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But all i can give u...is my prayers for u to accomplish all that!

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first, God bless u all!!!
I really need your help to win a contest for the cover of a magazine

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I would really appreciate! Thank u so much in advance!! The contest will finish on 15 febr
Help me win!

Stay blessed!!!

same here ) lol.
but i was tryin to explain maybe her behaviour

i don`t pick his calls...unless he tells me to.

i think the wife shouldn`t trust 100% any of them.
she should listen to his version and her version as well.

unfortunately... in this case, she might loose her best friend. no matter who`s fault was and who started it, her best friend represents a temptation for her husband that should be avoided for sure.

one of the many things i understood from this forum...is that men...are men.
if u love your husband, forgive! and stick with him!
in the end...he`s the one u gonna spend ur live with..not your best friend!

i totally agree with what Micheall said. (except the fact that women should love the men more lol)
but this girls has nothin for u...u`ve been tryin hard...aint easy.
u have the potential to make another girl happy, another girl that will eally deserve all your effort and that will respond u in the same way.
a relationship is about 2 people. tryin to make things worth should come from both of you.
this girl took u for granted...coz no matter what u were the one callin and doin` everythin. while she was makin her life enjoyable with someone else, thinkin that u , there, far, still remain an option...just in case!

i know its hard and painfull. u shouldn`t stop callin or gettin in contact with her imediatly coz u are too used to it. try to do it gradually, and focus your mind to someone else/try to find someone else!

wish u all the luck!!! keep your head up! what is ment to be yours...it will be!

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i don`t think i would have any problem with that. though...he never asked me.
kneelin down is just a way to show respect for the one u love. we show respect in so many other ways...why kneelin down should be a problem?
i will kneel down and kiss his hands. coz for me...its only God above him!

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its on youtube as well.lol

first...i wanna say that for sure...u can love someone , but not trusting the person.
supposing he did smth to u, u stopped trusting him..BUT the love is still there.
u can loose the trust easier than the love.

so...since i`ve been in this s@$t... i can tell u some things:
-try to make her feel that she knows everythin u r doin
-let her know if u are goin out...maybe name some friends that u goin as well
-or take her out with u...
-let her know your friends..she will feel more confident
-call her not only to tell her smth that is important..call her just to say u were wondering how is she doin and that u`ve been missing her
-SHOW her that u love her...in all ways possible
-make for her little surprises (even if its about a flower..or just a SMS in the middle of the night to tell her how much u care)
-try spend more time together
-make her feel SHE IS THE NUMBER ONE priority for u
-when u feel that she ain`t ok...but she still says it`s all good...insist and find out what`s wrong, coz for sure things in her mind are not pink.

Sometimes..we run away just to see if the one we love cares enough to follow...
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wow... u people really got me impressed.
i don`t know how much to thank u for takin your time help me.
your advices now give me a clue of what is happening!
and how to take things from now on...how to handle different situation...and most important... what expectations i should have from my man.
i guess i shouldn`t expect too much...but give everything i can! pretty hard...but not imposible!
me and my man..we talked, put things on table many times...but didn`t work. or it did...but not for long periods.
now i understand..it was me...wanting things to get better in that moment and see changes. i wasn`t patient at all.
i was creatin drama...naggin...cryin...stress him even though i noticed sometimes he felt like just...run away till i will calm down.

if he will cheat, it doesn`t mean he doesn`t respect me or love me. still painfull...but at least...i will know he is doin in (although i pray he wont) for fun...and it doesn`t mean anythin for him. i will pray God to give me strenght to endure.

Agabs...u left me speechless. Its so much wisedom in your words. and so much truth.
i will not wait for him to give me attention, i will give myself attention. this way...i won`t stress him and suffocate him. and i won`t feel bad and ignored.
the servent is stronger than the master...this is a good one. never thought like this before. so ... i should give him the impression that he is the boss...but knowin inside..that without me, he can`t manage. and me, the woman, am the base and pillar of my familly.

i thank u all from all my heart. i read and analysed every single word to wrote back to me.
My friends, u gave me some keys to unlock many doors. i wish u all knew how much it means to me and how usefull it is every single advice.

Let me tell u something...even if i felt like..ok..maybe i should do this and that...and never had the power and motivation to do it. was ending up doin in my own ways.
But now..u gave me that confidence and knowin the fact that aint smth wrong with my marriage..i will be able to relax a bit and not bein so stressed. that will help...coz calmness means a lot. i will give myself time to think on what to do...instead of thinkin what is wrong and be desperate.

I will pray more.and more and more. God won`t let us down!

I thank u all from the bottom of my heart. And there`s a big chance...one day i`ll just say loud... my naijapals helped me save my marriage!

though...whenever i feel i can collapse..i will come back to u and ask for help. I promisse i won`t write so much next time!!!!!

