this is simply a case of eating a cake and still wanting to have it in your hand. the bobo wants the best of both worlds but I bet his world would crumble soon if he doesn't retrace his steps.
it only shows the woman is responsible enough to protect herself from harm.She need not apologise to anyone nor be embarassed by it. Anyway, abstinence from sex is the best except you r married.
You have to pray about it cos I think you r confused about who'd have a better character. If not, you might be moving from frying pan to the fire, whichever way you look at it.