I find it very hard to believe stories here without the original source.

That is where our money goes.....

A survey of some 3,000 individuals has found that one in five adults claim to be "in love with someone other than their partner". This "other" is usually a friend or work colleague. "Even in a happy relationship," a spokesman for the polling firm told yesterday's Daily Mail, "it seems to be possible to have a wandering eye or even crave affection from another person."

So far, so unsurprising, at least to me. The human brain is geared up to imagine that which is not – "Would I be happier with her as my lover?" – and to make comparisons – "Would he be easier to live with than my current partner?" We're also more likely to imagine what life might be like with people we encounter in our everyday life – friends and colleagues – than with people we've never actually met.

However the report goes on to claim that one in 25 people say they have been in love with someone else for more than five years and one in 50 say they have loved another for as long as they could remember. Furthermore, 29% of men and 19% of women say they plan to leave their partner.

Now I don't know about you, but I find those latter statistics both surprising and incredibly disheartening. It's so sad to think that at least one in five of us feels that our current situation is so unsatisfying that we're planning to leave it, and that we've believed for some time that there's someone better "out there". However, rather than adding to the general dissatisfaction that's apparently rampant, I'd like to put these findings into some sort of context.

It's generally accepted in psychological circles that more people in the western world today are feeling unhappy and dissatisfied, particularly with regard to their relationships. We know, for example, that divorce rates are rising, especially among the over-60s, and that many younger people – particularly men in their 30s – report startlingly high rates of loneliness and unhappiness. What could lie behind this unhappiness?

There are, I believe, three reasons why dissatisfaction is so rife today. The first – and possibly the most critical – is our misunderstanding about what it means to be "in love". When asked, I suspect most people would describe being in love as feeling strongly attracted to someone else, as considering another person to be overwhelmingly desirable. When people are in love, we imagine that they're constantly preoccupied with thoughts of their beloved, and that they want nothing more than to be with that person.

Actually, however, these feelings don't describe love at all. They describe lust. Lust is an initial physical attraction to another person. It's overwhelmingly powerful and it's driven by pheromones – although we're not generally aware of that. When we're madly attracted to someone else, it's because we sense (unconsciously) that they'd make an excellent genetic match, someone who would allow us to produce the strongest and healthiest offspring. Lust is all about the survival of our DNA. It's not about long-term compatibility, about "happily ever after".

Love, on the other hand, isn't an immediate feeling. It grows over time. Love is more akin to a friendship than to a coupling. To paraphrase the psychiatrist M Scott Peck, love is the desire to extend yourself – at whatever personal cost – for the purpose of nurturing the growth and furthering the dreams of another individual. Love is effortful; it involves personal sacrifice, and it grows slowly. Love is not about "me" – what I can have? – it's about "you"—what can I do to make your life richer? When we separate "love" from "lust" in this way, it's less distressing to note that one in five people desire someone other than their partner. They're simply confusing lust with love.

Fair enough, you might say. But what about the fact that the respondents claim to have had these feelings for many years? Didn't I just say that lustful feelings don't last long? They don't if put to the test. But people imagine that lustful feelings can by themselves hold a relationship together for ever. And this brings us to the second reason why so many people are feeling dissatisfied in today's society. We find itdifficult to differentiate between what we have and what we imagine we could have. That's not surprising. We're constantly bombarded with images of "perfect" (air-brushed) bodies, and stories of "idyllic" (edited) relationships which, as soon as they're no longer idyllic, can easily be traded in for another idyllic relationship. These images and stories, together with the advertising mantra that "you deserve better", has led many to believe that "better" is outside of us, somewhere, if only we can find it.

Finally, the third reason why so many of us are feeling dissatisfied is that we're constantly reminded of the myriad options from which we can theoretically choose. We're repeatedly told that "there's a whole world out there, just waiting for you", and that if your current relationship isn't working, you simply need to leave it, because there will be plenty of others to choose from. Instead of making us feel rich, this suggestion of infinite choice leaves us feeling uncertain when we finally do choose a partner. Instead of setting to work to bring that relationship alive, we may start to wonder if we really have chosen the "right" one. Maybe we should search a bit more, for a bit longer? The doubt stops us from truly committing.

These three reasons may help explain the depressing findings of this survey. But the therapist in me refuses to leave it there. I can't help but wonder why so many people continue to live their lives feeling so unfulfilled, when there's an alternative, a way to feel more content.

