This is what disappoints me on this Naijapals website. THIS IS A DISCUSSION FORUM SHE IS FREE TO POST WHATEVER SHE PLEASES.  ITS AN OPEN DISCUSSION, NO NEED FOR STUPID BB COMMENTS

Girls should not be STUPID and get pregnant especially if it was not an open plan between the two (you and your man).
It is your body, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for what goes in... don't expect the man to be joyous for something not requested, even if they did not use rubber.  Girls have some virtue, if you are ready to allow a guy inside you with no protection then be ready to face the consequences ALONE. 
There is that song If you like it then you should have put a ring on it. 
So u go carry ur belle alone if you're not even married.
Pregnancy is a good thing in the right situation.  It bothers me that so many girls are hopelessly getting pregnant, especially out of marriage.

People say that children are a product of the love between two people.  Though it may not always be true, I feel it stands in most cases.  For me, I am not comfortable with the fact that so many girls have had a child for a man that will not remain in the picture.  I don't like the idea of abortion, but there are precautions out there, girls should learn to use them effectively.

Last year I met a really nice girl who told me she was dating a guy (at that point they had been together for 3+ years), she told me that her boyfriend had a child (aged 12) from a previous relationship.  Though she was young she proceeded to take the guy's son as her younger brother, she said they got on really well and she couldn't be happier.  One day she asked the boy to do something and out of nowhere the boy replied, 'don't tell me what to do, you're not my mother!'

She said that what he said hurt her so much, she couldn't understand why he had said it.

The truth is, it is very rare that the mother of any child will be out of the picture.  And so far, as two people have a child together, the woman will always have access to your guy.  She has reason to call him up anytime of the day, because she is the mother of his child.

We are all human beings, we should not try ourselves.  Even if you're being fair on your own part, the child has to be well brought up and understanding to make your efforts worthwhile.  Most children would love to live both their original parents, it can never be easy to accept another.

These days more and more guys are having children with no relationship commitment, thus making life quite difficult for us girls, who would like to meet a guy with no attachments.  Then again, they do say love conquers all.

You may not be a wicked person but some situations can bring out the worst in people.  Everyone should do their best to play safe.  Girls should stop trying to trap guys with pregnancy, and don't believe a guy if he says 'I want you to be the mother of my children', if that is truly what he wants, make sure he carries you to the altar/church first.

Hi jukkiebukwes, I have been in a similar situation before and the best advice I can give you is to forget about this guy.  Honestly, I know my suggestion may seem extreme, but I realise that one thing some men seem to hate is for a girl to be forward or obvious.  If you guys are casual friends, then keep it like that.  
Say the odd hi here and there but dont be in his face and dont let him know that you may have stronger feelings towards him.  Be yourself, do your job.  Just keep up with your appearance, make an effort to look decent at all times (dont over do it though).  If you are his type of girl he'll approach you sooner or later.  I think certain guys prefer to chase than to be chased, its a turn off when girl approach guys.  I told told a guy I liked him after a year of being very close friends, he took the compliment and that was it he never mentioned the topic again.

As with all things in life, there are good and there are bad.  There are some good women and then there are some bad women.  The bad ones cheat, lie, manipulate etc. 
I want to refer to the good ones.  Most times you men drive women to be who they had no intention of becoming.  You are somewhat difficult to please.  I had a friend who was seeing a guy, they did not live together but she went to see him every day almost.  She cooked, cleaned helped him with general things, and financially assisted him as he was going through some difficulty. 
At the end of the day, she dosen't know whether he met someone else but he changed suddenly. Asked my friend not be coming round etc.  She was confused.  I didnt know the guy for myself but I did know that my friend, being a female didnt quite behave like your average female.
She wasnt mouthy, she was very respectful, most guys describe her as cool and attractive. 

Needless to say the guy's change in behaviour hurt her very much.  I dont know how to advise her, as I myself have not been in a relationship before, but the first guy that told me he loved me (after months of us being really good honest friends) ended up going out with my best friend, thank God I didnt give him my heart but it still hurt all the same.
What I'm trying to say is that us women sometimes make these mistakes as a result of a man's inconsiderate actions (there is no smoke without fire). 
I know this may not answer the topic of discussion but I wanted to add it anyway.