Others may but I CANT. it lacks moral backing; it revolts against all divine rules and the african cultural norms. its okay in the western world or for couples with a fully western background or where there is "water-tight" understanding between the couple. by water-tight, i mean the level of understanding between couples that even their parents/relations/friends cannot influence.
if a man knows he is not mentally and financially matured to cater for a wife as well as steer the ship of the family then he has no business going into marriage in the first place. when a man moves into the woman's apartment due to financial handicap, who calls the shots? men that do that and say it doesnt matter are those that are ready to mortgage, concede or compromise their integrity and authority to the woman. only very few women would marry a man, accomodate him in her apartment, (run other expenses no matter how minute, to sustain the home) and would still allow the man to maintain his position as the man(head) of the house.
this would be different if they were already married and somewhere along the line, the man lost his job but to move into a woman's apartment soon after marriage for financial reasons, in my opinion, is a wrong starting! its laying a bad foundation (or precedent if you prefer) for that family except, of course, the man is sure for certainty that within a specified time frame, he is going to either take over the apartment, move his family to a new apartment, or do something to maintain his leadership in the home.
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