My take on this:.........People want angels for partners, therefore each one presents him/herself as one. Intending couples hide their weaknesses and try as much to present their strengths.....Now after the wedding has taken place, each partner relaxes and begins to show his/her weaknesses....If only we make our partners know that we arent after angels/saints, if only we make our partners know that we accept them just as they are, if only we are confident enough to show our weaknesses without fear of loosing that person then we will have less divorce!.....
Bottom line, no one is without fault, but dont look out for the weaknesses in your partner, rather accept him/her just the way he/she is!........dats my humble take on this!
You have spoken maturedly