Sometimes, we fall in love not necessarily because we need to be loved but due to the fact that we have unmet needs. This is one fact which many people tend to disagree. I guess this is because they really don’t know how the falling in love process works neither do they know how it looks like. Research shows that people fall in love in order to compensate for their unmet needs coupled with their criteria qualification (see Does unconditional love exist?).

In my book How to make someone fall in love with you, I explained how love compensation happens to be one of the reasons why people fall in love and it can be used to make someone fall in love with you in few days.

Examples of falling in love to compensate

Below are some of the instances that someone might fall in love just to compensate.

    Lack of insecurity of the future: This one factor is sufficient as to why some people fall in love even without aware of this fact. For example, a girl who is uncertain about her future marital statue might hurry to get involve in a relationship even without knowing what’s pushing her in order to secure her chances in future.
    Financial constrains: This fact is very common as many of you know it better. If you want to know the effectiveness of money, take money away from this world and see if you’ll be able to count the number of relationship that are going to experience down time. This is because, they’re certain group of people who aren’t impressed of your personality but what you possess. These packs would never find you interesting if you don’t possess this criterion.
    Sex and compensating: let’s say a guy got married and became actively involved in segxwally pleasures and his wife starts withdrawing, he might jump to another relationship in order to compensate for what he couldn’t get enough of it.
    Internal weaknesses and falling in love: In one of my articles Why do we find some people attractive?, I said that we tend to find others attractive when they possess what we’re lacking. That’s why if you lacked self-confidence, you’ll likely find someone possessing it attractive. Same thing happens if you’re a blonde and doesn’t appreciate your hair color, you’ll hardly find someone appealing if he’s a blonde.
    The quest to meet up: There’s a proverb that “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are” and that’s true. Let’s a guy grew up with friends who usually dated university girls. To certain extent he’d be also attracted to any girl if she’s in university. Sometimes he might not even care about his true feelings for her highly due to the fact that he’s just trying to behave as his friends.

How to fall in love based on true love

Falling in love based on genuine love isn’t something difficult nor something totally impossible. Before considering someone as a potential partner, try to spot out the main reasons for falling in love.

Is it because of his popularity? Is it because of your financial difficulties? Are you trying to make comparison? Are you influenced by a third party?

If non of the above describes you, then you’re in love not because of any other thing but because he/she deserved your love.

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Last week I managed to ask some few ladies and some gentle men what they believe was unconditional love. At the beginning, I was somehow impressed with some of the points they raised about the topic but to certain extent, their definitions were out of track and most of them end up defining true meaning of conditional love.

Unconditional love is genuine love. Unconditional love is that situation whereby you love someone regardless of what he possesses but based on who he is as a human being. A good example of this is that; if you love someone not because of his car, wealth, assets, popularity, therefore your love is unconditional. But do people fall in love this way? Does unconditional love exist in our world today?

Most of the times people tend to define their love as unconditional whereas is the reverse. To me, they don’t really carry the blames since most of them are just ignorant of it.

Most of the times, people fall in love with others based on physical and emotional needs and unconscious of this, they tend to attribute it to true love.

Unconditional love and conditional love

A girl who is suffering from law self-confidence might find someone possessing solid self-confidence attractive and although she might be unaware of this fact, deep down she’s in love, right? Is this the definition of unconditional love? What if there was this other guy who has all the qualities as the first guy but lacks confidence, would she still have fallen for him that much?

A good definition of this is the human growth process. A child who was usually turned down by other girls might live up with the false impression as a failure to girls, right? When the child grows up, he’ll likely to fall in love with the first girl (in order to achieve some reliefs), right? At this moment, he’ll do everything to keep up with this relationship (not to look like a failure). But from a psychological point of view, this isn’t unconditional love because he’s indirectly compensating for his unmet needs suffered in the past.

All my life, I’ve never managed to find anyone possessing love unconditionally for someone. Most of the ones I spotted, I ended up being disappointed. I’m usually moved at the beginning but later on, I’ll discover that, it was based on a certain factor.

