Wat would u do if u r in luv with someone that has a child and not together?

Hey guys, I really need your advices. I'm in love with a great guy who has a son and his not interested with the baby mama because he found out that she was just using him for money and she was cheating on im with another guy. I'm grat friends with his baby mama though and it was me who told him everything about her cheating on him because I thought it was the right thing to do. Me and him talked and started to become friends for about 2-3 months until one day, he asked me out. It took me a month just come up with an answer which was yes. His a great guy and yeah I really love him. He loves his son though but, not the baby mama. Today is my BIRTHDAY and his going to call me after he gets off from work and he will take out me for my birthday. His very loving and caring. Sometimes, I questioned my love for him when we don't get in touch sometimes. Am I being unfair to him? Is it right for someone like me to be with him? I mean it's been 6 months since we've been together. I don't mind him having a son though because I took care of that baby boy ever since he was born from his mama which is my friend. Please I need your feedbacks!!!

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Posted: at 27-01-2012 01:44 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie

STOP THE bosh-it  baby MAMA story and focus on your life

Posted: at 27-01-2012 02:36 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Is it a bad idea to be with him since his not married or anything with his baby mama? I would sleep at his house fore about more than 4 times and just last week Saturday we got caught from his Mom. He told me so, I felt a bit nervous until he told me that his mom didn't say anything about it. I was scared that his Mother might have told scolded him for being with me and not his baby mama. I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know why they are not together anymore. I pray sometimes asking God if his the right guy for me because I'm going through a lot for him and I don't want to waste my time if it is not the right thing to do. Please pals, I need your help or even someone who went through this situation.

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Posted: at 27-01-2012 03:20 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie

what you did is very bad. She was your friend, if she was cheating on her baby daddy, what you should have done is to talk to her and make sure she quit cheating on him, or you stop being friends with her and her baby daddy. But no, you didnt do that, you went to tell her baby daddy that she was cheating on him, there must be a reason why you did that. I know that the reason was coz you want to snatch him from her, but guess what, karma is a bitch. If that man could listen to a gossip from you and leave his baby mama, and worse of all , he had the guts to date you, then he has a big problem. What kind of a man will be comfortable dating his baby mama girlfriend, if not that the man has issues on his own. Watch it, that man will never trust and respect you, he will always see you as a snitch and he  when he sees a decent girl that he truely loves, stories will come up...... am sure you know what i mean... he will quit the realtionship he is having with you  after cheating on you. Karma is a very heartless bitch.

Posted: at 27-01-2012 04:23 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie

just what I tut too....you couldnt have said it any better. The truth is that the part of my heart that wanted to advise you just shut down cos you said you betrayed your own friend....honey there are so many ways you can help her stop cheating rather than doing what you did..
PS..this is a healthy criticism!

Posted: at 27-01-2012 05:00 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

She is your friend,because you have eyes for her man you told the guy that she is cheating  on him.she tut you were a good friend that's the reason she confided in you that she has a boyfriend and for the record,is he married to her despite the fact that she has a baby for him? then you should up your face and told the boy the secret only you and your friend is suppose to know.What a friend you are?
You dont need any advice from anyone, if you have a conscience you know the right thing to do.

Posted: at 27-01-2012 06:38 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

THE PROBLEMS U MAY HAVE TO FACE WILL BE FAR MORE THAN UR FRIEND'S WHOM U'VE SUCCEEDED IN SNATCHING HER FRIEND........ ANYWAYS, U'VE ALREADY ACKNOWLEDGED THAT U'RE A SNATCHER & BETRAYER AND THAT MADE U A SINNER SO GOD WILL DEFINITELY HAVE NO PLACE FOR U IN HIS HEART

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Posted: at 27-01-2012 07:38 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

is good to go for love but if the man is wedding in the church (as christian )and church did not terminate the marriage dont go on,because something have bound them together as husband and wife( till death do them apart)but if there no wedding contact grab the opportunity while the offer last,but if is just court wedding or the are just living together and got the kid go on

Posted: at 27-01-2012 08:09 AM (12 years ago) | Hero

u are de bad friend here,
tuning husband against wife, u are not her friend at all!

Posted: at 27-01-2012 08:21 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Do u av to tell him abt his baba mama's cheating? You could av allowed him find out himself or find out thru smeone else than u telling him, being his baby mama bestfrd. U av succeed in destroying her relationship bcos u want her man. How do u think she wil feel when she finds out u re going out wit her man, being her bestfrd? Gul! think twice

Posted: at 27-01-2012 09:24 AM (12 years ago) | Hero