i dnt believe in religion. I believe in GOD! u r right to believe that religion has done alot of harm, bt thats when people stop building a relationship with God an lean on their own understanding. I'm a christian and we are taught in the bible to preserve life, not to destroy it. That life is a gift and that God is love and since we are encouraged to be like God we should also love ourselves and others. Hw does that relate to bombings? and crusades? who did Jesus kill? u cnt use dictionaries, history books etc to help u understand that. religion is just our way of trying to connect with God. Try to get to know Him before u rush to judge ur creator

is this a real question?

pastor? noooooo. thats way 2 much responsibility 4 little me

2 b honest, if peeps r wondering y im so passionate about the subject, its nt bcuz i feel sex is the worst thing a person cud do. its bcuz contrary to popular belief its nt the virgins who are living in a fantasy world. bad things happen. they do. u r all right. bt y risk it for the fleeting pleasures in life.

mean wat, wat way?

@sexyasanke - or is wat im saying getting to u?

@sexyasanke cool ur blood chick.
it aint a war, its a discussion
@nigerianvixen - fair enough

Absoloutly nothing wrong? 110%? r u sure? if ur younger sister or cousin or niece told u she was about to "do it", you wouldn't warn her, talk to her, nothing? u r that confident nothing is wrong with it?

@ 2ht2tch
misinterpreting Gods word intentionally is also a sin. He does not contradict Himself
This is serious. Aids is serious, and if ur only argument is that it can be avoided then u need to meet some folks who have aids. It isnt even about multiple partners. All u need is one dude or dudette who has it.
Sex is serious. Its nt a game. Orgasms are a great thing, but if u werent having any life wud still go on. Life as it was originally meant to be lived. This isnt about segxwal equality or self righteous justification. This isnt about being a wh*re or a playa or just someone who has done it once. Whats sad is nt even the sex itself but the denial. With all the problems and consequences and religious commands that are linked to sex; people still want to stand up and say this is what is right. In the name of what? the 21st century. Bcuz you've seen it on sex and the city and lil kim is doing it so it must b the way forward? we are nt here to judge each other are we? whether or nt u are a virgin can u honestly say there is nothing wrong with sex b4 marriage?

  and what if u found out ur wife was actually really a dog... these things rarely happen. and when they do, as long as u dnt consumate the marriage, u wnt even have to divorce.
Impotence is a mind thing, if u love him, you will work through it. after all marriage is based on love, trust, understanding, friendship. sex is a bonus

I  would normally have quoted scripture because there is so much on sex but Ukoma has done a great job; besides someone rightly noted that we are not all Christians here. Despite that I believe our Father asked us to keep our bodies pure for a reason and to call that oldfashioned is to say he is wrong.
1. A couple of you are referring to sex as though it is a university degree. Sex is an animalistic instinct same as feeding oneself. I am pretty sure he will be able to find the hole on his wedding night, as long as he is sober. Has everyone forgotten sex is a gift? And if your argument is experience then basically all your segxwal partners have just been practise? Thats hardly a reason for having sex.
2. Another argument was the ten commandments. All sin is the same in the eyes of God. Yet I dont see anyone advocating lies or theft.
3. Also I dont know why the wedding night is even being mentioned. If u believe in sex b4 marriage then you'll already hav had sex with him. Dnt encourage what you know is not right lest you have blood on your hands.
4. Pros of havng sex b4 marriage: experience
Cons of having sex b4 marriage: pregnancy; aids; std; aids; emotional trauma; more aids (r u getting the idea)
If you can keep yourself whole or stop having sex while you are ahead, do so. Or at least try. Its old fashioned to think, virgins are clueless nerds. thats just the media. If u cnt, at least respect urself and dnt encourage ur lifestyle.