Does unconditional love exist?

Psychologists believe that there’s no such thing as unconditional love. Some people have managed to resist this argument but most of their theories and examples were based on the love existing between a mother and her child and vice versa and then attribute it to unconditional love.
These people only managed to raise the topic but never tried to nail it hard. For example, they say that a mother loves her child and does everything to ensure his survival while on the other hand, the child sees and develop love unconditionally for his mother.

Based on a psychological point, the mother loves her child because she brought fort the child and owes him the responsibility for his success while the child loves the mother because he needs the mother to Bosom feed, take care and provide him warmth.

All this boils down to the fact that if you have no emotional needs or unmet needs, you’ll certainly not fall in love and if you fall in love, you have unmet needs, and unconsciously trying to solve it is conditional not unconditional love.

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Before you proceed with further reading of this article, I want you to know that this article is in no way encouraging anyone in quitting his/her job. My purpose behind this article is to raise up certain points about the nature of your job that determine whether it’s the right choice or some kind of time burner.

This is because, from most of the mails I get from the contact form, it shows that many people due to certain circumstances beyond their wish are forced to find themselves in the wrong professions. Generally, such people are never totally satisfied with what they called job. Everything about the job is just nothing but bundles of time wastage and failures here and there and this indicates something wrong at least, somewhere along the line.

Therefore, the 6 reasons mentioned below will act as some kind of reflection or mirror of your job, yourself and what you feel about it even though you were totally unconscious of certain facts.
6 reasons why you should quit your job

   Lost of social contact: Does your job schedule requires the most of your time? Does your job keep you away from your friends and other society and social activities? Do other people complain of your total absence in their lives? If the majority of your answers to these questions appear to be yes, then you are in the wrong place at the wrong time. One of the significance of the 6 reasons why you should quit your job is when the job deprives you from having time for your social activities and other family affairs. Imagine one of your friends having a birthday on Friday and you could not attend, how would he/she feels? Yes, it’s understandable you can always make an excuse for that but the question now is how long will that continue? For how long would you continue filing excuses?
   Spend much effort than paid for: One of the reasons why you should quit your job is if the services you render are not up to what you are paid for. This was one of the reasons why I quit my first job. At a certain time, I was totally conscious that I was actually investing too much of time and effort compared to what I get in return and so, it did not take me that long to quit and divert my attention to something else. If you’re paid less than what you offer, then where do the additional services you render go to? I know you don’t want to be a jackal, right? Else, you should have worked for free.
    Is your job boring? It is common to hear people say something like this “ha, this work is boring”, “am tired of this job”. It’s without doubt that such people who make such comments and continue working suffer psychologically as a result of not doing what they wanted in life. The worst part of it being that when you tend to do what you are not gifted, you tend to react poorly in the field. Most people who suffer from this actually know what am talking about.
    Wrong career choices: Do you know that as a result of wrong career choices, many people get involved in the wrong professions? What do you think makes people desperately take a certain office/job/position and not that long, they begin to complain? This is nothing far from wrong career choices and this is one of the reasons why such persons must quit since no one likes evolving on same spot and thinking they are progressing.
    Beyond your wish: In this situation, a person consciously head for a profession not by his wish but to feel accepted by parents, friends, prestigious reasons etc. If you are in such circumstances, progress will be faraway since your main focus is not the job but to see or ensure some other person’s happiness. Now, what about yourself, are you there for the job or for external forces?
    Lost of family contacts: One of the most of the 6 reasons why you should quit your job has to do with the kind of relationship you now have with the members of your family. For example, suppose that as a result of this job, you no longer have the time to spend with your children, wife/husband or that you are now rarely seen when it concerns family gatherings or meetings, therefore your definition of job is wrongly defined.

Final words on why you should quit your job

As you can see from what is mentioned above, it is no wonder why some people may have a good job yet they live all the time with complaints all over their lips. If you happened to find yourself in such cases, then you must do something about it.

