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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: In a relationship who pays when you go on vacation together? |
on: 26-09-2009 09:26 AM
| I've read some very interesting posts recently about who picks up the check when a couple goes on a date. My question is, when you're in a relationship and you decide to go on vacation together, who pays (airfare, hotels, rental car, food, drinks, etc.)? Rather than simply voicing your opinion about who you think should pay, I would like to hear comments from people who have actually been in this situation and who paids ?
My girls foots all bills, even buys me my boxer shorts! Emancipation!!! Ever heard of that word? Am enjoying every bit of it!!! | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: sex and relationship |
on: 26-09-2009 09:06 AM
| i am hungry
that was great
i am tired
i love u
Virgins Talking! 3 words turns to 12 words!!!,.. probably expereince will have shown the poster that after sex,. u actually dont talk,. u just reminence in the pleasure of the intercourse,.. uhmmm, i truely believe now that expereince is the best teacher not searching the internet.!  | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating Two |
on: 26-09-2009 08:57 AM
| sorry chariontime my quection goes to the poster plz.
If you cant even post rightly,. The house and my humble self aint surprised u dont know the difference between,. poem and personal outline which we may term story here. I will refer you to take some extra lessons in English again,. I know adult education is still going on in Naija,. best wishes this time,. chances dont come that often,..ooo    | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 26-09-2009 08:50 AM
| Because of your experience with the whites that why you have this problem.stop comparing nigerian ladies with them whites.ladies have different orientation,some see dating as relationship.also you run into conclusion too soon.dating should be a period of knowing the other person,so you have to be patient.then you need to learnt to trust these ladies if you want it to work out.i'm just gonna stop here.
I sincerely appreaciate your thoughts on this topic,. well spoken and taken. The part which read that some take Dating as a relationship and are ready to jump into conclusion hit me,. but u rightly added it should be a period to know someone better,.. my question is,. why would anyone jump into conclusion so soon about someone u are still trying to know better? is that an African mentaliyt or just a selected fews? Thx | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating Two |
on: 25-09-2009 08:35 PM
| What are the DOs ad DONTs of Dating peculair to you,.. I will get the ball rolling,..
DOs,..
i. Time out,. A must for my dating a lady,. spend time in having a drink or eating out or visit to relaxtion spots.
ii. Time in,. A must in spending quality time indoors, watching movies,. playing games,. enjoying the presence of the other.
iii. Surprises.- Not a must but could be nice, i d luv to be surprised with little gestures from a willing and loving heart.
iv. Hobbies,. A must, i need to enjoy a common share of hobby with the lady am dating,. could be in dancing, sport, or academics.
v. Music,. Not a must but would be nice to have,. a lady that enjoys and appreaciates music,. oldskool slow jams keith seat,. babyface,. Maxwell, Atlantic stars, etc, Just romantic times, coupled with spiritual times as well,. Christian Godly moments.
Donts,
i. short hair,. dont fancy ladies with short hair do
ii. Demanding,. I hate ladies who take liberty in the fact that a man should make provision during outings and start with outrageous demands,. "if i have to buy a phone credit for my dating lady before she can call me, its a complete turnoff".
iii. Untidiness,. A big turnoff is a lady who believes just becoz shes already dating a guy, her looks doesnt matter,. i appreaciate looking well kept and straight up even during the dating process.
iv. Shut lips,. A turnoff is a lady who cannot start a communication talkless of hold one going,. one who wants the guy to do all the talking and just be a respondent, with yes , no, maybe , i think so too,. just comments and no personal stand.
v.Double dating,. A big turnoff is a lday who is at thesame dating me and dating other men just becoz shes still not committed to a man.
