young lady on one side i blame you and on the other side i blame the guy, for you i know is hard you never no hw to tell him so that he will understand, but u should have tell him first. but   for that guy he's very stupid even if you told him late that should not make leave just like that after eaten your money and every thing well, my advise is that if you can claim that car go ahead and collect ur car but if he's ready to forgive and forget just leave him and you people should go ahead with the marriage.