This question is one way traffic. I am a man and I hate to see a man like me beating or hitting his wife. That should not happen in any healthy relationship. However, the poster of this question seems to have forgotten that, there are lots of women out there that are in the habit of beating up their husbands. I have a family friend that we used to live together in a small city in the state of Texas prior to 2007. However, I moved to another state in late 2007 due to changes in my job. The husband brought the woman to the US in 2006. My point is that, this woman was in the habit of beating/hitting her hubby with whatever object she could laid her hands upon in the face of any slightest arguement. in July 2009, the couples got divorced, which I believe is the most honorable thing for both of them. In the past December, I got informed that the woman's new hubby was arrested because he retaliated when the woman hit her. She called the cops and got her new man arrested.

Have you ever experienced cheating in your relationship? If so, how did you find out that your partner has not been faithful to you?

An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a romantic relationship faster than infidelity. Is it really possible to affair-proof your relationship? The answer is, "Yes, it's possible." But in order to make that happen, it's important to know what causes an affair in the first place.

An affair is an extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time. Affairs do not happen out of the blue and rarely happen because someone is a bad person. Cheating is caused by one single factor: "Lack." In a relationship, it's a lack of love, attention, intimacy, recognition, respect, and connection that builds up over time. Eventually, this "lack" can become so painful that the person in the most pain will often act out by cheating. Because communication has broken down, the cheating person doesn't feel like they can talk to their partner, so that makes them vulnerable to cheating.
So, how do you avoid getting to this point in a relationship? Below are seven ways to avoid the "lack" and prevent a potential affair.

1. Avoid complacency. Don't ever take your relationship for granted. Partnerships need to be nourished daily by a kind word, appreciation, a loving kiss, a smile. Complacency is a warning signal that you and your partner are out of touch with each other.

2. Keep the lines of communication open. Don't sweep issues under the rug. They won't go away! Learn ways to resolve differences so that recurring arguments don't continue.

3. Your relationship must be based on a solid, underlying friendship. Friends talk, laugh, share, and do things they're interested in together. Don't stop being friends just because you're each other's partner.

4. Pay attention to your gut. If you're feeling something isn't quite right in your relationship, 99 percent of the time you're correct. Find a way to approach your partner to talk about things. Keep your relationship current by checking in on a weekly basis to make sure problems aren't building up.

5. Find time for each other. Don't get so busy that you forget to have a date with your partner. Make time away from chores and work to renew your loving feelings. Remember how important your mate is to you. Tell them, by making time for them.

6. Know when it's a time of stress and pay attention to your partner even more. Some common trigger times for extra stress in a relationship are job changes, health problems, changes in finances, and the death of a family member or friend. During these stressful periods, pay extra attention to your relationship. Let your partner know you're there, and make even more time to connect with each other.

7. Your relationship has to meet the needs of the two people involved. Understand what your partner's needs are so you can meet them. Figure out what your own needs are and communicate them. If your needs are not being met, communicate and negotiate. Don't let resentment build.

8. Understand the real issues in your relationship. Learn tools for resolving arguments. Avoid blaming, shaming, and the need to always be right in an argument. Learn what you're really fighting about so that you can resolve your issues. If you're fighting about the wrong thing, you'll never resolve arguments.

9. Always remember what it was that made you fall in love with your partner. Too often we allow our disagreements to cloud our love for our significant other, and we forgot why we even fell in love! Keep your sense of humor. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt and don't make them your enemy.

Avoid the "lack" and affair-proof your relationship by staying conscious of yourself and your partner. Nurture each other and keep the lines of communication open.

CAIRO – Al-Qaida leader Osama bin Laden issued a new audio message claiming responsibility for the Christmas day airline bombing attempt in Detroit and vowed further attacks.

In a short recording carried by the Al-Jazeera Arabic news channel, bin Laden addressed President Barack Obama saying the attack was a message like that of Sept. 11 and more attacks against the U.S. would be forthcoming.

"The message delivered to you through the plane of the heroic warrior Umar Farouk Abdulmutallab was a confirmation of the previous messages sent by the heroes of the Sept. 11," he said.

"America will never dream of security unless we will have it in reality in Palestine," he added. "God willing, our raids on you will continue as long as your support to the Israelis will continue."

On Christmas Day, Nigerian national Abdulmutallab attemped to blow up the Northwest Airlines flight he was sitting on as it approached Detroit Metro Airport. But the bomb he was hiding in his underwear failed to explode.

He told federal agents shortly afterward that he had been trained and instructed in the plot by al-Qaida operatives in Yemen.

There was no way to confirm the voice was actually that of bin Laden, but it resembled previous recordings attributed to him.

In the past year, bin Laden's messages have concentrated heavily on the plight of the Palestinians in attempt to rally support across the region.

