my dear, it is wrong 4 ur husband 2 be abusive since he married u and if it has be going on 4 too long i advice u to seek 4 advice from a marriage counsellor if u can't get one u can divorce him 4 ur life.

i don't agree dat women should retain their surname after marriage cos it 's mean dat they are still married to their families. In most cases dis days in Nigeria is dat most married women retain their surnames and use it in various offices, if ask them, all they say is dat their surname have 2 remain in case of necessity.