothes in the machine to get them washed... I know washing means different thing to different people due to how things go along on people's various locations.

well it about individual varietion if need be one can,no wend but if ur dealing wit a sluggish  patner  u will get fade up of washin.too baad

Not right