nah nah, summary plz..  sure,. do u prefer poison or good meat?? Dont bother answer its clear that since you dont have the guts to show face u must be somneone who prefers poison,. and theres one who is ready for u here. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating Two |
on: 25-09-2009 07:41 PM
| Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyysssssss! Hold am dere!! Grammer too much!!! well i once heard illiteracy is a disease but i didnt know that it could be a way of life! chei!!! ....why all this insult na,.... For one who has got no guts to show his face, the truth becomes an insult!! Laagbja,. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating Two |
on: 25-09-2009 07:13 PM
| Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyysssssss! Hold am dere!! Grammer too much!!! well i once heard illiteracy is a disease but i didnt know that it could be a way of life! U wan divert ur insults come my side? insult?? why should i insult u dear? does the truth become an insult? | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating Two |
on: 25-09-2009 07:06 PM
| Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyysssssss! Hold am dere!! Grammer too much!!! well i once heard illiteracy is a disease but i didnt know that it could be a way of life! | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating Two |
on: 25-09-2009 06:53 PM
| What are the DOs ad DONTs of Dating peculair to you,.. I will get the ball rolling,..
DOs,..
i. Time out,. A must for my dating a lady,. spend time in having a drink or eating out or visit to relaxtion spots.
ii. Time in,. A must in spending quality time indoors, watching movies,. playing games,. enjoying the presence of the other.
iii. Surprises.- Not a must but could be nice, i d luv to be surprised with little gestures from a willing and loving heart.
iv. Hobbies,. A must, i need to enjoy a common share of hobby with the lady am dating,. could be in dancing, sport, or academics.
v. Music,. Not a must but would be nice to have,. a lady that enjoys and appreaciates music,. oldskool slow jams keith seat,. babyface,. Maxwell, Atlantic stars, etc, Just romantic times, coupled with spiritual times as well,. Christian Godly moments.
Donts,
i. short hair,. dont fancy ladies with short hair do
ii. Demanding,. I hate ladies who take liberty in the fact that a man should make provision during outings and start with outrageous demands,. "if i have to buy a phone credit for my dating lady before she can call me, its a complete turnoff".
iii. Untidiness,. A big turnoff is a lady who believes just becoz shes already dating a guy, her looks doesnt matter,. i appreaciate looking well kept and straight up even during the dating process.
iv. Shut lips,. A turnoff is a lady who cannot start a communication talkless of hold one going,. one who wants the guy to do all the talking and just be a respondent, with yes , no, maybe , i think so too,. just comments and no personal stand.
v.Double dating,. A big turnoff is a lday who is at thesame dating me and dating other men just becoz shes still not committed to a man.
One man's meat is another man's poison. seems there is a confirmation of the very fact i fear to imagine,. Dirty, Double dating,. lack of music taste, Demanding for money etc,.. Poisonious items, wonder if theres any man out there that would desire poison ,. instead of gooooood meat! Well i think i read a post that suggest that a man ran away with another woman after seeing these poisons,.. and our non contributing but ready to criticize every topic FRIEND seems to still want him back,.. I will say good choice the man made for his life He chose meat instead of poison. uhmmm what a life! | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 25-09-2009 05:08 PM
| Hmmmnnn.............what a post.  A post which speaks Volume?? The conscience is an open wound and only the truth can heal it!  No Dear, u didnt,... u feel scolded? Sometimes not saying something could be misconstrued as saying something! Remember The fourth Caveat of Law, we learned in the University (Business law)!!! Did i say anything? Didnt still utter a word. Noone is saying u did or will do again,. Or that u ever did,.. . will be glad though if u FINALLY do | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Loving the wrong person. |
on: 25-09-2009 05:03 PM
| I thought i had found my hearthrob when I met him. He's perfectly my dream man but, he's getting married to another person soon which im fully aware of, but can't just let go cos i've this feeling i cant find his kind out there. What do i do pls? Continue with him while he's married or what?
Dangers and Repercussions of Double Dating or allowing one? uhmm I dont know the facts but i will say perhaps the process of Dating, moving step by step to getting Engaged and making the final step of Settling down together could have revealed alot between two people before they get to the point where one cant let the other go,.. Let him go,, If he was yours he wont find someone perfectly fit for him than you. Best | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 25-09-2009 04:57 PM
| Hmmmnnn.............what a post. A post which speaks Volume?? The conscience is an open wound and only the truth can heal it! No Dear, u didnt,... u feel scolded? Sometimes not saying something could be misconstrued as saying something! Remember The fourth Caveat of Law, we learned in the University (Business law)!!! Did i say anything? | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 25-09-2009 04:37 PM
| Hmmmnnn.............what a post. A post which speaks Volume?? The conscience is an open wound and only the truth can heal it! | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 25-09-2009 04:24 PM
| Re: Dating!
