Why not just divorce each other rather than going physical at all times.

Falae didn't want to talk with all his mouth! The fact is, the northerners are pushing their warriors masquerading as herdsmen to south not only as herdsmen but as okada riders and gatemen to monitor people's ways of life and be prepared for the take over of the south when the need arises. Unfortunately, the southerners pretend there is no danger at their backyards.