those in it  av a mutual understanding dt they want 2 av sex while dating .....and those that dont av sex also av a mutual understanding dt no we keepin this 4 marraige ....so nobodi is in it wiv them ...so u cant understand or kno if its real love or just use and dump......buh genenrali speakin like u guys its nt proper buh dt dnt min dres no benefit....they mite want 2 start avin children,they mite feel dts d best way 2 kip their love strong so nobodi knows....except they tell u