I am in no way saying you should quit your job but what I want you to know here is that you can still find a way to improve on your job without necessarily having to quit especially if it’s your only financial source of income.

For example, if the nature of your family highly depends on the job, then it would be unwise to do such a thing but on the other hand, if you find an alternative, then switch to what you like most because that is where your promotion or credit will come. This is because when you like and vest in something, in return, you tend to excel better in it.


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What is love addiction? Love addiction is the process by which someone relies on his/her relationship/partner in order to meet up with their needs. Love addiction is also when one partner tends to consider the other as part and parcel of their lives. Love addiction is also the process where one partner can’t do without the other.

At least now we know what love addiction is but the question is; what really causes love addiction? How does it begin? Is there any form of consequence?

These are some of the questions I’m going to be talking in this article today.

What causes love addiction? Low self-confidence

I begin with low self-confidence because it’s in the top of the list for love addiction. The inability for someone to cultivate solid self-confidence equally leads to love addiction in matters of relationship. How does it work? It’s very simple! When a partner is suffering from low self-confidence, it destroys his/her will power for independence; so he/she depends on the relationship/partner for strength and survival.

Let’s say you’re living with a person because you believe he/she is the only match for you, with this impression in mind, you’re likely to fall into any circumstances manipulated by them. But what if you had the courage to turn down what you never liked? What if you knew they’re dozens of potential partners out there who could love and show you what real love is? But the gap between you and the will power is low self-confidence which equally leads to love addiction.

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Have you ever wondered why some men are not eager to get married? Have you ever come across someone who has all what it takes, but not willing to settle down with a partner? Have you ever wondered why some men decide to be running after many girls at once?

Whenever you come across someone with any of this kind of trait, know that they’re many things that influence that behavior which am going to explain in this article.

For example, if you’re with someone whom you believe is resourceful and able to take care of a family but at the same time does not want to, then you have to know that either they have a reason for escaping away from it or something is hindering them.

8 reasons why men are not eager to get married

Before I give you some of the major reasons behind men’s actions towards married, I also want you know that these reasons apply to majority of men but not all because some men naturally don’t abide to the idea of marriage especially settling down at an early age.

   1. They can get sex without marriage: One major point, which hinders some men, is the ability to know that they can have sex without marriage. This concept often makes them think less of marriage. When it comes to this point, you will realized that women will be the one eager to get married before sex while if the man needs sex, he just get another girl, done and dupe her just like that and this makes them think less of marriage.

   2. The benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying: A man may be
reluctant to think of marriage when he thinks he can ask for a female friend to come live with him. In most cases the girl just accepts believing that it’s a way to express her love to the guy. Nothing is wrong with that but the problem now is that, the guy gets all the benefit of marriage while unmarried. You will even see that in some instances, they have a child without legally married. It’s true, it happens all the time.

   3. They want to avoid divorce and financial risk: Some men are afraid of the ideal of getting married due to the obstacles that come later in it, probably because they saw an example from their parents or others and not want to fall another victim in this regard. Also the inability to get a stable source of income makes others to think less of marriage.

   4. They expect to get older before having children: This has to do mostly with young men. They expect to enjoy the benefit of youth and the good things that life offers after graduation before settling down for marriage. That is why if you decide to do a little research on this point, you will discover that the majority of young men are not eager to bear children. They believe there is no rush in it in the sense that they can still settle and get children at old age.

   5. They fear of changes and compromise: Most of the time you will realize that a man just wants a wife probably to look good, provide great sex, join in his day-to-day recreational activities and tell him he is wonderful. On the other hand women’s requirements are not very like that. They need to feel loved. They want a great conversationalist, a man who is funny, a good father for their children, someone who is attractive, a good segxwal partner, a man who is ambitiously successful and God fearing. In reality, most men are simply not that. For the majority of them to do this, a lot of changes will be required which some men are not willing to.

