There is so much that I will do different before committing again. My last boyfriend and I didn’t discuss a lot of our core beliefs before committing, so in the long run we had more disagreements then likenesses. I’m not so quick usually but he seemed so perfect. Not a lot of guys are as articulate about their feelings as he was and he likes to argue about politics and life, like me.  As much as we loved each other, we were just wayyyyyy different when it came to money, family, children, and spirituality - - - you know, all of the important life beliefs. We just didn’t take our time to get to know each other.  So my soul mate will like to move slowly like me and I think that’s defiantly the beginning of a successful relationship.

I duno, my popzs migrated to Europe because his was in pursuit of a specific degree but everybody migrates for personal reasons. The thing that gets me is how Africa is still considered a developing continent when it’s economic, political and social structure was emulated by the old world.  We my not agree with it but it is the foundation of African’s culture and the new world still hasn’t defined itself in that way. My momzs is also of the old world and she agrees with me. The new world is great but it still struggles with the same bullshitzz issues as it did in the 1800’s; Identity. There is a fabulous philosopher  that I took in undergrad name Dr. Robert Birt who wrote an anthology called The Quest for Community and Identity, anyway, once people here in the states decide what most people of the old world already know, which is that they're North phyukinnn American, then they'll be on their way to understanding themselves. (South African’s please stop encouraging them to believe that their phyukingggg African) Descendants are what they are, like everybody else of the Diaspora   ... My popzs, talks about the days when African's use to pretend to be British, lol. He said being African British was the thing for some Africans’ like that made them something; it was a hysterical, hahahaha    Like in America, man you can pretend to be just about anything, it’s really the milting pot here.  America will get there culturally after earth, air, fire and water do there thing here.  Until then, stop kidding yourself, everybody peepzs phony, fake, wanna be asszzzzzzz migrants on the dollar bill mission; trust that bullshitzz will never not be bullshittzz -- -please believe!

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phyukingA man ...WOW LOMFL

Marry whoever you want but people who date other ethnicities because they do not like their own race are so obviously self loathing; funny as hell to watch.

I'm sorry  ..Listen, not only do you have the memories of your parents but I believe that once you are connected in-love with someone than you always are. Pray. Peace & Blessing brother.

I live in the United States and it's the same problem here. Instead of the government calling it a civil drug war they say, “the war on drugs.” You know how it is, when you have money then you never feel it. You can move away from terrorist neighborhoods. I'm not sure what the solution is, honestly. If your interested, check out a few autobiographies of US drug dealers like, The Game: The Rise and Transformation of a Harlem Hustler by Azie Faison and Mr. Untouchable: The Rise and Fall, and Resurrection of Heroin's Teflon Don by Leroy Barnes  - Sickness, trust me.

They're up to something.

Wow, that's pretty crazy. Some chicks will do anything for money, attention or to keep a guy around.

I agree with SexyJuly   ..NEXT that dude fast.
 

" You make me wanna leave the one I'm with and start a new relationship with you " -  Usher

they both die  ..I bring them back and kill them again.

Yeah, it sucks but sometimes. But she'll see, what goes around comes around.

I say take it slow with the ex. I mean,  he did stop talking to you for awhile. get to know him again.

There are 7 deadly sins so as long as you're not greedy, then you're GOOD.

LOVE, HIV test and then the rhythm method

No ...100% from the earth.  Besides like life, too much of anything is bad for you.  ****(blowing smoke as we speak)

You so full of it, LOL. If you love the other girl more then just be with her and stop playing games. Just be honest with both girls and say that you are not interested in a traditional relationship because you want to date. It's not like they wouldn't date you, some girlz really dig all the booty drama, lol.

Thanks Onchedu and everyone  ...I'll give it a shot. I'm not shy but  ...I duno, I'm not crazy experienced either. So I'll be gentle with my words.

Just tell her that you thinks she's a beautiful girl ( BLA BLA BLA ) and then say, that you just don't feel the say way she does. Say that it's a chemistry thing.  It's always hard to let somebody down the first time.