A better way to live, I believe, is to stop searching outside of the self for someone who can "make" you happy. Happiness, satisfaction, contentment – call it what you will – isn't something you'll find "out there". Instead, it's something that you'll create when you decide to work with what you already have. Of course, there will be circumstances in which you will have tried everything you can think of, and you've done so repeatedly, and still things aren't working out. But in the vast majority of cases, a change of attitude is all that would be necessary to alleviate the great weight of dissatisfaction so many of us feel. The key to contentment has nothing to do with what you do or don't have. It's all about what you decide to do with what is already yours.

Can he give a fake address? and they are demanding #500,000...wat if the money he has is not up to#50,000....won't d check bounce back? rubbish!

It takes two to tango!

d wife slept with a white dude.......if m lying let dem go and have a DNA test done.

I prefer not to comment on this subjest as your all­ showing your true colours and should listen to­ yourselves.

When the love of your life leaves you feel like your life has been shattered and that your heart has been shredded into pieces.

We have all been there. Whether it was a short relationship or the break up of a long term marriage the pain is still there. That ultimate grief you feel when you have lost someone you thought you would be with forever.

With every break up there is someone who is devestated whilst the other just seems to move without a second thought. This post is all about break up quotes and how they can help you to get over a break up or even get your ex back!



Break Up Quotes - Easing the Pain
You may feel excrutiating pain now but it won't be there forever. You need to learn to read and then deal with your feelings as they come and eventually you will on the path to letting go. Read a few of these break up quotes that show you that in the end you will be the one who comes out best. You are strong and you can deal with any situation.

(1)Sometimes we tend to be in despair
when the person we love leaves us,
but the truth is, it's not our loss,
but theirs, for they left the only person
who wouldn't give up on them.4 points

 
(2)Breaking up is not a stupid thing;
instead it makes you a better person
and realize your mistakes.3 points


(3)Letting go of someone dear to you is hard,
but holding on to someone
who doesn't even feel
the same is much harder.
Giving up doesn't mean you are weak!
It only means that
you are strong enough to let go!2 points


(4)I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was.1 point


(5)If you can't save the relationship,
at least save your pride.0 points


(6)Watching you walk out of my life hasn't made me
bitter or cynical about love, but rather,
it has shown me that if I wanted so badly to be with the wrong person,
how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along.0 points


(7)Some people think that it's holding on
that makes one strong;
sometimes it's letting go.0 points


(8)You have to forgive to forget,
and forget, to feel again.0 points


(9)I'm going to smile and make you think Im happy, Im going to laugh, so you dont see me cry, Im going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me - Im going to smile.0 points


(10)If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it! :'(

Juju gospel music sensation, Yinka Ayefele was a year older in March. At the event which was full of candour, glamour and razzmatazz, Showbiz engaged him on many critical issues about his life and music. He exclusively revealed his covenant with God. "My life undoubtedly is a testimony of the goodness of God and this is why songs of praises are not too far from my mouth.

   
'My secret has been God Almighty that is why I praise Him always. Praise brings the fullness of God into any place, any situation and any circumstance. Praise opens the door to miracles and in particular, it brings divine intervention among others."

Yinka Ayefele who went down memory lane On his challenging moments in life, since that fateful day, December 12, 1997 when he was involved in an automobile accident with his Volkswagen Beetle car, maintained that, he has since made a covenant with God to dedicate everyday of his life to give thanks to God, and serve humanity till eternity. "God is good and I'll continue to praise Him."

Giving a sequential account of how his albums have come one after the other with the event that characterized their releases, Ayefele said: "We have gone beyond those memorable days when Bitter Experience (1997) pulled down the face of laughter and that brought Joyous laughter (1998 ) which led to a tale of Sweet Experience (1999) and this has also made a link of Something Else (2000).

Ayefele said with the arrival of Divine Intervention (2001) it brought a happy gathering of Fun Fair (2002) and that has also paved way for Life After Death (2002) which was dedicated to the memory of late Gbenga Adeboye, with a vision of Aspiration (2003) to acquire wealth, comfort and fitness.

This in essence brought Fulfillment (2004) and New Dawn (2005) and this by the grace of God has thrown us up to the Next Level (2006), which again brought the artiste's stuff in his unique style.


Source:http://www.elifeonline.net/elife14-November-December/gospomusic-ayefele.htm

Shut da f***up and kepp your comment to ya self....(it will be highly appreciated)

lol....Dude u neva sleep?

That's your own perception

Tbh its me and my computer.....Am not going to sleep....For dis week way i they naija,MAGA MUST PAY!

I will go in a bit!

I thought u wanted to go and sleep..c'mon man!

You can't cheat nature.....go and sleep.

Its not all coz of money.....Money cant buy love so it happens the other way round too!

GoOgL3 It.