I have a very complicated love issue. I have been segxwally involved with a man. We have been “friends with benefits” since April of this year. We are also members of the same church! Shocking huh? Anyways, we have excellent chemistry together with or without the sex. I would love to pursue a relationship with him and he with me (at least that’s what I think) but he is homeless and I don’t think a relationship is on his mind (because of lack of shelter in his mind).
I hate seeing him out there like that and I will do anything for him just to keep him afloat. That’s just how much I love him. I guess my question is… How do I decipher if I am someone that he desires just to get by in this phase in his life or am I really someone that he truly cares about or really loves? Am I just playing myself short?
Please help me!!
-Julia, 28
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Posted: at 5-11-2011 09:58 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
How do I decipher if I am someone that he desires just to get by in this phase in his life or am I really someone that he truly cares about or really loves?
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Posted: at 5-11-2011 02:56 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
How do I decipher if I am someone that he desires just to get by in this phase in his life or am I really someone that he truly cares about or really loves?
In this life in one way or the other some1 has helped you weather in a good or bad way. If you want to help him, help him bcos you love and care for him don't help him bcos you need a pay back. make him understand he is not indebted to you is just that you can't watch him suffer that way. Don't bother ur self were the relationship is going to b4 you help if not u will never help. However, leave everything to his conscience let his conscience be his judge so that you wont be disappointed.
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Posted: at 5-11-2011 03:24 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Why not ask him all these questions and tell him your mind and see what his responses will be. Don't make it more complicated than it should be, ask him directly and decide for yourself.
Posted: at 5-11-2011 04:41 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Steelamazon at 5-11-2011 05:58 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Ajento on 5-11-2011 04:41 PM
Why not ask him all these questions and tell him your mind and see what his responses will be. Don't make it more complicated than it should be, ask him directly and decide for yourself.
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Posted: at 5-11-2011 05:58 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
Hmmmmm! quit interesting mehn, den u said love what is the meaning of dat love? if u see the meaning den do it, give him shelter & ur love will last forever and the man will never forget it till eternity.
Posted: at 5-11-2011 10:19 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
donspirado88 at 5-11-2011 10:20 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Neski on 5-11-2011 10:04 PM
Quote from: 1daful on 5-11-2011 03:24 PM
Quote from: 50scent on 5-11-2011 02:56 PM
nice advice pals but she said
How do I decipher if I am someone that he desires just to get by in this phase in his life or am I really someone that he truly cares about or really loves?
In this life in one way or the other some1 has helped you weather in a good or bad way. If you want to help him, help him bcos you love and care for him don't help him bcos you need a pay back. make him understand he is not indebted to you is just that you can't watch him suffer that way. Don't bother ur self were the relationship is going to b4 you help if not u will never help. However, leave everything to his conscience let his conscience be his judge so that you wont be disappointed.
@1daful, u ve said it all, if she needs advice, she should take dat & do exactly wat u said, somtyms it dosen't ve 2 be those u helped dat will reward u no matter how de case may be, help if u want 2 & bcos its in ur capability to do so... she should help him & expect notin in return so dat she wont be disappointed..
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Posted: at 5-11-2011 10:20 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
The question is what was he doing before he became homeless, when did he become homeless? what is he doing to change his status? If you can answer these questions sincerely, I'll say go and help him get back on his feet.
Posted: at 5-11-2011 11:43 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
if you reall love him as u said then hepl him & never expect anything from him if God keep him 4 u it will surely happen & if not,just do it 4 the love & you will always have a special place in his heartbut trust me if what you is true he will never let you go,afterall oyibo woman go take black guy in her house without know who is he & pump him with too much money....so help him if you can & if you cant then so be it.....
Posted: at 6-11-2011 01:02 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
ZION7ZION at 6-11-2011 02:41 AM (12 years ago) (m)
Questions weh U suppose ask ur guy, Na en U deh ask US, we deh share d same mind with your guy? abi we bi twins, triplet, quadruplet or any thing plet???
Posted: at 6-11-2011 02:41 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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