Real guys still exist over and over but bcos yours is yet to come makes it look as if the real guys don't exist, yours is on the way soonest. What I believe in relationship is that both the male and the female should understand what its take for a relationship to survive bcos some ladies are looking for the good part only also the guys and we should not forget that we both have good and bad, every male has its good and bad also the female, we should also understand the strenght and weakness of both party, finally pray to God to provide the best for you because the man that is  good for 1 might not be good for 2 ......etc

There is no singular approach to this topic so you need to understand the kind of person you are dealing with, the approach used for 1 might be totally useless for 2 ......etc

It is good you know the"dos and don'ts" of the tribe and see if you can cope with the dos and don'ts before you decide on which one suit you most.

The thinking of our people should be addressed, I mean, we should change our orientation towards live. For being a single mother should not be seen from the angle of waywardness but from the larger angle. The man in question will be seen and claim to be  innocent, saint as if the lady pick up the pregnance on the street and we all know it from adam that if a lady call a guy and the guy did not turn up the pregnance will not come to place but the man will be the initiator,organizer of the game, when the result comes up he will be the 1st to deny the event, if this same person should see the girl with another man another problem, he will scream on top of his voice. We should learn to accept the result of what we do not just extending blames to others ,a man that sleep (segxwal intercourse) with an able lady(girl) without any form of protection should be expecting result and the result is pregnance so a man that is not expecting pregnance should think twice berofe his action and claiming to be saint ,ignorance of what we do. By the time, the lady survived the problem and the child becomes somebody accepted in the society, the runaway father will come back and started pleading and saying it's devil, it's not his wish and who will pay the price for  his long absent, the single mother will pay it all , we should not forget , the ladies have their problem but we men should try to understand the result from the beginning so as to minimise the problem in our society, a single mother out of fustration can decide to kill the child, sell the child since the society did not accept her of being a single mother and the man who impregnant her will go ahead to do what he likes doing so my dear people single no be sin, no be sickness, some will say na mistake, some will say na act of God let us learn to correct the anomally and stop the stigmatization.