I adse you to stick to only one lady you are dating. Go and settle the marriage rite and marry your wife as soon as God can help you now before you run into trouble of mistake in life. All they were saying was in the past , not nowerdays. Iam an Eggon tribe from Nasarawa State Nigeria married my wife from mbaise Imo State Nigeria and she is Adanne ie the first daughter and her brother is a catholic Priest (Rev Fr.) yet they all accepted me and iam very close to my In-Laws. please do not listen to your friends rather listen to your lady tell your pastor or priest to pray with you then go ahead and marry , God will help you in Jesus name, amen. J. J. Oscar