We both love each other...
We sat down, talked...agreed on a middle way, but sometimes is hard for us to stick with it.

i`ve been to a councelor as well. in fact...yesterday was first time. he is one of the bests around.
BUT...the problem is...we have same values that we guide our life after...
and i`ve also tried to talk with friends...ain`t workin...coz they all said... my marriage aint gonna work coz we are too different.

so...this is why i came to u... the only way is to change my mentality

thank u guys  and girls divineproject and jukkiebukwes for takin your time and reply to me.
i find ur advices very useful...especially the one..."African men are mostly polygamous in nature"
so now i understand that for african men..cheatin aint somethin so bad. and this doesn`t mean he doesn`t love u or is smth wrong with u.
it will be hard to accept..but i will do my best. coz for us..we`ve been taught smth like...if a mean cheat, he will do it again. that`s lack of love and respect. men that cheat should never marry.
he is puttin effort in makin things work as well... and yes..i think i should give him more space.and be more understanding
i really appreciate. for sure...further advices are very very welcome...

i will really appreciate. thanx a lot!

:-( no one?

I know i wrote a lot... but PLEASE, read!!!


I am sara, 22 years. I`ve been in a relationship with a 9ja boy for like..10 months
We live in Europe..but for now..different towns coz of our universities. We used to see each other every 2 weeks. Everythin was perfect!I thought he is perfect! I loved him and i still do..so much.
One day..we were still in a relationship..i found out that he cheated on me (probably not only once). I wanted to break up, but he started to cry, regret, say he is sorry...anyway..he really felt bad about it..and i said..ok, since i love him, i should forgive. we all do mistakes.
We decided after a while to get married..and we did. this summer on 17 july.
After few days...he was out in town to do some stuff and his facebook account was logged on. i said...hmm..let`s check for fun. I never before checked his phone, accounts, anything! i trusted him blind!
And i found...a lot of messages he sent to other girls..compliments, he was tryin to date them... last message i guess it stopped in the period i found out he was cheatin.
I was never gealous...but i started to go crazy when he says..he is goin clubbin or out..coz he was always tellin me aaa am goin with the boys..drink.. bla bla. (this only when skool starts...and we don`t stay together anymore). of course..we need to have fun...but later i discovered that he was like...Casanova...hookin up with girls in the club.

As i was sayin...we got married. I think i never got over the fact that he cheated on me...while he was lookin into my eyes...sayin am the woman of his dreams and he will never ever cheat on me.
I trusted him blind...but now i don`t. And is hard to move on like this. we just started our marriage...and we had a lot of problems. He didn`t cheat again i think...but i go crazy thinkin of the fact that in autumn...he will go back to his town...and maybe do same things.

He said no way, now we got married, its something different.
I know he loves me..but in the same time...he loves to have fun, drink...girls i suppose.

How can i get over it and trust him again??? How do u girls, do it??? How do u handle your man? coz the rate of divorce for interracial couples is almost...100%
but same race...they mostly succed.
SO I BEG U...teach me how to handle my man...coz i love him and i want our marriage to work.

Is it the end of the world if he cheated???
Tell me more about your mentality and how u see things...

Besides..due to our different mentality...and how we were grown...we have some other few issues.

1. for example...he has to do smth...he is going out with business. he tells me..i shouldn`t stress him with calls, or asking every hour when is he commin..he aint out for fun..so..when he will be back...he will be back.
 For him...maybe is normal. But for me...it means this is a lack of respect. how can i not know/ask when my huisband is comming home???

2. if he is browsing...and doin stuff..or workin on pc... he can do it for hours.. while he doesn`t pay so much attention to me.
me- u are ignoring me....and start a drama
him- can`t u see i am workin? is it like am watchin tv and don`t talk to u.

offfffffff....and not only.
we both know we are different...we both know we need to find a middle way...we know what we have to do and change...STILL...no matter how much we approach the middle way...we never get ON it. still a distance from it.

How do u succeed in your marriage? How do u treat your man? for me..i think i`ve done everythin in my power...i take care of him, i cook even 3 times a day, or midnight if he wants to. (me, that was the type who never cooked before). o do housework, i am smart, i love him, i am pretty, i love fashion and i always dress well...i go clubbin...after maybe bein in the kitchen whole saturday.
I am tryin to be as complex as i can. Not to let him want smth in a woman that i cannot do.

How do u girls treat your man? to always make him come after u..and only see u?
how do u react when he is pissin u off or when he does smth u don`t like...

dunno...please just tell me how to handle a 9ja boy...
teach me HOW TO THINK LIKE U.
coz if i get to think like a nigerian woman...we have more chances to succed, right???

noooo i adore my husband. he is the apple of my eye. my everythin.
he is my life and i cnt live without my life.
 i will never leave him...for nothin in the world!!!