I'm in an interracial relationship as you can see from my pictures. I love him with all of my heart and we plan on getting married soon. But I told him from the very beginning I would rather him end the relationshp than cheat on me. I also said if I found out he cheated on me I would probably end it, but I love him just like you love your husband I don't know if I would. There are no laid down rules as how you're supposed to treat a man. I'm sure that you do everything right. My ex boyfriend was also Nigerian and would also do some of the other things on the list and to this day, I don't know if he cheated on me or not. I never looked through my ex's phone or anything before, but one day I had a feeling that I should and I saw that he took a girls number down. When I confronted him, he told me she wouldn't leave him alone. But that wasn't why we ended it. Because of my bad relationship I had a lot of insecurities and would say things sometimes which my current fiance would not understand. He made me see that I had no need to. I don't go through his phone or e-mails because I trust him blind, just as you did. But I know his passwords and everything, because he wants me to feel that I can trust him. He also has mine because I would NEVER cheat on him. I'd rather end the relationship mutually, but I don't think that's ever going to happen. I'm not saying you should go through your husbands phone or facebook or whatever, but if you have had doubts for so long then you might need to. Thinking like a Nigerian woman has nothing to do with getting to know your husband. Also, don't chase him as much, when you get into bed and you want a cuddle or whatever, don't give him one. I know it's hard. But do it for a few nights he should come after you. Also when he does something to make you angry, you should tell him straight away in a calm manner, and not beat around the bush. If he starts shouting and doesn't apologise or at least acknowledge what he's done. Then walk away from the situation and go back to him after a while. Erm, I think that is all. I hope all this helps, anything else, just ask. Erm, I'm sorry for the very very long reply. Take care.