one thing i want the wife to know is that she will old one day and become grandma, and she should ask herself a question, will she stop seeing , praying, caring, loving for her child she carry for many months in her womb, carry for yrs on her back, praying for to see a good wife etc? can u do that, i love my mother, i will do anything for her when she is still living, my mama feed me and cares for me stiill i will get marry. i will love my wife and my children and love my mother, cos my mother is getting old all the time and becoming younger everyday, becoming kid, i will focus on her, i will marry cos i want my wife to reduce my pain and she must have ability to do that and not to hard to it. parents will never born their children. and there are in best position to guild u cos they  ave the experience already.