If A Girl Is Not A Virgin, Is She A wh*re?

Date: 09-04-2012 1:56 pm (12 years ago) | Author: AYOOLA ADEBAYO
- at 9-04-2012 01:56 PM (12 years ago)
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Well, is she? wh*re is a harsh label to use, but if you think about it, women don’t have much leeway when defining a segxwal identity. Depending on the situation, when a woman engages in segxwal activity, she runs a high risk of being seen as “easy” or as a “slut,” the latter of which is a synonym for “wh*re.” Being a virgin should not mark how much a woman is worth or how “good” she is.

The most important reason why a woman’s virginity should not determine her worth is the fact that a man’s virginity does not define his. If a man messes around with or sleeps with one woman too soon he is not “easy.” If a man messes around with or sleeps with many women, or
has a child out of wedlock, he is never a “slut.” This hypocritical paradigm is unfair. Although males and females are biologically different, as human beings males and females are equal and so should be held to the same moral standard.

One moral standard means that the freedom associated with male segxwality should be associated with female segxwality as well, and that men should carry as much responsibility for their segxwal actions as women do. What would this look like? The world would be better if a woman could confide in her mother about losing her virginity without being ex-communicated from her family. The world would be better if a woman’s brother received as much pressure to live with purity as she did. The world would be better if, after reporting segxwal assault, a female (or male!) victim received support instead of suspicion or derision.

Unfortunately, the world is not perfect, and we still live in a society where women are victimized and/or demonized for their segxwal choices and experiences. I have documented this madness in a symbolic, short film called “Innocence & Patriarchy,” which you can find on Youtube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MWfo1EJpNes#ws). I’m not advocating another segxwal revolution. All I want is for people to reconsider the current segxwal double-standard and hold the men in their lives accountable for their actions.

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MWfo1EJpNes" target="_blank" class="aeva_link bbc_link new_win" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MWfo1EJpNes</a>

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- priceless_grace at 9-04-2012 02:50 PM (12 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
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- osupia at 9-04-2012 02:51 PM (12 years ago)
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poster u need to update ur treatment
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- priceless_grace at 9-04-2012 02:56 PM (12 years ago)
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the guy matter tire me...all him post dey always get as e be
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- onyimau20 at 9-04-2012 03:26 PM (12 years ago)
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 Grin Grin
Posted: at 9-04-2012 03:26 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- untamed at 9-04-2012 03:31 PM (12 years ago)
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absolutely no
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- abdulril at 18-03-2014 08:56 PM (10 years ago)
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Bruh or babe, one thing you gats to know a male and his female or any other female are not equal..  Even in the eyes of our creator, that's y e asked the man to be the head of a family not the woman, that's whye asked men to protect their women not women to their men.. Pls, this should be point I really think should be a correction we are not equal.. both in the Quran and bible..
Posted: at 18-03-2014 08:56 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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