   6. Waiting for a perfect match: This is another reason why you may see someone with all what it takes to get married but on the other hand he is not willing to. This point makes sense to me to a certain extend. For example, a man can expect to find a soul mate before he can get married. During this process, no woman other than his criteria match will make him married until he sees one. In my book How to make someone fall in love with you, I explained how the falling in love process takes place in the subconscious mind and how a person can program someone’s mind to appear as a rightful match for him.

   7. Further education: The ability to acquire further knowledge hinders some men as well as women. They believed that in order for them to concentrate with studies, they don’t want to be disturb by family affairs or bearing the responsibility of children while in school.

   8. They faced few social pressures to marry: Concerning the issue of getting married, women are more eager than men probably because they’re faced with much pressure from parents, family members, friends etc. than men. If a girl’s friend gets married, she automatically wants to get married as well. I don’t know why, maybe it has to do with eternal pressures or comparison. But with the case of men, they take it in a gradual process taking their time.

As you can see from the reasons above, a man may decide to seek more time before thinking of married due to many good and bad things happening within and around him, right? Prior to the 8 reasons why men are not eager to get married mentioned above, they are other minor factors which still hinder some men like the inability to finance a legitimate marriage, the hope to first have a self-apartment , wanting to build a house, not willing to marry a woman who already has a child etc.

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Have you ever seen someone in a relationship and just know he’s not going to make it? I’ve been seeing that since childhood.  It’s but normal to see people moving on and on from one side of the angle to another with the aim of meeting a rightful match someday.

Most of the situations I’ve examined, people keep switching not because of their desires but highly due to wrong choices. When I see someone behaving in this pattern (switching partners), it wouldn’t take that long before I see something wrong.

Many times, people feel the need to have a relationship without any focused plan in mind but based on the present conditioning. For example, if a person feels that he’s lonely probably due to absence of friends or closed associates, the tendency that he’d be prompted to dive into a relationship is high; thinking it to be true love. Looking at it from a direct perspective, it isn’t love. He just needed a companion and that’s why the relationship soon wares off when he returns to his previous state of mind/funkiness.

Many people unconsciously work in this track. Instead of examining what they need, they just skip that thought and dive to seek out solutions in many other ways like drinking, relationship etc. If they were smart enough they would have known that what they needed isn’t love nor drink.

6 wrong reasons to start a relationship

I decided to come up with this article because of my resent research on the high increased number of breakups around the world. I discovered that the reason most couples break up highly depends on their purpose behind the relationship. The below mentioned are some of the wrong reasons to start a relationship:

1 segxwal desires: Sex addiction is when someone assumes he can’t do without sex and decides to jump into a relationship in order to satisfy this segxwal desire. I don’t see anything wrong in a young person exercising such desire, but therein lies two big problems:  The first is that when he gets into the relationship, he’d likely harass his mate segxwally.  And secondly, the whole thing never goes anywhere when sex is the foundation. This is because, when sex wares off, the relationship also terminates just like that.

2 Relationship as a means of comfort: Another wrong reason is when people hide under the cover of relationship to seek some kind of satisfaction. For example, if someone lacks the company of friends or parents probably because he traveled to another city for education, the probability that out of  loneliness), he’d find comfort in the girl next door is high, right? For the time being, everything seems perfect. The only problem with this kind of relationship is that it goes nowhere since it was built on pure loneliness and it’s certain one day he’d  go back to his comfort zone.

3 Relationship as a medium of comparison: This mostly happens with young people where one tries to compare with the other in terms of relationship and partner. This forces the other friend to persuade a better one in order to respond back. This reasoning pattern hinders relationship growth since it makes no sense to be with someone just to boast to others.

4 Relationship and external pressure:  Another aspect which can force a person to start a wrong relationship is the thought of old age.  This aspect causes many young people to panic or feel some degree of anxiety to  marry. Coupled with pressure from friends, family members and the ideal of, you’re not getting any younger force people to make up their minds. The only problem with this is that most of them hurry and make just the wrong decision.

