a bold girl will do it...though girls like it the other way round...!

The 5 Ways of Flirting

Hall recently completed research about the flirting styles of dating adults. He surveyed more than 5,100 men and women about their techniques. Survey participants were asked questions such as "I am good at using body language to flirt" and "In today’s society, people have to be careful about flirting." Based on the responses, Hall grouped flirting styles into five categories:

1. Physical flirting involves communicating segxwal interest to a potential partner. This form of flirting typically led to the development of relationships more quickly and had greater chemistry and emotional connection.
2. Traditional flirting involved allowing men to take the lead while women maintained a more passive role. People who flirted in the traditional way were typically more introverted. Men who flirted in a traditional way often knew their potential partner for some time.
3. Polite flirting was based on the use of proper manners and a more cautious way of communicating interest.
4. Sincere flirting involved communicating sincere interest and a desire to establish strong emotional connections. Women scored higher in this style, although men used this style, too.
4. Playful flirting was the style least likely to result in meaningful relationships. People who engaged in playful flirting often enjoyed it as a way to boost their own self-esteem.
"Knowing something about the way you communicate attraction says something about challenges you might have had in your past dating life," Hall continued. "Hopefully, this awareness can help people avoid those mistakes and succeed in courtship."
so pals where do you fall...?

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so fake a story!

Trust Issues in Relationships and How to Build Trust

[trust issues in love] Trust is the bonding force in any intimate relationship and precedes love itself. Even when someone loves you deeply, they can break your trust and leave you shattered and dismayed. Trust builds very slowly but can be lost completely in a moment, it’s a very tender force.

In this article we deal three topics, namely - How do you identify trust issues in relationships, what are its causes and how to build trust in a relationship. Having a relationship with a spouse who has trust issues can be annoying and frustrating but it is equally important that you take steps towards resolving these issues on timely basis.
Signs of trust issues in relationships
Below listed are the commons signs indicating trust issues in your relationship.

Your spouse gets overly possessive – If you sense that your partner is exhibiting highly possessive behavior asking you questions and details of every nuance of your life outside their vision, it would indicate that they have issues with trusting your loyalty.

Jealousy takes form of violent outbursts – Getting overly jealous about inconsequential happenings like you going out with a group of colleagues for lunch can be signs of mistrust. Temper tantrums and abusive outburst can make a highly jealous behavior.

Intrusion into your communications – It is very annoying to have your spouse keeping tab of all your mobile messages, caller list and emails. This kind of a behavior is highly symptomatic of a person who lacks trust in his/her spouse.

Your spouse starts playing the role of a detective – Do you feel like you are being followed or stalked by your spouse? This is quite common in extreme cases of mistrust. Sometimes your spouse might even drop into to your office without warning just to check up on you. This type of behavior is annoying and it reeks of trust issues.
Why do trust issues develop in a relationship?
Lack of self esteem – People who have severe insecurities about themselves are prone to have trust issues in their relationships. This is because they never believe that they deserve better. They almost want to believe that their spouse is cheating on them because they are not good enough.

Cheated in a previous relationship – The burnt child dreads the fire. If you spouse has been jilted in a previous relationship, there is a huge possibility that he/she is yet to overcome the stigma of it and may be projecting their fears onto their present relationship. To regain trust in relationships does take time.

Irrational anxiety – How do you build trust in a relationship when your inherent nature is prone to anxiety? If you are always expecting the worse there is little room for anything positive in your life. People with irrational anxiety live in continuous phobia about what the future might reveal to them.
How to build trust in a relationship
There are some simple steps to resolving trust issues in a relationship, equally important is that you use these steps to rebuild trust in a relationship that’s gone bad but in a more patient manner.

Communicate as effectively as possible – The root cause of loss of trust is lack of communication. Keep your spouse informed of your activities so that they can reach you in case of trouble or just so that they are rest assured.

Don’t get too busy to say “I love you” – Be open about your feelings for your spouse. Let him/her know how much they mean to you. Small words of love can pacify the most insecure hearts and play a role in resolving relationship trust issues.

Seek to understand first – May be your partner is over anxious or overly possessive, but understand that their behavior has roots in their past conditioning. Try to understand the reasons for their insecurities and alleviate them to the best of their comfort.

Don’t break their trust – The last thing you want to do is break your partner’s trust when they are already having a hard time trusting you. False promises, white lies or miscommunications can serve to break the tender string of their trust. Be loyal and show unconditional love towards your partner so there is never a question of mistrust.

In conclusion, trust issues in relationships develop for various reasons but what’s important is how you deal with it – understanding, patience and unconditional love are the only factors that can eradicate these issues with time.
hope u pals learn from this.