Many analysts believe that bin Laden is worried about Obama's popularity across the Middle East with his promises to withdraw from Iraq and personal background, so the al-Qaida leader is focusing on the close U.S.-Israeli relationship.

The suffering of the Palestinians, especially in the blockaded Gaza Strip where 1,400 died during an Israeli offensive there last year, angered many in the Arab world.

Israeli Foreign Ministry spokesman, Andy David, dismissed the latest al-Qaida message and its attempt to link Israel with attacks on the U.S.

"This is nothing new, he has said this before. Terrorists always look for absurd excuses for their despicable deeds," he said.

The last public message from bin Laden appears to have been on Sept. 26, when he demanded that European countries pull their troops out of Afghanistan. The order came in an audiotape that also warned of "retaliation" against nations that are allied with the United States in fighting the war.

If a spouse slept with her/his former boy/girl friend on the day of their wedding ceremony, and the innocent partner got to know about this immoral act few days after the wedding ceremony. What do you have to say?

I have a very close friend of mine. He used to be an happy man until he brought his family from Nigeria in late 2005. He and his wife were from same village in the southwestern part of Nigeria. This guy left Nigeria in 1997 to attend a graduate school here in the United States, but he was unable to bring his wife and three kids until 2005. This couple had their first child in 1995, two years before he left Nigeria. Again when he visited Nigeria in 2001, she got pregnant with twins that were delivered in early 2002. More over, she got pregnant with their fourth (and probably the last kid) kids when the husband went to Nigeria to get them in 2005, and she delivered the baby in the last quarter of 2006 in the United States.

To cut this story short, this guy tried so hard by providing everything for his woman and their kids. When his woman was back in Nigeria, they used to share happy moments together, and I cannot count the number of times I met him crying on the phone because of how much he missed this woman and their children. The woman was doing same thing, crying on the phone to express her desire to join him. He obtained Nigerian passport for his family eight times (meaning, this woman and the kids were denied the visa seven times). He also applied for schools in Canada, Malaysia, and Norway for his wife, and she & her kids were equally denied the visas to travel to those countries. My friend decided to take the case of his family to the US Capitol to meet with Senator Debbie Stabenow (the US Senator from the State of Michigan) and soliciting for her assistance in probing the US Embassy in Lagos for the consistent denial of his family the visa to join him.

Eventually, he hired a lawyer and filed a petition with the US Immigration, and the permanent visas were issued to his wife and kids in early 2005. He was so excited, and travelled to Nigeria to join them on the flight to the US. He spent over US$10,000 on their flight tickets alone. To cut the story short, that happiness was short-lived because, problem started less than six hours after they arrived at their US home. I know, you guys would like to know what caused the immediate problem. Well, before this guy travelled to Nigeria to reunite with his family on the flight to the US, he joy was beyond limit, he told his friends and neighbors that he was going for his wife and kids. So, as the family arrived here, it was the young woman that came to rejoice with this family, but the newly-arrived wife started accusing his husband for sleeping with his neighbors including the female visitor who was still standing. Anyway, since their arrival, there has been no peace. Police has gone to their home at least three times. She was calling the cops trying to get her husband arrested. At a point, she told the police that her husband raped her, police never listened. When the husband requested the police to conduct medical examination, then the woman changed her story, saying he wanted to rape me, and the police asked for evidence but she could not provided one. At a different time, she told the police that her husband was so abusive to the children, the police examined the kids and never saw any traces of abuse on the kids, and the kids vehemently denied any abuse on the part of their father.

At another point, she called in the cops and when they arrived, she knelt down before them (thinking she was still in Nigeria) begging the cops to arrest this man. In all the cases, the police never made an arrest, rather, they wanted to subject the woman to mental evaluation. Their nigerian pastor that was trying to bring peace to their home, this woman started accusing him of coming to her house whenever he feels hungry for food. I have tried, as a friend, but this woman, that I used to give dollars to when she was in Nigeria has suddenly turned against me. She always curse her mother inlaw and the rest of her husband's family. 

To this end, I need you to tell me, if you happen to be in this friend of mine's shoe, what would you do? He is seeking for my advise, but I dont know what to tell him, so guys, how would you advise him?

For a relationship to be successful, such must possess the following: mutual trust and respect for one another; absolute love and care; admiration and understanding; and unshaken loyalty and devotion. More so, love is kind and gentle, so they must also be very kind and gentle to one another. Only engage each other in a meaningful and constructive criticisms and discussion, and avoid any discussion that could tear their relationship apart. Avoid character assasination, and do not criticise your partner in such a dehumanized way that you would not want to be criticised. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Above all, they must know, love, and serve God, and invite Him to be the bedrock of their relationship.