5 The fear of never getting married: This has to do with societal conditioning, which suggests that you ought to be married with kids by the age of probably x. This thought also affects the selection process causing a sense of desperation to dive in marriage. This can contribute to choosing the wrong match.

6 The wrong match: Another reason behind this maybe when a person finds a better match for himself and later is discouraged by external forces such as friends, family members, or parents,  not recommending the partner but instead proposing someone else. I don’t know if this still happens, but it really doesn’t make sense to date someone based on somebody’s recommendation. Relationship is all about pure love, deep feelings, and commitments.  So I see no way someone can express these qualities if he doesn’t love you.

How to start a real relationship

The six wrong reasons to start a relationship stated above are the main reasons why out of 100%, only about 36% managed to survive successfully.

This therefore means that, in order to have a successful relationship, you must avoid such steps. Build your relationship based on genuine love, commitment, and free from the influence of other people. You’re the one to make that choice, so go ahead and make it.
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Based on my research, it’s certain that, majority of people who broke up early wasn’t because of the relationship itself but based on other persuades.

That's why people who dive into relationships/marriages in order to attain some unmet needs are like not to experience true love before breakup strikes.

This equally means that for you to experience what true love looks like, you must first start by putting the relationship ahead of other interests only then can love exists.

What is true love?

There are many qualities that determine what true love is or looks like but among them, one happens to be the ability for the other partner to love you for who you are.

George usually tells Marilyn that she was very beautiful and she's all he needs. When confronted, he told his parents she’s just another friend. At least it's understandable he mightn't want his parents to start judging.

But to certain degree the love existing between them isn’t really true love because Gorge also tells others like friends and neighbors she’s just someone at school. This happens not to be one of the qualities that make love. Maybe there were certain ugly things about her but if he has accepted her, he ought to accept everything.

Someone experiencing true love for you doesn't mind about your dark side, your looks, your poor background or your ugly past. He'll totally accept and be proud of you that way. He doesn’t necessarily have to hide your true identity or give false impression for social approval (see the 7 qualities of a good partner).

What is true love? A combination of good and bad

Are you sure of any perfect human being? Certainly not! Then what if you made slight mistake and it turns out to be a call for shouting, quarrels, blames, breakup, do you think this is what true love is?

True love doesn't know whose fault . Both parties admit and make apology if necessary. During most of my Coaching sessions, it usually takes me less than a day with a couple to determine the kind of love they share. This is because I know most of the qualities of true love and when interrogating, I spot out these aspects.

To cut this shot, true love knows nothing such as misunderstanding, quarrel and their elder brother; breakup. If you manage to ask any successful couple what their secret is, they’ll probably start by telling you something like “the base of our relationship all this while has been nothing but genuine love for one another…”

What is true love? What you feel not what you hear

Do you think true love can be influenced by external forces? This question might surprise you but I want you to know that during my Coaching sessions, I’ve managed to meet many divorced couples whom their being divorced were rooted by influences from people out side their marital life.

But this is quit the reverse when experiencing true love. When a good partner receives a critical comment about his partner, he/she doesn’t confront the partner in some hideous way but talk it over with them.

If someone is experiencing genuine love for you, he/she doesn’t get moved by external pressures from friends, relatives or parents. No matter what, he/she will always be there for you even in your down times.
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I know many people may be wondering where such a question arises but I want you to know that this is nothing strange to people who never managed to keep a successful marriage/love relationship.

Such people are common everywhere but don’t look further; I happened to be a victim to this. If I have to be very candid here, I will say that most of the girls I dated in my college school days were just the wrong set of people.

This therefore pushed me to the edge to an extent in life that I began to reflect on my past relationship failures and from there, I started wondering why we do fall in love with the wrong people and from there, I decided to prop into this issue and so, came up with this article after being satisfied with what I got as a result of my 30days research on the topic.

This is Why we fall in love with the wrong people sometimes

The points listed below will act as some kind of assistance in bringing out the reasons why at times, we may fall in love with someone believing we’ve met our soul mates but later on discover that the soul mate we found was just the wrong match for us.