« posted : Yesterday at 08:41:25 PM »
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Save your breath Guys ,. your responses aint "actually" solicited!
wow! am almost perplexed with laughter here,.. i can only assume what hilarous moments all respondents must have had.
I guess we are all just used to shortsleeved comments,. and not epistles like mine.
Anyway the jist of the story for the lackadaisicals is a twofold question:
1.What goes on in the Mind of a Nigerian lady immediately after a smalltalk?
...What does a Nigerian girl understand about Dating? And lastly,..
...How is dating carried on in a very Nigerian fashion?
2.Is double dating wrong?
I wanna believe the details to understanding these questions aint that core in mind to many,.. though i sincerely believe many, if not all respondents have gone through the Epistle.
Have fun!
well i have gone through the long and the short epistle but am going to respond to the short epistle which raise the questions and lesser scenerio
what goes on in the mind of a gal after small talk? well even the devil does not know the mind of a man so no one but the owner know what is running through the mind of another.
But i can say that it depends on the kind of small talk, and the circumstances surrounding your meeting, if you meet at a party what would expect the gal to think? if it were to be in school or an academic environment then what a gal is thinking after small talk is obvious.
well i dont think you should worry about what a gal is thinking much cos gals too wonder what guys think about.
the question is what do you really want from a gal?
you dont just chat with a gal on a daily basis and expect her to still be non commitical and carefree especially if she is the emotional type, or the clingy type.
Dating does not really have a unanimous definition to me cos it definitely varies from individual even inthe same country it varies among parties. some actually date just for the fun of it, while some people dont even date at all.
i have seen cases of people who just met and know they are right for each other and just marry. you dont learn issues like this in school.
you have to know what you really want in a gal and in a relationship and have it at the back of you mind that no gal whatsover is perfect and without flaws. you can meet your drean gal anywhere in Nigeria or abroad once the connection is there
double dating is allowed when the relationship is heading nowhere BUT i personally find it apalling when sex is involve in double dating,it makes the gal look so cheap and none wiser. A gal will always have admirers even married women have admirers too but there should be a boundary.
Gudluck in ur search
My Goodness, this is the answer have waited days to hear right from the heart and soul of a sensible woman who has guts. unlike many who find it not only diffcult to read but add something credible termed WELLWISHERS. God bless ur soul. I really appreaciate ur sincere contribution. However u mentioned something very important, which is, double dating is allowed if the relationship is not heading anywhere,. question,. Wouldnt it be better u call the relationship off, as to risking having to double date? I beg to differ here,. Under no situation will i say double dating is fine,. i rather call one off and start afresh hoping for a good make up with the new as have both on my list,. is that not right? Lastly,. u said u know some who didnt date atall before jumping into marriage,. waoh! will you say dating has no place in forming a healthy relationship to marriage? I will never marry someone i cant date to know her well,. will u do same? thx | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 25-09-2009 03:10 PM
| Na wa o! Wetin bring mum's number here?
just a Fool who keeps passing and failing and watching and abusing and cursing and now plzs someone help me,.. what is he gonna do next? killing? Never adding anything meaningful to the rounds here! An empty trunk makes the loudest noise | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Dating! |
on: 25-09-2009 03:00 PM
| wat in da hell do i need ur mum's number for... can see u r a broke ass bastard... i dont phyuking need ur mum's number... u should be the one to do the finding urself... tell ur mum... that u r a bastard... and she should just tell u the truth.. [/quote] A fool talks because he has to talk and a Wise man talks because he has something to say! I think you didnt realize you said "I want to talk to your mum" i guess such are the words of a fool,. not knowing what comes out of the mouth! You got the number and your balls weakened out! | | | | |