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well well...i think its just a mere opinion by the male gender..lol

thr's no rship free frm problems...but u jst ve to make d rship worth the problems

 ...ok lemme ask them...lol!

Breaking up a relationship is extremely hard on both the person who is initiating the break-up as well as the person who is at the receiving end. Whatever the circumstances, when a break up occurs, it breaks your heart. The jilted usually carry a lot of emotional baggage while the person who asks for the break up might end up feeling mighty guilty about it. Let's find out how you can deal with this situation.
Here are top 10 ways on how to cope with a break up:
1.) Accept the end - Once the break up happens, you need to put it behind you and cope with the negative feelings that well inside you. The most important thing is to accept it. Do not cling onto the hope that a miracle would happen and things would go back to normal. Do not hope that the break-up would be reversed by some magic and you would be back together as if nothing happened. This would make things unbearable for you. Rather, you should accept it. Accept that your relationship is over. Accept that the other person would not be there for you any more.

2.) Respect yourself - never blame yourself for a break-up. Be kind to yourself and your feelings. Do not punish yourself and do not entertain thoughts of ending your life or anything as drastic. There is life after a break up and chances are that the right person is there out looking for you just at this very moment. Don't you want to meet that special person that God has created only for you? Respect yourself enough to give yourself another chance to be happy.

3.) Pamper yourself for a while - it hurts when you live through a break up. You need to replace the negative feelings created in your heart (and which influences every part of the body) with positive feelings. The easiest way to create positive feelings is to indulge in yourself. Do something you love - go to the movies; go for a world tour or a great tourist destination for a great vacation; treat yourself for a special body massage or beauty treatment; start a new hobby; binge of some food you love; buy some excellent jewelry; etc. Center all your attention on your pleasure for a while. Wash away your hurt by indulging yourself.

[Dealing with a break up] 4.) Connect with your family - you will be surprised how wonderful the love of your family feels after or during a break up. You will realize how much love you are taking for granted while you are crying for the one love that is no more yours. Count your blessings in the love of your family, your close friends and renew these wonderful emotional bonds.

5.) Allow yourself to heal - do not throw yourself into new relationships immediately after a break up. Raw emotions would almost always give you the wrong reasons to forge new relationships. Look for new relationships only when you can look back on the broken one without pain. Learn from the relationship and move ahead. Do not use it as a leverage against the person who broke up with you.

6.) Forget the revenge mode - falling in and falling out of love happens. It is sad - but it happens. Accept this as a fact and do not seek revenge for being set aside for another person. Break up are usually emotionally shattering because they are interpreted as rejection. However, it is not rejection. It is a way to say that "I am not getting what I want from you." This is fine - nothing personal. Everybody is entitled to their opinion and happiness. Respect this choice and forget revenge. When you hate or plot for revenge, you can never let go of the past. Remember, "Revenge is the confirmation of pain." It also ties you up with the past - never allowing you to really move ahead. Do you really want that?

7.) Take up a new hobby - you might find that time lies heavy on your hands. Use that time to enjoy yourself. Read, watch TV or develop a new hobby which would occupy you and also bring you joy. You might even try to use your free time for a professional course or learning a new language. Keeping your mind occupied in creative activities is a great way to cope with a break up.

8.) Time is the best healer - understand that it takes time for you to stop feeling the hurt n your heart. Give yourself the time to heal. Do not hurry the process along as if you do, the clogged emotions would erupt one day in a harmful way. Realize that the hurt would leave you gradually just as a wound would gradually heal.

9.) Move on - aim ahead. Do all that you find possible to move on as normally as possible. Keep yourself surrounded by well-meaning friends and family with whom you could openly converse regarding your feelings. The more you are able to vocalize these feelings, the better you will be able to deal with a breakup.

10.) Everything happens for the good - understand that everything happens for the good. Use this event as a learning measure for self growth. This is just a step in your journey towards finding the true love of your life.

Hope these tips help you pals.

versatile me!

anytime...anyday...anywhr...9ja 4 lyf...till i drop my last breath!

mmm...lemme sigh!

staying in a futureless rship is as gud as being alone...y waste time in  sowing a seed dat will never grow?

point of correction the devil didnt create sex but God did...but we humans decided to misuse n redefine it...sex is sacred!

hmmm sex is secondary but respect and love are primary!

sist...its useless being with a guy dat doesnt have a single trust for you...well search ur hrt cos smthing worse than this incident might happen in the future...then wat will u do? love alone shudnt be a criteria for spending d rest of ur life with someone!

let's kw ur opinion on this dicy issue. remember love conquers all things!