    Relationship dependency: Relationship dependency is when a person finds his relationship as a means of solving their financial or social issues. With this impression in mind, such people are likely to fall in love with anyone having or matching such qualifications. But for the fact that someone has what we want does not necessarily guarantee that we share emotional feelings for them, right? In my book 'Getting over your ex in few days', I explained in details how relationship dependency happens to be one of the reasons why some people find it hard or never recover after the lost of their loved once. A research was carried out by a team of researchers in California after which it was evident that, as a result of relationship dependency, many people fall in love with the wrong people (their opposites) as a result of getting what they could not afford and also as a means of escaping from unwanted situations or bad memories.
    Relationship by command: Are you aware that around the world, they are people who are today in relationships as a result of external influences and not by their desires and love for their partners? Most Africans really know about this better. For examples, in Africa, at the age of even 10, the parents already decided a lifetime partner for the child even though as ignorant as the child might be. Now, the worse of it being that, as a child, he accepts without any form of resistance and later in life starts regretting since he never married his desired partner and so, it’s evidently clear that their relationship will constantly suffer from petty breakups all the time as an effect of relationship by command. The issue of relationship by command also goes beyond teenage circles. Even at the age of adulthood when we are influenced by the society, parents, friends, and relatives to marry a certain person. When it happens, the sort of marriage is not based on genuine love desires since it originated from influential factors and not true love itself.
    Social approval: Another factor why we fall in love with the wrong people is when we tend to answer to the call of social approval. For instance, Claudine had two friends and the first got married to a certain star and the second got married to a famous business guy in town. Most of the time, they constantly keep reminding Claudine of their new life styles; they keep talking of their husbands and the big times that come alongside being with their husbands. Not too long Claudine turned down the proposal Mark had made to her. They had shared this relationship for five years, but since Claudine was now influenced by her friends she now wants a famous guy and so, she no more finds Mark interesting as before. The issue here is that, she will likely fall in love with anyone appearing to be popular or famous (scammers, thieves, drug dealers are also famous) whether he is Mr. right or wrong thereby, the issue of falling in love with the wrong person is born.
    Out of age: Also the problem of aging usual forces others to fall in love with the wrong people since they are usually left with the impression that they might end up without getting married or have a child. This issue confronts both men and women but women know this better especially towards the age of menopause as they are forced to get a child no matter what and so, all they need is just a relationship and this is no wonder why the divorce courts are usually busy as a result of falling in love with the wrong people.

Final say on why we fall in love with the wrong people

There are many reasons as to why some people find themselves in the wrong relationships but what I mentioned above is not just all but the main reasons behind this act.

In order to have more clues on this topic, see the related articles below of this. I should have compiled all the reasons/factors to make them as one great article, but if I do, the majority of readers will not be pleased to read something longer than this
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Why would a man find a lady attractive while with another man is the reverse? Why do some men get attracted to physical beauty while others get attracted by other qualities? What attracts men even?

These are some of the questions women ask and sometimes men don't even know why they portray such dichotomy. This is a vast topic and answering these questions based on a personal individual's mindset won't tackle anything.

For this reason I'm going to cover this topic (what attracts men?) based on the general societal psychology of men's love criteria. So below are some of the reasons as to what attracts men to women.

What attracts men to women?

 Physical features: Although other qualities batch to define the attractive level of a woman but it shouldn't be forgotten that the key factor of almost every man's desire for a woman begins with her physical beauty. In fact research shows that 82% of relationships emerge from sight attraction and just 18% originate from other persuades.
   
 What attracts men? Societal demands: Just as high quality goods are in great demands, if a man finds that other men are scrambling after a certain woman, automatically his demand for her certainly increases even if she wasn't that beauty after all. In my book How to make someone fall in love with you, I explained how a person's attractiveness can be doubled just by appearing to be demanded by people of the opposite sex.
   
 What attracts men? Racism: Men who came from high societal backgrounds and valued this fact are highly drawn to women of equal class. Men of this nature rarely find a woman appealing if she's not his type and the reverse is true of normal people. Unless she bypasses this criterion he won't even fall in love before trying to see if she matches. That's why during my Coaching sessions, I usually explain how you can understand a person's criteria in order to match and fit better in his/her life.
   
 Complementary needs: Another factor that attracts men to women happens when he finds her presence necessary in his life. For example, if a man is suffering from financial break down, he's more likely to get attracted to a woman possessing wealth. The psychological reason behind this is that it makes him gain back some lost reputations. At least, this is just like compensating for his weakness.
 
  What attracts men? Past life experiences: A man who failed to attain a certain status in the society is more likely to remain with this emotional setback and feelings of anxiety especially among elites. In this case he's more likely to get attracted to an elite woman even without putting any emphasis on her physical beauty at all. In most cases he might not even be aware of the forces behind his choice.

Final say on what attracts men

As you can see there are just many factors that constitute and define the love map of a man as stated above but it shouldn't be forgotten that physical beauty plays a great role especially at the early stages.

So if you're a woman hoping to attract a man you have to go beyond just looks and adjust other qualities in you, even marital qualities because all these batched themselves to define your attractiveness.
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The one concept happens to be when someone completely considers his/her partner as the only perfect match for them.

While others see the one concept as someone who matches the greater percentage of their love criteria, others perceive this as a form of weakness.

This is because, many people tend to believe that the down side for the one concept is just too heavy, but looking at it from the other angle, it plays a bright role as well.

I guess this is why people who believe in the one concept tend to build love and trust for their partners. At least considering your partner as the best match helps to bond the relationship toward prosperity, right? I don't yet see anything wrong with that.

The one concept and forgetting someone

Everything about the one concept is nothing but good except when experiencing the other coin of relationship, that's when the one concept tends to attract emotional pains.

Joe finally convinced Melisa into a relationship and she saw nothing awkward about Joe and so considered him as the only one and soul mate. One summer evening, Joe's parents disapproved of the relationship and few weeks later, Joe finally decided to end the whole thing and sent a cut-off mail to Melissa.

It didn't take that long before Joe got over her while on the other hand she's still lamenting. The obvious question is; why is she unable to forget Joe while Joe already get over her?

If you take a deep watch you'll see that she considered Joe as the one while Joe loved her but never saw her as the only match and so he recovered as soon as he knew the whole thing is off.

Yes, it's correct to love your partner as much as you can but considering him/her as the perfect match/the one is where the problem lies especially if one partner doesn't see it this way. In my book, I explained how the one concept starts and how it can be used to forget someone in just few days.

As humans we have certain love criteria that determine if we're going to love Mr/Mrs X (see Reasons for falling in love). If someone falls in love with you and you do same doesn't necessarily guarantee the fact that someone can't love you more. When you consider someone as the one, you tend to miss in other areas of your life.

For example, if some kind of breakup happens, you'll likely to remain broken due to the fact that the one concept is rooted down in your mind; that he was the only one who can show you love. This thought destroys every hope of attracting potential partner into your life again and makes the recovery process almost impossible.
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A research was carried out after which it proofs that in every 100% of marriages, only about 28% of the spouses stick to each other which equally means that about 72% of spouses cheat on their partners immediately or after marriage.

The obvious question is that, do you think it’s anyone’s self-desire to cheat? Another question of this is, if it’s nobody wish for it, then, where did the desire came from or can somebody love you and then later cheat on you? These are some of the questions I will be addressing in this article (5 reasons why spouses cheat on each other) today.

This is one of the most important marital issues that really has to be addressed properly since it’s like the percentage of why spouses cheat on each other is fast growing up. Therefore, in this article, I intend to lay out some of the main causes for it, right? But there is one thing I have to be certain about which is the fact that I can’t make a mockery of myself by emphasizing that the points I will mention are the total causes for cheating, else, except you will be ready to read something forty times of this article.

5 reasons why spouses cheat on each other

 1   Inadequate segxwal satisfaction: This is the most important of all the reasons in the sense that if you investigate critically as to why spouses cheat on each other, you will discover that, one way or another, it has to do with segxwal desires. This therefore means that, if one of the spouses’ main focuses behind the marriage was to satisfy this need, then without enough of it will certainly lead to cheating so as to satisfy this segxwal urge.

   2 Others were born under the star: If a child who grows up socially with the opposite sex, the probability that this will continue in the nearest future is very high. For example, suppose a man who usually engaged in many forms of relationship with the opposite sex decides to get married and bear children, what do you think will be the outcome of his marital status? The probability that he will at least return to his old life style is very high thereby cheating on the other partner. It’s no wonder why all the programs for family planning we have around emphasize on courtship before marriage. At least, this gives you the time to spot out certain negative and positive aspects of your spouse before marriage.

    3 Mist of wrong company: Another reason why spouses cheat on each other is when he/she interacts with the wrong people. This is why it’s very normal for a spouse to be faithful and later develops certain strange criteria in their marriage. George was a faithful guy and he makes sure that he does everything humanly possible to secure his relationship with his girlfriend, Marylyn. They almost shared the good and bad moments together until George met Justlain who could not take from him and for Gorge to keep up with the friendship, he had to answer to Justlain’s ways. Not that long, George was as well a drunkard, chaser, and gambler just like his friend. Most of their parties were such that Marylyn could not attend and for George not to go contrary, he had to start hiring street girl. Now, the obvious question is that, what if George had not known Justlain or anyone such as Justlain, would he had cheated? Research also proofs that among the reasons as to why spouses cheat, wrong company highly contribute.

  4 Sudden change of attitudes: Another reason why spouses cheat on each other may be as a result of sudden change of characters. For example, a guy might find a certain girl attractive probably because she matches his love map and later on in the matrimonial home, he sees but the reverse of whom he thought was a soul mate and at this point, it’s totally certain he is disappointed, right? This is the point he starts cheating in order to get a replacement or someone who at least can provide what his spouse could not or what he fails to find in his partner.

   5 Change of circumstances: In this situation, a spouse cheats when he/she fails to meet up with the high
expectation when the courtship was favorable and in most of this cases, it happens most with females. At first, Joe usually supplied everything to Prisca and even when they got married, the going was still smooth until when life turns the other way round for Joe as it was now difficult to make it up to Prisca. With the sort of treatment she got from Joe, it was now really hard to bear the situation and so, she starts engaging in secret relationships behind Joe’s knowledge. As you can see, as a result of change of circumstances, some spouses might cheat on their partners in order to satisfy their unmet needs but remember that a good spouse will always be there for you in times of pains.

Final say as to why spouses cheat on each other

As I mentioned above, there are many reasons why after expressing heart fell love to a partner, he/she tends to dupe you without any meaningful background. But I usually tell my students that, everything happens with a purpose. Without purpose nothing will exist.

The main reason behind cheating in all most all cases has to do with at least one, if not two or more of the points listed above. So whenever you come across any sign of cheating, try to see if you can identify out some of this aspects.

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hehehehe no be his fault.. he dey always copy and paste so he no dey read dem na im make him no sabi say his bad news don too much

Although there are many signs to be seen in cheaters still if care is not taken you might confuse them for love. Most at times, the majority of cheaters are consciously unaware of their reasons behind cheating, but the minorities of them don’t know about this. See complete details here http://www.xknowhow.com/relationships_and_breakups/signs_of_cheating_in_relationship.html

Knowing if someone is in love with you is neither magical science nor something beyond us. It’s nothing more than examining the person’s previous ways and observing his present behavior while with you. And also when your name is called how he behaves. Does he shake? Does he turn when your name is called? Does he like calling you by your name? Those are some of the signs someone who is in love with you unconsciously...See complete details here http://www.edohow.com/love_and_relationships/signs_to_show_that_someone_loves_you.html

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